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Those gadgets are seriously anti-social. You know the ones I mean...like a little laptop that you can play games on and read books and suchlike.

Reuben has one.

Now, it does mean he isn't always 'borrowing' my laptop but at least I could more or less ration the time he spent on that...this feckin' little thingy belongs to him so I can hardly lean over and snatch it away, however tempting it might be. And believe you me it's awful hard to resist the impulse to hide it when he goes to the loo or give it to the kittens to play with...or simply throw it out of the window.

At least Teresa shouts at him if it makes 'pingy' noises...

Anyway, Himself managed to drag him down the street this morning to bring the donkeys home...Reuben brought Jack who is easy-peasy and Himself brought Neddy who can't walk very well, but still managed to get home in a relatively short time...now they're safely ensconced in the big barn for the winter months...they go out into our little field on fine days of course.

There's a Chicken casserole in the oven for supper...I'll have pasta and tuna.

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Jessy119 years ago

Haha! You must mean himself has a kindle! I love mine! I can swap from reading a book one minute to shopping on the net the next 😀 Wouldn't be without it! Enjoy your pasta & tuna, I'm having goat's cheese & vegetable tarts .... Yummy! 😋

9 years ago

sounds so lovely and homey Vashti

freefaller9 years ago

IT is not the gadgets it is the people who use them they don't need to be attached to them constantly. Same with phones when someone's rings and they take it out and start talking to someone else in front of you while you are standing there like a lemon wondering whether to just walk on down the street.

Hope they all enjoyed the chicken casserole.

Sian

Xoxoxo

redted9 years ago

Can we please have a piccie of the donkeys,bet my hubby feels the same about my Ipad,he says it is forever attached to my hand. but not tonight it has decided to play up since Virgin moved their server.

Magpuss9 years ago

Oh I wonder if that's why my iPad wasn't doing what it should do, yesterday?

Jjude9 years ago

try rebooting your modem, and then reboot your iPads. had no trouble with mine

redted9 years ago

ok will give it a go tomorrow, thanks

mmzetor9 years ago

know what you mean there vashti , our eldest boys partner moans because we don't visit them very often , when we do we have to pay £2.10 to park they live in a flat with hardly any parking so use council one , she sits there all time on phone playing games or on I pad , you can be there 2 hours and she wont make a cup of tea even if son is busy and ask her to make one she wont , then she wonder why we don't visit ,

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

Hi Mmzetor

How bloody rude of her...My sons first wife was just the same....He would be running about when he got in from work. ( she didn't work ) cleaning the house...cooking dinner..looking after the kids....doing the washing and ironing...the list goes on...and all she done was sat on her ar#e, playing on her phone...no wonder she put on 4 stone.

In the six years they were married, the only time l ever got a cup of tea at their house, my son made it !!

Velvet xx

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

she sounds a carbon copy of our sons girlfriend , she expects him to get up in night to the kids then he often has to go to work at 6 in morning some days work 8 0r 9 hours then he come home and tidy up as house looks a sh** hole , then she moans cos he is knackerd , lot of time she don't get up till nearly dinner time , makes me so angry really , but then if he is darft enough to do it its his look out , she has put lots of weight on too I know she had a baby in may but every time we see her she is bigger , thing that gets me if you go round and say any thing about the mess she isn't a bit embarrassed , she wasn't brought up like that as been to her mums place ,she even has her disabled nan do the washing for her , im afraid when I go round I say it how it is wether they like it or not ,

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

I am convinced it's the same woman !!

Thank God my Son had the sense to call it a day.

He has been happily married to his second wife for a few years now....She is the complete opposite of the lazy one....Always makes us so welcome, I love her to bits.

Your son may be the same as mine...they will only put up with it for so long, then if he has any sense, he will walk away and hopefully find happiness elsewhere.

Velvet xx

NgaireM• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

Oh my goodness! I have the same problem with my youngest son. She is lazy, slobbish and very manipulative. She had 2 kids of her own, then 2 babies in quick succession to trap him for good. She broke him away from his family and I miss my son so much. I don't think he will ever leave her because he is very loyal. So sad and I know he is unhappy - as are my hubby and I.

Ngaire xx

velvet55• in reply toNgaireM9 years ago

Hello Ngaire

So very sorry to hear that, it must be an awful situation for you and your husband.

The Sons parents always seem to get the fallout...My sons ex has moods where she will not let my son, or us to have any contact with the children...this can last for several weeks until she wants something.

It's very cruel to treat the children like this as most weeks they stay with their Dad for three days and they miss him terribly when she is like this.

Velvet xx

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

velvet you have mine and my wifes sympathy with that, my ex wife is the same with my son (the other two are step sons but took them on as my own they were 4 and 7 when got with my second wife they are now 17 &20 )he is 16 now not seen him for 4 years , she left me when he was year and a half , found out when she was supposed to be doing over time she was seeing some one else , when she left she agreed to sign house over to me it was council, so long as I let her go off with this other bloke and not give him or her an hassle and that divorce went through which I did , she had three quarters of house contents too , then she regretted it she smashed 3 cars up I had , smashed windows in house and kicked 1 door in , wasn't letting me see son then would then wouldn't ,this went on for over 10 years last time I had him took him out had lovely day took him home next day she text said he don't want to come any more so contacted stopped , he told my auntie he will come see me when it can drive himself so his mother cant get involved ,

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

Oh Mmzetor my heart goes out to you, that's so cruel both for you and the children.

My Son also had to put up with her violence both to his possessions and himself.

It makes me so sad when I don't see my two eldest grandchildren for a few weeks, and like your children you know they want to see you, it's just spite on your ex's behalf stopping them and sometimes as ours does, poisoning their mind with lies.

I say to my Son, who bless him, never runs his ex down in front of the children, one day when they are old enough the truth will come out.

Velvet xx

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

Just had a phone call from Mr Velvet....He can come home...yippee. just going to get changed into my nurses outfit !!!!!

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

oh that's good news I mean him coming home , tell him we was thinking of him , the other bit reminds me of tea last night thinking is this lamb no its defiantly mutton ,

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

bloody cheek...I'm calling your nan !!!!!!

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

ha ha

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

don't tell mr velvet he might come punch me , he will be able to catch me now with his new hip

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

Mr V is home now, he is worn out so l have just tucked him up in bed....It,s lovely to have him back....

I am not joking...Mr V was a brilliant boxer in his younger days...we never had any trouble in our pubs...only ever 2 hits...he hit them and they hit the ground !!!

So watch the cheek Mmzetor...or he will be paying you a visit !!!!!!!

Nurse Velvet xx

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

glad he is back home at least he can rest better in his own bed ,

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

Not once l get in it !!!!!!

I was only joking when I said he would pay you a visit....he couldn't punch his way out of a wet paper bag at the moment.

So for now l will have to keep you in line with threats of your Nan !!

Nurse Velvet xx

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

lol he will soon be fighting fit again and be able to do the washing up ,

velvet55• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

I hope so...the dishes are now 2 foot deep in the sink and the carpet needs vacuuming !!

Velvet xx

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

sound like my future daughter in laws house but hers are scattered all round

Nanaeal• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

Fantastic Velvet. Glad it all went well. Don't make the nurses outfit too short. Mr V may have a relapse 😊

velvet55• in reply toNanaeal9 years ago

Ha Ha

Great to have him home, I missed him.

Velvet xx

Nanaeal• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

Bet it is. Hope your enjoying your weekend xxx

NgaireM• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

Hi Velvet, you are right about son's parents being the ones to miss out. I have tried to help out in the early days, but since I have kidney cancer 10 months ago plus COPD, I am too depressed and tired to even put up a fight. I have seen my son for a total of 2 hours since Christmas. She didn't let him visit me in hospital because I said not to bring the little boys in - not cos I'm mean, but 3 &4 yr olds are not very controllable & when I'm sick I'm like a cat - lick my wounds in private. Oh the joys of motherhood - thank God for my daughter 😀

Ngaire xx

mmzetor• in reply toNgaireM9 years ago

i don't think its the place for young children if they don't have to go , not nice for them to see people hooked up on all the different machines ect , plus there is the risk of them picking up infections while they are there

NgaireM• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

Too true, and I think I developed a fear of hospitals when I was young and dragged into see sick people. I remember drainage tubes in bottles on the floor! And I hated the smell back then - even experienced chloroform in a mask when arm was broken 63 yrs ago - stuff of nightmares! Much more civilised today, but still scary for kids.

mmzetor• in reply toNgaireM9 years ago

ngairem I know exactly how you feel we have had big fall out over the last year , her first child was 4 months old when our son got with her we took him on as our own had him stay took him out spoiled him rotten really then just after Christmas we had big fall out and they didn't speak for 4 months didn't see the little boy for that time he was just over a year then when we did see him again he didn't really know us then , few months after Christmas she had a lot of the stuff we and other members of family had bought him for sale on facebook , puts me off getting close to the kiddies now , she had a little girl with son in may too.

NgaireM• in reply tommzetor9 years ago

Hi mmzetor, you are so right! You go to the trouble and expense of buying presents only to have them belittled and, in your case, sold on. It's actually soul destroying and we now put $20.00 in a card - something I swore I'd never do. Life is a bitch sometimes, but at least I get a laugh when I read stuff on here. I'm getting brave and commenting now.

Ngaire xx 😀

mmzetor• in reply tovelvet559 years ago

ha ha does sound like the same person , i have told wife next time they move they are on list for bigger house im not going to help not one of her family came to help , she was so lazy when we dropped stuff off came back with another load she hadn't unpack the first lot her reason was why should she when my wife was on the phone talking to some one leaving her to do it herself , glad to hear your son is a lot happier , trouble is when kiddies are involved its harder to walk away,

Nanaeal9 years ago

I think it really is the people not the gadgets. I would be without mine because my family live military s away. They help me to keep in touch & enjoy the grandchildren. You do have to be polite & respectful in company.

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