Has anybody heard from hollyhockhattie ?

[longlungs]

Have been getting concerned not heard in quite a while I know she wasnt well and feeling low the last I heard.Hoping maybe just reading posts at the mo.Thinking of you Holly hope your well? Janexx

[pergola1]

It is heart warming that people in this forum think about missing friends. I cant help with hollyhockhattie but was thinking about carrotts, nanaber. We care about each other. Just thinking what can be done to keep people informed. Asking a relative/ friend to report in as necessary.

[longlungs in reply to pergola1]

Hi pergola its a worry sometimes isnt it? A difficult one we have to respect their privacy at the sametime wanting to know that alls well with them,We could have a time out button which would mean having some space away and a poorly button which would let us know and we could send getwell wishes etc let them know we are thinking of them which is nice to know when your not well but they cant reply coz thats pressure.It could probably be done Im sure. Janexx

[Steph57 in reply to longlungs]

We all know if we're really poorly all our efforts are on trying to breath I wouldn't post if I was bad.it would be great as Jane said if we had buttons but how could that be achieved? X

[longlungs in reply to Steph57]

Speaking to my son it would not be a difficult thing to implement he does all that for a living.He said we should suggest it especially if others thought it a good idea aswell? Janexx

[peege in reply to longlungs]

Good idea Jane. I believe they might be implementing a new tool they set up a few weeks ago. It was in a reply from a moderator, can't remember who's original post - it's that they will cancel membership of people who suddenly reappear after a long time of no-show. The reason being that sometimes a trouble maker joins, doesn't post or reply then they suddenly reappear with some nastiness or s**t stirring tactics.

xxx P

[longlungs in reply to peege]

That will be good peeg,I cant abide nastiness ,bully or lying and dont understand the people that do.Enough said on that that will be good that the powers that be will eradicate those.This site is slowly evolving it would be could if there were ways to let others know they were not about cos of being poorly, or just having time out for a while.We could send astandard getwell message the same for all by pressing a button or see ya soon button,without the said person feeling under pressure to reply but would be nice to know for people whom are poorly that people care,and the same for time out.haha what do I know it could be doable Im sure. Are you well at the moment peeg keeping away from the dreaded bugs and germs? do hope so stay well see you soon Janexx

[peege in reply to longlungs]

Hello , I've just remembered where I saw that snippet from moderator, it was in a post from alberteinstein or einstein a couple of months ago.

I'm pleased at the moment thanks for asking. I'm over an infect. with the help Azithromycin (well I hope it's not just in hibernation)!

I've had a head cold the last few days but that's where it stayed :D. Pacing myself & keeping my immune system strong. I walked for 90 mins in the cold & dark on Sunday evening with no ill effects at all so it's almost back to normal (my normal that is).

This a great site. I'd never been on anything like it before apart from FB. Most people are wonderfully genuine, lovely & caring & it's rare someone bitter & twisted shows their ugly mug - thank goodness! On the whole I think mods are pretty fair.

I'm happy to see you're out & about in the fetching new cape _ you'll be needing it, I just heard on the radio we might have a spot of cold & rain for a change!! xxxx

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I have wondered about Hollie too,do hope she is ok.

Yes Pergola,would be good if we had some way of knowing about people that we care about.xx

[longlungs in reply to Hidden]

Hi again Wendells me to. I know she was suffering and really low and flat bless her.I was just mentioning some button options to pergola,cos we do get to know each other and of course get concerned as well as happy for people,especially given the nature of our illnesses.

How are you and hubby doing with you recoveries ,I know you mentioned it has given. Janexx you hubby quite a knock ,I do hope he is slowly getting better are your fam still helping you ,must be harder for you to have to carry the load so to speak.Keepwell Keep cool if you can very bloody hot where you are I believe Im flushing at the very thought of your heat you live with, when Ive heard you mention the degrees it is ,like oh its cooler today its only 40 degrees jeeze man thats hot hot hot.Mind you you do all have air con I believe dont you.got to I would imagine? See you soon loves you to Wendells

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Hi Jane,yes it would be good,a bit hard to arrange I guess,as some people just find its suited there need for a while,& then just want to disappear! I do worry about Nannaber as well.

Yes we do have aircon thank god,as I would be flat out on the floor,& not from the drinkies,lol! First time I can't wait for winter & seeing it go down to 17 or so.

Things are a little hard with hubby,he has slowly but surely lost more memory,& that is frustrating,he is always asking about people that passed on years ago,wondering why they don't visit! He has no inkling about my own condition now,& keeps asking why I don't buy some cough medicine,love him! Futile trying to explain.On the brighter side(don't want to sound to self pitying) he still loves his garden,so at least that keeps him busy at times,although he struggles,as the hip gives him so much pain.The hip replacement wasn't succesful,& did nothing,except knock of the remaining memory.But our garden is like a park,picks up every twig & leaf on the lawn.

The Grankids find it hard to deal with,as he was so proactive with them before,& I noticed they are coming less & less,oh dear I'm starting to cry,must be a bad day for me.

Well before I write a book,I better shuts up,I'm not usually sorry for myself,but today is one of those days! xxxx

[longlungs in reply to Hidden]

Ohhh Wendells Iam sorry thats my fault for asking after him.It is good to cry my darling lessons the pressure that builds up within us.You are no way the self pitying type or somebody that feels sorry for themselves all the time.I know I dont know you very well but we get a feel about each other sometimes catch my drift ? Anyway you should be feeling emotional I bloody would be in your situation you have had a massive overload of serious traumas and loss.Unexpected life changing events that you now have to adapt to and its just shit ! ( please excuse my language hope I havnt offended you) Im here Wendells got big old earoles.Praps we can have adrink and achat one night and put the world to rights have a girls night. (((( huggs)))) loves ya Janexx

[Suzy6 in reply to Hidden]

Oh Wendells you self pitying? Never. Take you thinking off you.

[Hidden in reply to Suzy6]

Sorry Suzy,txs to you too xxx

[Steph57 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Wendell's so sorry to read about your situation your having a tough time as Jane said it's good to have a cry. You are such a positive person. Take care of you. Xx

[junespoon in reply to Suzy6]

No its not self pity, does good sometimes, my tears came just reading, but Jane has the right idea lets have a girlie night,Thinking of you both.X

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Oh Wendells - you deserve a good cry - life is very difficult for you! We are thinking about you and admire you. You show such dignity and such caring for others. Try to get some time for you just an hour or so - I have found it can make quite a difference. Take good care, with lots of love TAD xx

[silversurfer]

Wendalls I always read your posts and they are never self pitying I admire the way you cope. Have a chat with the grandchildren I'm sure if you explain they will understand and come around more often. Folks if you are having a girlie night can I come too? I've got a couple of bottles of chardonnay and some crisps.

Bethan.

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Thankyou,my dear friends,feeling better now,just been getting to overtired me thinks,& yes so much trauma this past year,with the accident & everything with Harry,I think I just let it build up.

Went to see my Doc.this arvo,& he was quite good,he knows all the ins & outs,of what's been happening,he told me I'm an angel without wings, bless him!

Anyway,he recommended I see this psychologist,whom is middle aged,& she has a very good record(stay away from the young ones,he said,they can be good,but not enough life experience!) Anyway I can get 12 free sessions,one to one,so I will give it a go.Maybe it's what I need at the moment.I didint want any meds,as I already take Zoloft 50 mgs,for panic attacks,& he agreed I didint want anymore.

Jane I'll be up for that party soon,so don't forget my love!

Tad txs for your kind words,& I'll take on board,what you said,

Bethan txs to you too,& will take in what you said,I have a bottle of Baileys,but watch that Jane doesn't hide it away at the party,for herself Ha Ha!!

Anyway,I better go & get my beauty sleep,so I'll say night night,hope your day goes well.Tomorrows another day,& hopefully a better one,I'm sure it will be.

Lots of love to you all xxxx

[longlungs in reply to Hidden]

Hi Wendells hope you had a restful night.Your doc sounds a love. You are right it will help its quite a relief to share the load and how you are dealing and coping with everything and your own recovery aswell.The councillor might well need a rest themselves when they hear all whats gone on this past year for you all haha. Yes it will be good I wont forget you I have a little idea im thinking on Impleased you feel a little better Wendells you have a lot of friends here thinking of you.Speak soon now (((hugs))) loves ya Janexx

[Hidden in reply to longlungs]

Txs Jane,you're a star! xxxx

[peege in reply to Hidden]

Only just read this thread ....... Oh my Wendells, I'm so sorry you're feeling low. I'm sending love & hugs to you & your dear Harry.

Also I'm very glad you're going to take up the 12 free sessions, nothing to lose and plenty to gain - I hope it gives you the strength to have a word with your family to let them know that YOU still need them.

Are the kids and grandchildren able to reminisce with him? Having conversations about past events brings him into the now for a spell.

It's wonderful that he gets joy from the garden. My heart goes out to you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Hidden in reply to peege]

Thanks Peeg.feeling a bit more like my old self.Yes i got the Grandies to help me make up a book of photos & life events etc.Sometimes interested in the past,but hard to hold him in the present!

Probably because the deterioration has accelareted more just lately,we are all finding it hard.Txs for your support.xxxxxxx

[silversurfer]

Bless you Wendells, I will keep an eye on Jane and the baileys maybe I will sabotage her scooter, no can't do that she won't be able to get to the party and we need her she is such good fun. Have a good sleep see you tomm.

Bethan.

[junespoon in reply to silversurfer]

Don't let me near Janes scooter, Have just done my speed awareness course,

[longlungs in reply to junespoon]

Scuse me misses Sterling Moss hold yer horses,see Im gonna have to get alarms fitted to gertie no joy riding allowed. lol Janexx