I quit the site some days ago after I received some very dreadful news about an old dear friend ....I did not feel able to post or communicate with anyone without talking about it and was too upset to talk about it, so I quit ...I hope this makes some sort of sense. (I have since visited him, he has not much time left, so dreadfully sad, but nevertheless very pleased I made the journey, I have known him and his lovely wife for 35 years, we used to live in Southend/Leigh on Sea ..... the 'Grand Hotel' back in the 1980s was our local ....happy memories ...... I wish them both peace .... now stopping, getting upset)
Deep breath ............
In my ignorance I thought I could just sign up again as Ripley, but apparently not.....I was rather puzzled and annoyed, but I suppose its to stop someone quitting the site and then someone joining and using the same name and causing confusion.
(I will admit to being a bit nervous about the new 'identity', I have read of people having 'multiple identities' I don't really know what this means but it's obvious from what I read that it is a bad thing, and would not like to be thought of in that way)
Anyway, I am pleased to be back and hope everyone keeping as well as they can.... smile even when you are crying
Beth xx
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It was a gut reaction, I felt quite panicked when I was told about my lovely friend ... I can see it was silly to quit now, but I couldn't think straight, and couldn't think of the words to say
Oh, welcome back Beth. I was sad about you leaving and am very pleased to see you back. Sorry for the bad news and, yes, it is perfectly understandable that you were upset and so withdrew for a while. xx
And some hard times ahead I fear. So hard to see people you love slipping away and so difficult to talk about or even think about. I feel quite taken over by it all.
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Thanks so much for your welcome back, it means a lot.... I hope you are doing well and feeling positive.
Beth xxxxx
Really glad you are back, Beth. I can see them refusing your name as it could be some moron coming in under your name.
Sad to hear about your old friend - friends are precious especially ones we have known for years. Love Annieseed xxx
Im very pleased to be back and very sorry for not letting people know I was going .... I was not in a good place at the time.
Im not sure how the BLF have been thoughtful about ...me?? ... a bit confused by some of your post to be honest ... but it would be nice to think they were ...
I have no idea how peoples ids can be taken .... are you sure that possible? As I said I did try to sign back in as my old username but no chance.....
However .. bowing to your better knowledge ... to be honest where IT and the internet / forums and facebook etc concerned I am a complete ignoramous
I'm glad you're back Beth but sorry to hear your sad news. We all do strange things in moments of extreme stress & shock. All the best to you, your friend & his wife. x peeg
The kind thoughts of the people here are very humbling ... thank you so much
Beth xx
Oh Beth good to see you back. Such sad news about your friend. Life's a ...... sometimes. But I am sure your friendship has enriched both your friend's lives as you are such a great person. Am thinking of you. Hugs xxxx
Bev, thank you for replying so kindly to my post. I'm no more special than the next person .... we all try to enrich our friends lives if we can ... and they do the same for us .... A friend of mine who I spent today with said very wisely I think, that if we have no one we would cry over then we have had very emotionally isolated lives. There are times when tears are the right response.
Hi Beth sorry about your freind but glad your back..i live in leigh on sea..the grand has been closed for a while but hopefully i think someone has brought it and is going to do it up
Hi Music I will have to check it out next time I'm in Leigh. When I first used to go there, the back room had an old piano in it ... real spit and sawdust, and the old boys and girls, proper old ex Eastenders used to sing (?) away on a Saturday night. Hard to imagine now. Last time I was in there it was all bamboo chairs and plush sofas. Times change.
Beth
Hi Beth,big hugs to you,you sound as if you need a few!
So sorry about your friend,news like that is hard to hear.Like Annie said, old friends,we have known as part of our lives,is espeially hard to deal with.
So glad you managed to get back again,we all love to hear from you,
Welcome back Beth, Its sad news about your friend Trevor but good you could get down to see him and his wife, you have made some fond memories together.
Just post as you feel you can Beth, just when you want to, take good care of you.
I have had a lovely day ... treated to a day out by a friend, to Kew Gardens there and back by train, utterly bushed now, and the dodgy hip playing up rather, but had a fab time. The Princess of Wales Conservatories ... full of tropical plants, tho very humid and made me a bit breathless, were absolutely stunning (I like plants etc ....each to his/her own).
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I'm not sure what to make of it!
Husband passed away
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the end.... how should we deal with our own and others feelings?
