Negative thoughts

Hi

I was wondering if any one else has found them self stuck in a rut of negative thoughts or thinking after a long period of time with flared asthma or after a severe attack or admission?

I was wondering how people replace there negative thoughts with positive ones? I have been trying this but i keep finding i cannot think of any positive thoughts?

Does any one have any example positive thoughts that challenge negative ones that come from a bad spell of asthma?

Thank you for your help in advance!

Plumie

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HI Plumie,

have you tried adding things in your week that you like and it could be something

nice or small that you look forward to each week just for you.

Maybe look at planing a day out with friends when you are up to a little bit more as

can see you have asthma bad and it does take alot out of you.

I always feel good when helping others when I can like you do with church etc.

Im sure you will soon be your lovely happy self when you are back on track a little more as you

have had lots going on in your life recently and wishing you a lot of happy thoughts of the past and things to come.

lots of love glynis. 80)

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Hi Plumie, sorry your feeling negative thoughts.You have been through quite a lot lately. I've been feeling negative, I can't talk to anyone about it as I keep crying. Friends are finding it difficult as they want to phone.I tell them to text, I find it easier. I need to except this first before I can move on, It's a challenge. I had a real wobbly morning and just cried, then I thought ""what if"" .Things have been a lot worse than now and we got through them, I watch my favourite films, eat my favourite food, listen to my favourite songs. It still comes back and I feel fed up again but I'm trying to beat it. I also like to plan something each week with friends or family, just something special, something to look forward to.Off out for a meal with friends and hubby tonight so hoping that will do the trick.

Take care

Kate x

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Plumie the first thing in improving the mood is realising that it needs to improve. Sometimes we are unable to change it ourselves. So we need to seek some help. That's where it gets difficult we feel we are burdening our loved ones and don't want them knowing how we feel.. And don't want strangers knowing our business or our feelings of failure cos we can't cope. But to get better u need to talk to someone. Have u spoken to your asthma nurse or asthma consultant. They can refer you to a counsellor . That's wot my consultant did. He said the steriods can affect mood but also as I had such a bad year he wasn't surprised the way I felt. When I met the counsellor I wasn't keen to talk but when I started I didn't shut up and it helped... I felt relieved by telling someone how I really felt.

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Hello Plumie,

Firstly when your health is bad often your mental state takes a dive along side it. IT'S PERFECTLY NORMAL!!!!

I sometimes find myself focussing on how bad things are, all the things I can't do anymore and how restricted I feel. I do confess to finding myself so down with this THING, that I have (ridiculously selfishly so), tried to end it on one occasion. Foolishly persuading myself that my loved ones and the rest of the world were better off without me.

I now try to realise that this affects others in as great a magnitude as it affects me if not more. I try regularly reminding myself that I need to stay positive for the people I love.

If I give up then they might give up on me and then who would help fish me out of the doldrums and vice versa (Coz whether ill or not we all have good and bad times)

At my lowest I found it easiest to dwell on the negative aspects of the disease. One of these being that it was a bit of a life sentance. I mean that no-one can say for definate that this is it and actually you only have a specific time left to live or that the medication/treatment that you will receive will cure you. I sometimes think of it as pergatory (not that I am at all religious). There is no finallity only the option of keep on hoping for something else to appear that might either cure you or make a significant difference to your life. I sometimes wish for all or nothing. Then when I look at it like this I realise that at least there are possibilities of change and it won't definately end before something else has the opportunity of appearing. There is hope no matter how remote it may be. Hope has kept people going forever.

I have also spent many not so negative hours coming up with ways of adapting my former life so that I can enjoy the things I used to, albeit in a very roundabout way. For example I have always been a keen mountain biker. Now that I am completely oxygen dependant I always thought this hobby to be completely out of the question. With a little bit of research I now regularly go on family bike rides. I saved up and bought myself an excellent electric bike and plan the gradients of my routes very carefully.

Now when I feel negative I think of something that my heart (and head) want to do really badly (and please be aware that the more obscure and unachievable it sounds to all others the more exciting it is to conquer!) and I bloody well find a way around it or put it to oneside for beating another day. I have vowed to myself that I will never deem anything unachievable - simply on hold until I find a way of doing it!

My next conquest is to somehow go skiing!!!!! Still thinking ways of around some of the problems that this one creates. I call this gutsy and motivated. My consultant calls it bonkers!!!

So whenever the tired, foggy & negative thoughts try to side track me, I find something that all expect I can't do and I start to think of ways that I can and will achieve rather than giving in to the negative aspects and thoughts.

Hope you find a way around the negative thoughts.

All my best wishes

Sal