Please help

Hi guys I am in desperate need of help

I'm 23 and my younger brother is 19, my mother had bipolar and we lost her to suicide just over a year ago.

My brother and I have both suffered depression since her death I have spoke to a doctor but don't want medication and my brother refuses to see a doctor.

But I know now that he needs to he has become delusional and obsessed with signs and theories and conspiracies and I have been reading up on psychosis and he has all I the symptoms I have no support from family and cannot get through to my brother or him to seek help I am worried and scared and don't no what I should do this has been going on for a couple of months now but has worsened it's hard to speak to him about reality and he is also a frequent cannabis user he has been doing drawings and believe he has powers or is a prophet and I don't no what to do any advice would be pmassively appreciated

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  • Hello Natalieanne

    Welcome to the forum. So sorry to hear you and especially your brother are struggling after losing your mother. It must be awful for you both. It sounds as though you are being a good support to your brother and it's a big responsibility when you are also trying to come to terms with such a big loss in your life.

    Although many of us here have suffered psychosis it has been related to childbirth. I'm not sure how you will be able to help your brother unless he agrees to see a doctor so that he could be signposted to the care he needs. I do know how very real and frightening psychosis is and it must be very draining for you to witness. I also suffered from depression which did seem endless.

    Perhaps counselling might help you both instead of keeping a lid on your true feelings? The charity Mind (Rethink Mental Health) might also be able to help and here's a link to their page on psychosis rethink.org/diagnosis-treat.... The advice line is 0300 5000 927 available Monday - Friday 9.30 a.m. - 4.00 p.m. There is also advice for carers as you also need support yourself. If you need to speak to someone over the weekend The Samaritans are available 24/7 on 116 123.

    Take care ... you're an amazing sister trying to carry such a heavy load. I hope you will be able to find the support you both need.

  • Hello natalieanne,

    I'm so very sorry for your loss. It sounds as though you've had such a tough time and are coping with so much.

    I just wanted to add to lilybeth's reply that if you're concerned for your brother and his safety, you can try accessing your local mental health crisis team - if you're in the UK and needed help over the weekend you could call your local out of hours GP service (this might be via 111) and they would access crisis support as appropriate.

    Take good care. I do hope your brother is able to get the support he needs.

    J x

  • Dear Natalieanne

    I was very sad to read your post, it sounds like you have been through an awful traumatic time, and are now concerned about your brother. Sorry it's taken me a few days to reply. As the others have explained I'm not sure this is the most helpful forum for you as this is for women who are unwell with postpartum psychosis after giving birth to their children.

    I hope you have found the other replies helpful. I just wanted to signpost you to some other resources and organisations who may be able to help better than ourselves.

    You may find it helpful to contact the charity Bipolar UK, who also have an online forum a bit like this one: bipolaruk.org/

    I also wanted to let you know of two charities that support families who have lost someone to suicide. The links are there, I hope they may be able to support you:

    supportaftersuicide.org.uk/...

    petesdragons.org.uk/Bereave...

    And in terms of getting support for your brother, as others have said, I'd really recommend, if you're really concerned about him, to contact his GP, or just dial the emergency services - this is what my partner did when I became very unwell and I went to A&E and that is when I got the support I needed.

    Take care, I do hope you and your brother can get the support you need

    Ellie

  • Hello Natalieanne,

    I do hope that you and your brother will find the right support. It has been such a tough time for the both of you and I am truly sorry for your loss.

    I hope you have received some comfort with the advise and contacts you have received on this forum. I can not add or think of anything else as already mentioned previously by Lilybeth, J-B-55 and Ellie.

    Wishing you strengths in finding the right support network.

    Please, take good care of yourself, too.

    Best wishes,

    Sabine :-)

  • Thank you very much guys,

    In a panic after been told all day a doctor would call back from 111 which never happened and been turned away from some organisations because my brother could not speak on the phone I looked for the closest forum.

    I ended up calling the crisis team and Callum is now having home therapy with myself and has started on some medication.

    Things are slowly starting to get better he is sleeping after 3 days with no sleep which means I am too.

    Thank you so much for your advice and support even tho I was on the wrong forum it means a lot

    Nat xx

  • Hello Natalieanne

    Good to hear you have been offered home therapy and things are slowly starting to get better. It must be such a relief that your brother is now sleeping which means you can rest too.

    I'm glad you found the forum and hope you will both soon feel the benefit of therapy. Take good care .... so lovely to see that you have such a strong bond with your brother.

  • Thanks so much Lilybeth your words are so kind 😊

  • Hi nat this is really great to hear, I'm so glad you've got some support and your brother is doing better. I'm glad we were here for you! Take care x

  • Hi Nat,

    I'm so glad you managed to get your brother some support and he's improving.

    Take care both of you xx

  • Hello Nat,

    - gosh what a relief, finally you found some help. Pleased that the forum could be a life line for you both. Hope your brother and you will be able to catch up on some sleep.

    Wishing you love and kindness, you are a very caring and loving sister.

    Sabine :-)

  • Hello, Natalieanne, I do feel for you and your brother, to lose your Mum like that must have been devastating. You and he are four years apart, like my brother and I, all I can say is that your regard for him is the most important thing at the moment.

    I would say it is essential for you to look after yourself, be nice to yourself and you might find that he follows suit. If you get too anxious about how he is behaving, he will key into that and it could make him even less approachable. This happened with my brother and the best thing I did was to keep on with my own life even though the way he was behaving was bizarre and frankly unacceptable (speeding, drunk, threatening). Later on, I went bonkers too and he was so sympathetic and nice and matter of fact that I was relieved there was someone out there who wasn't saying that I was Ill. Best wishes new baby

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