Hypersensitive, Aggressive, Full of Anxiety, w/no impulse control.

[Annakim77]

Lately, I've been scaring myself. I usually need a day or two to myself to recharge or zone out and forget my worries, but i went straight from my work week into hosting thanksgiving dinner and was frustrated when my entire friday and sat morning after was taken up by my needy brother. The rest of that saturday i was tense and full of anxiety. I was hypersensitive to everything and i call the physical sensation that happens with it "crawling nerves". I cussed out my sister, yelled at my daughter, and told my brother to get lost, and was rude to a friend. I feel really bad now and childish that i let my feelings control my behavior this way. Does anyone else experience these crazy anxiety filled days, and how do u deal with them positively. It felt like life was just moving to fast and i needed to find a pause button.

[Agora1]

Hi Annakim77, I have many crazy anxiety filled days, I just don't allow them to hang around for long. There is a way to deal with them positively. Unfortunately, now a days, life is on fast forward. We don't get to enjoy the things we should and before long negative impulses take over and we lose it for a while.

That "pause button" you need is within reach. I always leave the room before I say or do something I will regret. I find a quiet space that I can call my own for a few minutes. If I'm cold, I wrap a blanket around my shoulders or on my legs. Feeling comfortably warm will help relax your nerves. I then sit there quietly deep breathing. Slow and deliberate, long exhales saying the word "relaxxx" or "calm". The room needs to be dimly lit so that the relaxed mood is set. A lit candle can provide that as well. 5-10 minute respite like this can change your way of thinking.

When you feel ready, go back to what you were doing. No need to explain or you'll start the scenario in your mind again. It's not being childish, it's being overwhelmed and you are human and can only take so much before the last straw breaks the camel's back.

The thing is to remove yourself from the situation before getting to that point. With practice you will eventually not have to leave the room but will use your deep breathing to getting back in control. Breathe..... xx