Misunderstood.

[gerrerd]

Connect with the mind, its only trying to help.

[Dolphin14]

This is inner child work and the words usually stem from trauma. Someone in our lives put negative thoughts in our head. We are not good enough, we are bad people, we will never make it etc.

The inner critic is the person that made us believe this and when we hear those voices as an adult it's our inner child speaking from fear.

We have to learn to support and comfort the inner child. Let them know we are no longer in that situation and we are older and brave enough to stand up for ourself.

This takes a lot of work. It's emotional work.

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[primrose81 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you Ray and Dolphin14 - this really made me sit up and think…must admit most of my life has been spent trying to avoid/silence the inner critic which constantly condemns/hurts and makes me doubt myself and fear that I will never be good enough or reach the impossibly high state of perfection it require of me. I had never thought of making friends with it instead of trying to drown it out…

Hmm wonder if it would help to offer it some dark chocolate as a token of friendship….!!

[Dolphin14 in reply to primrose81]

LOL

Chocolate helps everything hahah

My journey is a bit different as I needed to get in touch with my emotions to find out who the inner critic was. It's not my voice, someone planted this seed in my head.

My work has been trauma based and its been focused on the hurt/frightened child.

The goal is the same, do whatever we can that works so we learn we are worthy.

Share the chocolate and see what happens

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[Mountainlover57 in reply to Dolphin14]

I appreciate your post very much because I'm starting to learn this through therapy. I'm hoping that I can speak to my inner child that has been living in fear and insecurity for many years. Thank you for your explanation. It was very helpful.

[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

I have just got to the place in my life that I can say to my self, I forgive you I love you. x

[Dolphin14 in reply to gerrerd]

❤️

[Dolphin14]

Mountainlover57

I'm so glad it was helpful. Don't give up on this. It takes time to connect but when you do, so much will be understood.

I wish you the best

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