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Husband has Vascular Dementia

We experienced a fast onset of Vascular Dementia/Alzheimers/Parkinsons, one year ago. Medical advice was grim. We discovered that some medications caused condition to be worse. Once off the meds he stopped shaking and his mind was clearer. Throughout this monster roller coaster ride, first I tried to fix him... Then bounced from no hope to hope, denials to realization, etc. He says there is nothing wrong with him. I see deterioration in upper intellegence in many ways. He is happy, I am suffering each minute of the day. My heart is broken.

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Hi Paula, I know what you are experiencing! My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's just 4 weeks ago. However, we started seeing changes about a year ago, then about 3 months ago, it just seemed to jump out of nowhere. All of a sudden he was confused, and unable to make intelligent decisions. Could not reason from cause and effect. Driving became erratic, etc. Since then he has almost started a fire on the stove, thought he turned a burner off but turned it on high. Got his meds all mixed up, had to hide them for he kept getting into them at all times of the day. He also says that he is fine and thinks that I am making it all up. He is in complete denial and doesn't understand why his authority is being usurped. This is so hard!! Seeing the one you love deteriorate before your eyes. He is angry at me all the time and I don't know how to help him. I need to talk to people who are going through the same things. I need to learn how to deal with all the changes now and in the future. I'm here if you would like to talk. Maybe we can help each other. Joyce

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Paula -- I hope you take some comfort in knowing your husband is happy. After my husband with Parkinson's died, I remarried an apparently healthy man in his early 70s. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and died three years later from a fall. You will find comfort and hope here.


Hi Paula, Just found your post.

It was posted 9 months ago. Dare I ask how things are now?

I am in a similar position with my husband.



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