Thank you all for all your kind words regarding whether to cancel my upcoming ablation or not after the death of my daughter last weekend. Sorry I can’t reply to you all individually but with the three children to care for time is limited.
As an update I attended my pre op appointment this afternoon and the hospital were absolutely outstanding. My operation been deferred to the end of April to allow me some breathing time. I went through all the pre blood tests and all other tests as I was told they would last for 18 weeks.
So onwards and upwards one day at a time and hoping the future will hold happier times.
I will keep everyone updated as to how things go.
Many thanks again for all your kind wishes and help.
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That is good news. That will give you time to grieve and also settle in to yournew role caring for your grandchildren. I'm so glad tbey were able to reschedule and it's not too far away.
Take care
So glad you will be able to get the grandchildren settled into some sort of a routine before your ablation x
So sorry to hear of your loss and deepest sympathies. I lost my sister last week and am dreading the funeral because I am certain to not get through it without an episode of AF.
Oh my goodness so sad for you, no child should die before their parents no matter what age they are. Regarding your ablation thank goodness it has been deferred a while because with three children to care for, who are also going through their own grief, you need to take it easy for quite a while. Again I am so sorry for your loss and know we are all thinking of you. Xxoxx
That is so good to hear. So now not only have you got a more suitable date for your operation but you have also already had all the checks done and your family will have more time to settle down to a new routine. I wish you all the very best for the operation and hope your family manage to cope with this dreadful loss.
"A wife who loses a husband is called a widow.
A husband who loses his wife is called a widower.
A child who loses it's parents is called an orphan.
My sympathies. We lost my sister, she was 10 and I was 18. My parents were able to smile and laugh again but it takes time. Glad the hospital were so helpful. Maybe when you have your ablation it will give you a period of relative inactivity that you can spend quietly talking and just being with your grandchildren.
My sympathies on your terrible loss. I think that sounds like a sensible decision. It allows you breathing space and time to spend with the children in the immediate aftermath of this tragedy. Try to take a few moments for yourself and take time to grieve.
So pleased that you have worked out a way forward, you now have time to concentrate on the immediate future and your grandchildren. My best wishes to you all. Kath.
I read your first post but came to it late. I would like to add my thoughts and best wishes to you.
Nobody who hasn’t experienced the loss of a child at any age can begin to understand the anguish it causes. In your case with the added dimension of supporting your grandchildren at this difficult time.
I am glad you kept the pre procedure appointment all the same and it sounds like they are an understanding team at your hospital.
I do think you should aim to go through with the ablation in April as you also need to look after your own issues. It is called the hierarchy of needs. An example being that should the oxygen masks drop in an airplane it is important that you put your own mask on before helping others.
Take care and look after yourself and your grandchildren.
You poor thing. My heart goes out to you. Accept all the help you can get and make sure you take a break from it all now and then. So sorry for your loss.
good to hear you have been able to have come away from the pre-assessment knowing you are in good hands at the hospital. I cannot begin to imagine the trauma you are going through but - hope it helps that others are thinking of you
I am only catching up on recent posts on the forum, but just wanted to say how very sorry I am to hear of the loss of your daughter. I feel any words I might write are meaningless in the face of your loss, but I wanted to send you my deepest condolences and thoughts for you in this terrible time.
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