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Death of a sister

Death of a sister

My daughter wrote

"This was no 'Beast from the East'. This was Scotland come south to bring her Rose home. Our dearest sweet gentle Auntie Woof - our hearts are hurting and we shall miss you terribly."

She had a major stroke in December following what we think was undiagnosed AFib (so no medication or anticoagulants). We were so hopeful that some progress would be made but only days ago she was diagnosed with hypernatremia. We were warned the next 24 hours were crucial, but she died six hours later in the early hours of Tuesday morning.

I don't know my motives for putting her picture up; I want to scream from the rooftops, look at my beautiful sister, look what we have lost, please remember this face. The pain is indescribable. She was so loved.

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Our condolences at this sad time.

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So sorry to hear you've lost your dear sister Irene. I can see that she was a nice person. Her eyes look full of fun and kindness in the photo and yes I can see the beauty. The death of a loved one is so hard to cope with and the pain so deep. Thinking of you.

Jean

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So very, very sorry. I don't think there is anyone quite like a sibling - the person with whom one shares so much like genes and life long memories. I hope it will be a comfort to you and your mother and all the family that your sister's difficult ordeal is not to continue.

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Oh Irene, so very sorry, your grief is so raw, so sad for you and your family. What a dreadful thing to happen, it's terrible.

Thinking of you and sending supportive healing hugs. Your sister looks beautiful and will be with you and yours forever, your memories will support you but now is about feeling the grief, go with it Irene, let it take you where you need to go with it right now. Bless you all. So sad. Xx

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Such lovely comments already made but want you to know I a. Thinking about you. Allow yourself to grieve. X

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It must be so hard losing your sister. Thinking of you at this sad time.

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So sad. I am so sorry Irene.

Sandra x

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irene - such pain for you and your family and such heartfelt words from your daughter.

My sincere condolences.

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So sorry for your loss. A lovely picture of your lovely sister. xxx

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Nothing to add other than she looks like she was a mischevious lass, full of fun and love for her family........best wishes Irene, remember all the good times!

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Oh Irene, I’m so very sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling now and my heart goes out to you.

Thank you for sharing this photo of your sister with us. She’s beautiful - and looking into her eyes you can see she has a beautiful soul. Immeasurably loved, I know. And immeasurably missed.

Sending love and hugs, Irene, and prayers for comfort through your sadness ❤️

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Hi Irene,

I hope you are coping- take things very easily.

Having looked after stroke patients in my youth, it may be a blessing for her as you say it was a major stroke- this doesn't help relatives who are suddenly bereft but it is something to think of later perhaps........

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Very true Rosyg,the one thing that comforted me and my famiky after my mums fatal stroke was that she would not have wanted to be a nuissnce or upset us if she had survived and been badly affected.

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So very sorry for your loss. Thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time xx

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You gave her a lovely tribute. Will think of you. And hope sad times ahead are bearable. There are no words I know to say at times like these. irina1975

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So sorry for your loss I lost my beautiful sister to a blood clot caused by undiagnosed AF two years ago hard to understand when it could have been prevented

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Deepest condolences Irene, you are rightfully devasted by your loss and frustration, you were fortunate also to have such a loved and loving sister, take solace from your family. You are in my prayers.

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Grief has no time limit, but one day, instead of tears, I hope that when you think of your sister, instead of tears, it will be with a smile on your face. It’s been 8 years since I lost my brother suddenly. My memories of him can now bring a smile to my face.

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You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers xx

Di

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I’m so very sad for your loss Irene. My thoughts are with you

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I am so very sorry to hear your sad news Irene. My thoughts and condolences are with you and all your family at this distressing time. Annel xx

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So sorry to hear of this.I suspect you also feel angy that her AF was undiagnosed,understandably so.

Grief is the price we pay for love,a high price indeed.

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My heart aches for you the sadness in your words jump from the page and I feel everyone of them. Because there for the grace, I’m not in your shoes, but I live in fear every time my sweet brother, who I adore like you adored your sister, phones, I wish I could hug you, but I bet your lovely family are doing that right now, 💕 jean x

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My condolences to you and your family at this very sad time. Heaven has another sweet angel 😇. xxxx

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So sorry x

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So sorry for your loss Irene condolences to you and your family , I lost my dad to a stroke then 2years on I lost my brother undiagnosed to heart problems at aged 58 , 11 weeks later my father in law , 1 week later my mum from a blood clot a PE within 12 weeks my life changed. I cherish my brother that I have left he takes me to my appointments , but then I think may be that’s why I whittle about AF as only diagnosed Oct 17 . It’s not easy and they say time is a healer , my prayers and thoughts are with you at this sad time . X💕

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So sorry for the heartbreak you are feeling. Can't imagine how it must feel as have never had the love of a brother or sister. Thinking of you

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So so sorry for your loss. And the suffering you are going through you are in my thoughts

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Deepest condolences. My thoughts are with you..

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I am very sad for you but have to confess a feeling of envy as well. Later when the shock of your sister's death eases a little you will have many happy memories which nothing can take away from you. Last Sunday I had to explain the meaning of 'living forever' to my church children's group and they totally got that one way is the effect of our actions, big and small, leaving traces in the physical world. I can see your sister must left many many bright trails, X

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Clarification, no siblings.

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My thoughts are with you and your family Irene.

"A SPECIAL LiFE,LEAVES SPECIAL MEMORIES."

Eleanor,Xxxl

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So sorry for your loss Irene xx

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Such a sad time for you..Irene .All of the forum will be thinking and praying for you today. As I am .Hugs.xxxxx

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So very very sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to know what you're going through, I can only imagine and would never actually want it to happen. I can tell you to try to be strong, but then I couldn't see myself being. All I can do is hope and pray that you allow yourself time to grieve and allow your wonderful memories to guide you through this terrible time.

Thinking of you and sending big hugs.

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So sorry to hear this my love is with you xxx

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so very sorry for your sad loss Irene sending you a hug.

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So sorry. She’s beautiful ❤️

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Sorry for your loss Irene,you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you a long distance hug.

Best wishes, Shaun

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Your sis is in paradise... may she find happiness in God’s presence forevermore. My condolences.

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So very sorry for your loss and the pain it brings Irene. Words alone aren't much help at such a time, but please try to remember "Love never dies" .

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So sorry for your loss can't imagine the pain you are going through right now condolences to you and your family

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So sorry, Xx my big sister was taken just after my mum. Keep strong you will get there. Thinking about you. Xx

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Hi Irene

Two and a half years ago I lost my Brother in law to a heart attack. I was devastated. Now I remember him with fondness and will never forget him. I am sure you will do the same. Even though life coming to an end is an inevitable thing it is still painful. Think of the good times you had with your sister and the pain will ease with time. God Bless.

Flyer.

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So sorry for your loss Irene xx

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I share your pain. This past year I lost my husband, 4 months later our son. Love to you.

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That’s very difficult for you. I hope you have friends to support you

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So sorry for your loss.

It is raw for you right now. Time is the only healer in my experience but even then we never forget.

Celebrate the good times you had together and remember all the good memories.

Pete

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So sorry Irene.

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So very sorry it must be devatating losing a much loved sister all my condoleances,

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So sorry for your loss

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I would like to add my condolences to you and your family at this awfully sad time. Roy

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