What about rumpy bumpy?

[MtLSteven]

AF, over weight, breathless, hypertensive, medication that has shot down the hydralics all in the last 12 months. A consequence no sex. Feels like I'm dead already.

[BobD Volunteer]

Try having a prostatectomy. Plenty of life after sex believe me. You still have memories and can still love .lol

[dedeottie in reply to BobD]

What a lovely post Bob. X

[heartmatters1 in reply to BobD]

I’ll second that Bob - husband’s done that & ‘got the t shirt’

[Hidden]

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Could it be one of the drugs? I remember Bisoprolol did it for me big time. Wasn't on it for long thank goodness. Never felt so frustrated in my life, sounds comical but it really wasn't funny.

[Hidden]

I remember sex, isn't that the thing that makes you hot and sweaty?!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Ah, I'm confusing sex with hot yoga; shows that it's been a long time!

[sann in reply to Hidden]

Hi John-boy hope all is well with you, and hope you have a very very healthy new year, speak with you soon. Sann

[Hidden in reply to sann]

Hi Sann, thank you and may I wish you the same and seasonal felicitations. I'm well and sat here sorting out emails from 2016 and 2017. I'm Secretary of a nature conservation group and in the midst of applying for a grant. It's too cold to use the rowing machine outdoors as the Christmas tree takes up the indoor space. Fortunately the nature conservation group activity day cutting scrub is not until 6th January, so indolence is the order of the day.

[Hidden]

People have written books about this sort of thing so it's a bit difficult to give an abridged account! AF can cause such a wide variety of different issues, many of which will have an impact on any physical relationship. Anxiety, fear, stress, reduced confidence, the list goes on. Then there is the concern that all that activity might cause palpitations, ectopics or worse!

Also, there are all the issues of self esteem....feeling podgy and puffing like a steam engine is hardly an aphrodisiac, so any partner involved needs to be very supportive and understanding and I guess you need to work on reducing weight etc. Medication, especially high doses of beta blockers can cause problems, but there are alternatives, but these need to be discussed with your specialist......GP's tend to only consider Bisoprolol.

If the desire is there, there are many ways in which sexual activity can be stimulated to the benefit of both you and your partner but I guess you will be familiar with most of them. Break all the issues/problem areas down into bite size chunks and then, with your partner, find solutions, some of which may require professional medical help, and gradually, things may well improve. Hope this helps........

[maxred1]

I feel your pain. I endured the trials and tribulations before eventually going to my GP. I agree, funny it certainly is not. The small blue pill. Never looked back.....

[fairgo45]

no blue pill for women or is there ?

[Hidden in reply to fairgo45]

There have been inconclusive studies of women taking Viagra.

[maxred1]

Forgive me. I had assumed that the OP would be male and that women may not have been affected. In men, certainly in my case, the combination of Bisoprolol, AF induced internal anxiety makes for a dead zone and a sound case of erectile dysfunction. To say I was totally miserable was an understatement. All the fun of very symptomatic AF, the medication, and zero libido and problematic sexual functioning. Great!!! It was a friend who does NOT have AF that suggested Viagra. In my research prior to taking it it does appear that it is not a working solution for women, but the drug is not a libido enhancer it works by opening up blood flow to sustain and enhance sexual function. Enjoy!!

[fairgo45]

Not a solution for us girls then

[Buffafly]

I hope no one is going to be offended by my comment, but if you are easily upset please stop reading now.

While I have every sympathy for you I would like to put in a word for your partner. It is very upsetting to be denied sexual fulfillment because your partner is impotent. Men tend to think there is only one way to go but may I remind you lesbians have a good time (maybe better......) Agony aunts tell women who don't find love making exciting enough to concentrate on the the emotional aspects which is piffle if the situation can't be improved but good advice if not.'Making love' is seen as a euphemism but actually it should mean something.

Best wishes, hope things improve for you.

[BobD Volunteer in reply to Buffafly]

The hidden meaning in my post had I hoped. There is more than one way to skin a cat. I'm from an age when "IT" seldom happened in courtship but we still had fun.

[Buffafly in reply to BobD]

I got it, but I'm a woman....

[Hidden in reply to Buffafly]

Don't s'pose you give lessons Buffafly ?....🤔

[Buffafly in reply to Hidden]

A new career, late in life? I'll think about it...... seriously in traditional African culture it was part of initiation to have an older woman instruct the boys in how to keep their wives happy as well as give them a little practice.

[gateman]

Can you take Viagra if in perm. Asymptomatic af and on bisoprolol and apixaban. and a statin for cholesterol.

[Bettiehough]

Hubby [72] had a prostatectomy [cancer] I am 68 and have PAF and am past menopause. We are having the the best quality sex of or life in almost 49 years of marriage. It’s not frequent and both of us has no libido but we know we still want it. Viagra dies not help for hubby but NHS has provided him with a very expensive and extremely efficient vacuum pump that has him looking like a 20 year old! Truly a glorious sight to behold and enough to get this old ladies dare i say juices going. A few useful sex toys for couple use and there we go. I only have one precaution, we have to stop after 3 orgasms and up to now i ad no AF after sex either. Just feeling very good

[heartmatters1 in reply to Bettiehough]

😂- it sure helps to keep a sense of humour. You & I are leading parallel lives.

[RiderontheStorm in reply to Bettiehough]

Bettiehough - I love a happy story and happy ending - good for you!... Stress over health is enough to put a dent in all things.

[fairgo45]

oh such funny comments they made me laugh, i find AF has certainly slowed my sex life down , its only 3 times a week now and my husbands not on any blue pill lucky me!