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I've tried so hard over past few weeks.

Since my wonderful husband was diagnosed with stomach cancer.

I've been so careful to keep calm.

Loads of tears in silent places.

This morning all well and AF kicked off.

Dr says keep calm.

Take my pills.

I'm really trying.

Bisopolol 10 mgs and VERAPAMIL taken.

Fingers crossed it doesn't last.

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booboo73

Just sending my love to you. I truly know how you feel it was this time last year my other half was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and I was in fast af. it's so hard to try and keep calm and impossible to relax. We got through it and I'm sure you will toox Sending you all positive vibes and everything crossed the af buggers off very soon x x x

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gwyn53 in reply to booboo73

Sadly for me.

They are going to give palliative chemo.

We only were told six weeks ago.

One week after our grandaughter was born.

Bitter sweet time. Live her to pieces.

I'm devastated

Love of my life.

Trying so hard to calm down.

Will try harder.

Thank you.

Positive vibes gratefully recieved

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booboo73 in reply to gwyn53

Oh I am so sorry for you Gwyn I didn't realise how extreme your situation is . life is so cruel and af is the last thing you need ... please post how you are x x x

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shirlygirly in reply to gwyn53

So so sorry, really feel for you, hope you have support of family and friends. xx

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Finvola

I'm so sorry, Gwyn and send you cyber hugs. Breathe deeply and hold your granddaughter close in your thoughts. xxx

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jeanjeannie50

Bless you Gwyn, what a time you are having right now. I really hope your AF disappears fast and you can have some respite from that. So sorry to hear about your dear husband. My thoughts are with you and please let us know how you get on.

Big hug.

Jean

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gwyn53 in reply to jeanjeannie50

Its still going.

But so am i.

Its jyst a teal inconvenience right now.

My husband is more eorried about me than jimself.

Such a wonderful man.

But not goving ip just yet.

Yoo much to do.

Carefully

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Gertsen in reply to gwyn53

So sorry to hear your news,it is such a difficult time. When my husband had his Trible bypass I found walking would calm me down, I also try to walk when in AF seems to take my mind of the beats.

Thinking of you.

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meadfoot

So sorry to hear your story. What a lot you are both going through. I find my heart behaves while I am dealing with issues ie hosp visits tests etc. It's afterwards that the heart starts to play up.

It's so hard, I do hope you and hubby can find some peace.

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Gracey23

Sending you and your husband prayers and hugs. We are herefor you , Gracey

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Buffafly

My first spell in hospital came soon after my husband was found to have an aneurysm which could have ruptured at any time. I was calm on the surface but the feelings were still there somewhere and when I was in hospital I was only upset about letting him down. It is wonderful that you both care so much for each other in such dreadful circumstances. I think it is better to cry when you can than try to 'keep calm'.

Love and hugs from Julia

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gwyn53 in reply to Buffafly

I could hug you.

I've known him since I was 19,married 44 years.

Love him to absolute bits.

I'm a fighter.

So is he.

Just keep your fingers crossed and him in your thoughts.

Thank you.☺

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gwyn53 in reply to Buffafly

Julia, thank you.

Gwynn, such a difficult time, it makes most of us think just how fortunate we are.....clearly, there is a lot of love and support from members of the forum, all of us hoping that things will improve for you and your hubby and that you can grow old disgracefully with your new granddaughter and others in your family.....best wishes.....John

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Rellim296

So sorry you are having this difficult time, Gwyn. Do hope the AF has improved or petered out now and has stopped being bothersome. x x

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Goldfish_

So sorry to hear of your situation, but 44 years of marriage is wonderful.

If the af persists it may be worth asking for flecainide pill in the pocket.

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blackcat123

Gwynn, I'm so very sorry to hear about your husband. Having a bout of AF is the last thing you need. What a terrible time for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

Sending hugs and hoping you manage to gain the strength to cope somehow.

Judie.

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dedeottie

Gwynn,I wish I could think of something wise to say but I really can't ,so just want to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers at this time. You sound so close to your husband and are both lucky to have found so much love and happiness in each other. I know you will find the strength to carry on supporting each other. Use this forum to let out some emotion whenever you need. X

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gwyn53 in reply to dedeottie

We are just very lucky.

We argue, we laugh and we cry.

Have two amazing girls and now four grandchildren.

All adore their grandad. Although the baby just seven weeks old, just Huggles him.

Bless her.

It's just so hard ,but no retreat and no surrender.

May who ever you do or don't pray to. Be with you all for your kindness and support.

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Jay10

So sorry to hear your news about your husband Gwynn. sending a big hug to you both.

Jackie

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Bagrat

Gwynn, so sorry to hear your news. I know such news is heart breaking ( and AF making). Forgive me if I have read your post badly but you may find that sharing your distress about his condition ( if you haven't already) with your worried husband will benefit both of you. I'm guessing you both know each other well enough that "being calm or brave or whatever" for each other does not fool either of you.

We are so frightened of our emotions, letting him know how you feel will not daunt his fighting spirit and you will gain strength from each other.

Sending my thoughts and very best wishes

WendyB

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souljacs4

Praying for strength and peace to surround you both and may your amazing girls and your beautiful grandchildren help you and your lovely husband to cope at such a difficult time.

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rosyG

sorry to hear this Let us know how you both get on

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AnneTS

I am so , so sad to hear what you are going through and your husband's sickness. words seem so inadequate but you, your husband, and all your family are very much in my thoughts and prayers. please keep in touch and keep posting. xx

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gwyn53

Thank you.

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HastyHeart

Such wonderful, comforting words have already been said, Gwynn, but I would like to add my love and thoughts for you both at this sad time. P!ease keep us informed on how you are, in the knowledge that all of us on the Forum care very much.

Love and a big hug, Sandra x

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gemini52

What a terrible ordeal you must be going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. Life is difficult sometimes but you sound like a tough cookie....best wishes. Patricia.

Just read your sad post Gwynn and find writing this difficult to see through the tears. My thoughts are with you and your family and just hang on in there and you will get through best wishes xx

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Kimmieblue

Dear Gwyn

Your post brought me to tears, you're trying to be so strong for your wonderful hubby yet suffering with the dreaded AF, I can't think how you must be feeling.

Sending love and very best wishes and hope the AF has subsided a little.

God bless you and your family.

K.

Xxx

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