Well Guys, Myhubby58 has said enough is enough..chemotherapy has ended and Hospice has begun…nothing worked, everything Dr tried made cancer spread worse..Hospice are really nice People and the Chaplin is an excellent Guy…Already they are beginning to manage the pain by changing some of his meds..We have come to terms that We have had a great journey together and will always remain in each other’s heart..
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I’m so sorry. It’s clear that you’ve both given everything you have and it’s time to lay down the sword. It must be a relief that hospice is able to better manage your husband’s pain. I wish you both peace.
So young and so unfair. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. Keep us posted on how the hospice goes and if they are able to keepHim comfortable. If not I’m sure the brain trust here will have suggestions. We will keep you guys in Our prayers…
You have made a tough decision but at least you will get help and relief to enjoy your time together. Your husband looks so beautiful and young. I am sorry for his situation.
We were considering hospice last year but my husband made a turn around.
Sorry your fight is coming to an end.. We all know we will see it one day. My journey started in May 2019 just ahead of your husband. My wife and I are still holding in there with our fight. I will be watching your trip to see what I can learn from it and thank you for posting for the rest of us... God's grace be with you...\Doug
I have seen your previous posts and I’m so sorry for the pain your husband suffers and the pain you suffer as well. You are strong. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Every time I write how sorry I am , I want to scream No More it’s not fair😪. I am just now sending a donate to hospice , they help families during such a nightmare time. May your time together be filled with loads of love and no pain for your wonderful husband. Sharon
As a powerful individual you can only outlast something that is not impossible. Cancer of any form, once it takes hold, it utilises the animal's body's own basic cell structure of life, it's very dna, to replicate and ultimately destroy the being. Just our one basic 'flaw' as animals. The creator in my mind, and that is being presumptuos of me, needed to analyse that little bit, just a little bit harder, before 'signing off' that day on the human genome.
We have decided to end it before he needs hospice. We are fortunate right now but we agreed whilst we are able to decide to make the decision for ourselves. This disease is cruel. I wish you both peace... and joy in recalling the memories you have made together.
We all have to face the inevitable - and can only hope that his remaining time is as peaceful and painfree as possible. Thoughts to you both from Norway.
All our thoughts, hugs, blessings, prayers with you both. Please look at out of the box pain management as well - apparently homeopathy in some cases helps. Anything to help with the pain. Pls. try to consult a homeopath. I am sure you have tried all that you could in terms of personalized treatment. And prayers always help.
I am so sorry. I appreciate you posting during such a difficult time. I’m not sure I’ll be able to do the same when the time comes. We had our first experience with hospice care last year with my father and they were a Godsend. They made his passing so peaceful and I hope they do the same for your hubby. God bless you both. 💕🙏
Whilst most of the medical profession have the best of intentions, I sometimes get the impression they often don't help. Many of the treatments have side effects that are worse than the original problem. I can empathise with your husband's feelings. I hope things go as well as possible given the difficult circumstances. God bless you and your husband.
Our hospice experience with my parents was positive. The staff was helpful, but the compassion they showed was unbelievable. These angels on earth put everyone’s comfort as their first priority. God bless you both.
You both are brave to have fought the fight. Although I don’t know either of you, my heart breaks to read about your situation. No one wants to hear such news but for those who have been in similar situations understand that your hubby is tired and just wants some peace. Bless you both, as well as your families.
So tough to read this, my heart aches for you both. We are all just passing thru but I know that doesn’t make it any easier. May God bless you both in these days and let HIS peace wash over you both.
Sometimes the toughest decisions are the best decisions. You and your husband have made the best decision in this stage of his journey. This young man is so blessed to have you by his side. Hospice is also a blessing in terms of reducing painful suffering. Praying God’s peace and His loving presence be in the midst of you both.
Too early to give up. Have you considered ADT, Immunotherapy or other Clinical Trial, Alternative Therapy which should totally change your Lifestyle and Diet and take supplements. You may try Fenbendazole which save a lot of people. Do your research to see what would help. The other members in this group can give you more information on Diet and Lifestyle change. Do regular exercise rather than sit all day for nothing. Good luck.
Such a bloody difficult place to be but at sometime we all end up in the place you are (cancer or not)... we are born, we live the best life we can and laugh as much as possible along the way and then death comes. Along the way we touch others as we go and if we are lucky we find someone to share the journey. Our legacy is within all those we touch! Happy you are sharing with all of us... celebrate life and the moments you find joy but also celebrate the unknown! Death - it quite possible our best journey's are ahead of us....Max
He is way too young to die! Most of us on this site are in our late 60’s and 70’s and feel cheated. To die in your 50’s from this disease is even more cruel. I feel so sorry for both of you.
It sounds like the right decision and one that will improve his quality of life. It will also make the time you will spend together more focused on each other and not on the treatments and side effects. I wish him a peaceful and calm journey and you the strength to endure what must be extremely difficult. Best to you both.
I am so sorry that you are at this point. We all fear that time will come for our loved ones. I hope you can enjoy the time left together. My thoughts and prayers are with you thru this final journey.
Just so sad that you and hubby are here. And so young. A lot of us share in survival guilt. I hope you and hubby find the best path forward for both of you.
Thank you for sharing. May your remaining time be the best it can be. So glad the pain is better controlled. You are a shining light for all the partners like myself who are on this awful journey. Take care of yourself too.
As a younger man on this forum (51), I know how unfair this disease can be. I have have thought about my passing quite often as treatments have failed in the past. To ‘fight or not to fight’ is not the choice we face. We all eventually will pass. As Cleodman said as he entered hospice “It is sometimes best to go with the river rather than fight the current”. Those words bring me peace. This is part of our journey and I wish your husband a peaceful transition. We are thinking of you and here for you!
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