After 5 years and 7 months and a bucket list over- filled, my lovely Michael has gone to rest. My heart is so broken and my life so empty the pain of grief so hard to accept. But I wanted to thank all of you for the support and courage you have given me when ever I asked and just knowing you were with us. God Bless x
Good night my Darling Man: After... - Advanced Prostate...
So sad for your loss. But so happy you got to fill that bucket list. Wondering.... of all the bucket list items , what was your favorite and what was his? Don’t worry if it’s still to painful to answer. But when you have time, the gang here knows we are mostly on borrowed time ourselves so we love him hear the nice stories of dreams fulfilled.
Dearest sweet Amandaking, my heart hurts so deeply for you, honey. I am saddened that you have these horrible pains. My late husband went Home to be with Jesus after his 5 years+3 months journey. While I won't dare say, "I know what you're going through," I nevertheless have been on my own journey through those pains. Each of us experience the losses of our husbands in different ways. You will soon see what good intentions your family and friends have for you, but there is absolutely nothing that can compare with your loss..... why might I say that? Because it's you who has lost your spouse. They've had their own losses, and death is probably the only thing that we can understand via our own eyes. Please do look for a widows' support group. Listen to me say that.... I have not fully done that myself, but I "tried out" three or four groups. For me, though, I couldn't get out of the groups what was needed/expected so I gave myself permission to be my own support group for a while. Grief has no timeframe. Amandaking, I am so sorry that you have to experience the loss of your husband. I wish you good days, and at least tolerable nights. You are not alone. I even needed to contact this site to ask the gentlemen their thoughts regarding their treatments, the role their wives played as caretakers, and other such questions that popped up in my head. You will receive genuine answers from these men and things to ponder that are amazing.... these are the most incredible men ever, and I appreciated each and every reply they sent to me. They are very compassionate. May you be comforted by the many blessings God grants you. They will be all around. Take time to notice the good in life. I'm sure your Michael would want you to enjoy it.
HaHaHa! Yes, and thank you. This group does have a wonderful person in the support group. (wink) In fact this person has won "Most Wonderful Person in the Support Group" so many times that I've lost count! It's time to spread the honor around a bit more, don't you think? I remember your incredible sense of humor. You had such a humorous style of comments, j-o-h-n. Wishing you continued good health!
My sincere sympathies to you. With time we learn to live with such a loss. There will always be times when the pain is palpable. Those times come but they also leave.
Know that from the postings, oh yes!-- how much you are admired for your courage, loyalty and the love you two had.
Find little moments of peace please. Those moments will become longer and the memories, though still painful, when remembered, will be cherished by you. Some of the terms of this contract of living suck--but to get to the good parts, the bad has to be accepted too.
This body is not me.
I am not limited by this body.
I am life without boundaries.
I have never been born, and I have never died.
Look at the ocean and the sky filled with stars, manifestations from my wondrous true mind.
Since before time, I have been free.
Birth and death are only doors through which we pass, sacred thresholds on our journey.
Birth and death are a game of hide-and seek.
So laugh with me, hold my hand, let us say good-bye, say good-bye, to meet again soon.
We meet today.
We will meet again tomorrow.
We will meet at the source every moment.
We meet each other in all forms of life.
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Thank you - your messages of support have been overwhelming. For those that asked - Michael relished a first ever holiday to Australia and flying by helicopter to the Great Barrier Reef - I (selfishly) embraced the last 10 weeks of shielding together at home as I didn’t have to share Michael with anybody xxxx