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Good night my Darling Man


After 5 years and 7 months and a bucket list over- filled, my lovely Michael has gone to rest. My heart is so broken and my life so empty the pain of grief so hard to accept. But I wanted to thank all of you for the support and courage you have given me when ever I asked and just knowing you were with us. God Bless x

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God bless you and Michael.

I am so sorry for your pain and loss. It has to be very difficult when you lose a close love....Someone who is a part of you. Thank you being such a strong support for Michael. That is one of the best things in the world. Please do your best to take care of yourself.



I'm so sorry, we'll be thinking and praying for you tonight.

May God give you strength to bear this big loss. May his soul move forward in her journey away liberating from this material World.

I'm so sorry that your pain is just beginning, but at least Michael's pain is over. I'm glad you had such a full life together.


Peace be with you and Michael! Shalom!

So sorry. I hope the end was peaceful. God Bless him on his next journey.

Thanks for letting us know. His physical pain is all gone now. Please don't hesitate to seek after-care services for yourself as you may need them. Big Virtual Hugs to you.

Rest in peace dear Michael.πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

Oh dear, another Brother taken :-(.

Rest in Peace and suffer no more

Hugs to you and the family


I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers of strength and comfort for you and your family in this difficult time. May your husband Michael rest in peace.

God bless you all, Psalm 23.

So sorry for your loss peace be with you.

Rest in Peace my Brother. Amandaking, praying for you and your family.

Hoping you find the strength that you need.

Many prayers for comfort and peace sent up, please take care of yourself and know we are here for you...πŸ™πŸ•ŠοΈ

So sorry to hear the news Amanda , my heart goes out to you.

Every one of us surely needs and wants someone to hold our hand, hug and kiss us goodbye and hopefully grieve for us a little ,... after.

Michael is so lucky to have you.

Best wishes Amanda

My heartfelt condolences

I lost my Michael too. His body died on May 8th, he was 50. We have two boys ages 6 and 9. I know he is still here with me and I’m sure your Michael is still with you. The kids and I look for blue birds as a sign that daddy is saying hi or sending his love. Look for your blue birds πŸ’•

Please know that your many posts have been very helpful to us. Thank you and god bless.

This is so hard and painful to hear. Men dying so young. I hope u can find peace.

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So sorry...peace

Very saddened to hear that a friend of us is no more around us

My deepest sympathy of condolences

to you and the whole family

May you hold all to the heart .we here to support and comfort during this time of pain and emptiness.

All is well dear sister.

Heartfelt condolences.RIP.

I think Michael was very fortunate to have such a loving partner to help him through the rough times. I am sure his last thoughts were full of love for you.

Condolences, God Bless!

So sad for your loss. But so happy you got to fill that bucket list. Wondering.... of all the bucket list items , what was your favorite and what was his? Don’t worry if it’s still to painful to answer. But when you have time, the gang here knows we are mostly on borrowed time ourselves so we love him hear the nice stories of dreams fulfilled.


Dearest sweet Amandaking, my heart hurts so deeply for you, honey. I am saddened that you have these horrible pains. My late husband went Home to be with Jesus after his 5 years+3 months journey. While I won't dare say, "I know what you're going through," I nevertheless have been on my own journey through those pains. Each of us experience the losses of our husbands in different ways. You will soon see what good intentions your family and friends have for you, but there is absolutely nothing that can compare with your loss..... why might I say that? Because it's you who has lost your spouse. They've had their own losses, and death is probably the only thing that we can understand via our own eyes. Please do look for a widows' support group. Listen to me say that.... I have not fully done that myself, but I "tried out" three or four groups. For me, though, I couldn't get out of the groups what was needed/expected so I gave myself permission to be my own support group for a while. Grief has no timeframe. Amandaking, I am so sorry that you have to experience the loss of your husband. I wish you good days, and at least tolerable nights. You are not alone. I even needed to contact this site to ask the gentlemen their thoughts regarding their treatments, the role their wives played as caretakers, and other such questions that popped up in my head. You will receive genuine answers from these men and things to ponder that are amazing.... these are the most incredible men ever, and I appreciated each and every reply they sent to me. They are very compassionate. May you be comforted by the many blessings God grants you. They will be all around. Take time to notice the good in life. I'm sure your Michael would want you to enjoy it.

Warmly, Susan

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Hello Susan, It is a pleasure and a delight to see you here again. Your sweet husband would be proud of you...Keep posting here and I must say that you have a wonderful person in your support group...

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Monday 05/25/2020 7:16 PM DST

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HaHaHa! Yes, and thank you. This group does have a wonderful person in the support group. (wink) In fact this person has won "Most Wonderful Person in the Support Group" so many times that I've lost count! It's time to spread the honor around a bit more, don't you think? I remember your incredible sense of humor. You had such a humorous style of comments, j-o-h-n. Wishing you continued good health!

Sincere condolences.

But at least Michaels pain is over.

Now let the healing begin Amandaking

Let The Healing Begin.

I am so sorry. Rest In Peace, dear Michael

So very sorry for your loss, may you find comfort in his memory, and the life you lived together.


From me too, my sympathies.

So sorry for your loss

Amanda, I am so very sorry for your loss particularly in these difficult times. Love and light, Mel.

Peace to you both.

My almighty god hold you and Michael in his ever loving arms..

Peace be with you

My sincere condolences.


Sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry

The pain

The sadness

I pray for you

I’m sure he knew how you loved him

God Bless

Peace be with you and know that Michael and the Lord are at your side

My sincere condolences

Strength to you and eternal rest to Michaels soul... πŸ™πŸ™

My the Lord strengthen you!!!

Keep strong love xx

So very sorry for your loss. πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

So very sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss and may peace be with you.

Your post means so much to us in your hour of pain and grief. We all grieve with you. God bless.

I am so very sorry for your loss. May memories of your time with Michael bring comfort to you and your boys.

RIP Brother Michael.

Peace to you and yours.

Sending you some love , strength and hope to bare this pain He is gone but now in a better place and still loving you

So very sorry

I'm so sorry to hear that. Be strong, and if you can't be, try to endure. Do you have close family, friend or some support. You need a shoulder, you need to be with caring people.

I'm so sorry. I'm so happy you got to over flow the bucket list. May you find peace and comfort in many wonderful memories. πŸ’•βš˜


My sincere sympathies to you. With time we learn to live with such a loss. There will always be times when the pain is palpable. Those times come but they also leave.

Know that from the postings, oh yes!-- how much you are admired for your courage, loyalty and the love you two had.

Find little moments of peace please. Those moments will become longer and the memories, though still painful, when remembered, will be cherished by you. Some of the terms of this contract of living suck--but to get to the good parts, the bad has to be accepted too.

So sorry!


My condolences. Wishing you and the family peace.

My deepest condolences.

I'm so sorry for your loss but he is in a better place now.

So very sorry for your loss of your beloved Michael. Your care of him was inspiring to my wife and I. May the peace of the Lord be with you and your family and may your memories of your life together warm your heart daily.

There are no words- I personally feel your loss as my husband just lost his battle in January this year to this disease.

We all fight so hard- also we fought for 5 years.

Take it one day at a time- and Faith helps to get through this.

Peace be with you!

I am so very, very sorry. My husband Michael lost his battle 4 months ago. Praying for strength through this very sad and hard road. If you ever need to talk I am here.

My condolences to you and your family. A wise man once told me ' take one day at a time and take it as it comes' it will be hard but not impossible look to the future with your children and remind them what a great man their dad was.

Condolences to you and Michael

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

So sorry for your loss...

So sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.

Sorry for your lossπŸ˜­πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

Stay strongπŸ™

May he Rest In Peace !

So very sorry for your loss. God Bless you

Thinking of you and your family !!!

Condolences and Prayers.

May god be with you both. My sincerest condolences.

Prayers to you Amanda and mzy God lift Michael into his eternal kingdom.


My heart goes out to you.

So sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry. Michael was so blessed to have you by his side. May He Rest In Peace now. May God grant you tranquility in your heart always and bless you.

Hugs and blessings to you, Amanda❀

I’m sorry. Peace be with you.

My sincere condolences for your loss. Rest in peace, Michael.

You've taken care of Michael at his time of need, it's time you take care of yourself.

I add my condolences for your loss

Prayers for you and Michael

I am sorry for your lost.

Sorry for your loss. I hope you can find the strength to carry on through this difficult period.

This body is not me.

I am not limited by this body.

I am life without boundaries.

I have never been born, and I have never died.

Look at the ocean and the sky filled with stars, manifestations from my wondrous true mind.

Since before time, I have been free.

Birth and death are only doors through which we pass, sacred thresholds on our journey.

Birth and death are a game of hide-and seek.

So laugh with me, hold my hand, let us say good-bye, say good-bye, to meet again soon.

We meet today.

We will meet again tomorrow.

We will meet at the source every moment.

We meet each other in all forms of life.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

I join the others in sharing your grief. I'm sure he was loved and cherished.

My sincere condolences on your loss. Keep his memory alive and hang in there . :-)

It is so hard to say goodbye. In these days of no hugs or kisses, goodbye is even harder. I send you hugs and kisses and hope they will help you and yours on your new journey.

Amanda, bless you for thinking of us as sort of a special family and letting us know that Michael has passed. Please know that we understand and even share your grief.

May your pain pass quickly and your fond memories replace them

My condolences on another life taken way too soon...prayers to you and your family 😒😒😒

May my condolences bring you comfort and may my prayers ease the pain of this loss. Michael was a lucky man to have you by his side. He must be smiling down on you. God Bless...

j-o-h-n Monday 05/25/2020 7:34 PM DST


So very, very sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family during this very tough time.

So very sorry for your loss . Prayers for you and your family.

He had a loving and caring wife. He was a lucky man in so many ways! Wishing you peace and love in your future!

Rest in peace. May God bless you with strength

So very sorry for your loss.

In deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear Michael.

Dear Amandaking

The truest thing I ever heard about this crushing pain of grief is: It will hurt a lot for a little while and a little for a long time.

I’m so sorry for your loss. And I hope that in these next weeks and months you have people you can lean on.

I cannot imagine how lonely it feels.πŸ˜ͺ

I am so sorry for your loss. Wrapping you in love and prayers.

Amanda, I admire your bravery for opening up to this online forum. As the wife of a newly disgnosised APC patient, your past is my not too distant future. I'm scared of the sadness and loneliness to come. Thank you for helping me toughen up. You are in my thoughts.

To the good fight.

Dear Amanda, what can I say that others have not already said. All I can say is im so very sorry for your loss, and God bless you and your family in the difficult times ahead. May Michael rest in peace, I will say a prayer for you all. Keep strong.

Kim xx

Love and Prayers for you. Cherish the memories but keep living as he would want.

My thoughts are with you. I cannot imagine the pain, the loss that you must be feeling at this time. It sounds as if you two kept up with your bucket list and I imagine that this will give you many bitter sweet memories. Lots of love, Carola

So sorry to hear this.......we have lost far too many to this damn disease.

Had to wait an extra day before replying as my heart could not hold it. Bless you and may the love you share abide in eternity.

May your fondest memories help you through the coming months and beyond.

My sincere condolences. I hope the good days with him will keep his memory alive forever.

Thank you - your messages of support have been overwhelming. For those that asked - Michael relished a first ever holiday to Australia and flying by helicopter to the Great Barrier Reef - I (selfishly) embraced the last 10 weeks of shielding together at home as I didn’t have to share Michael with anybody xxxx

Very Sorry for your loss.

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