About what I should expect in the future??

[Brassballmonkey]

Hey I just want to say thanks to all of you who answered my question about what I should expect in my future journey.... I deleted the question yesterday because really to be honest with you I didn't like the answers but I certainly appreciate everybody putting their input... I guess I am lucky so far... Thank you guys

[LearnAll]

Truth liberates..Best of luck.

[Brassballmonkey in reply to LearnAll]

Thanks...and the truth will tell me what to expect...and set me free...

[Kaliber]

Ya it seems bad at first .... but everyone gets used to it and adapts over time. The main thing is you aren’t throwing your life away unnecessarily over a little personal vanity. There is WAY more to life than just that ...WAY more brother. Real men ... like all the brothers here, can step up and take charge of their life and get on with their QOL celebration. All of us have the unique opportunity to learn to appreciate what remains of life ... to the fullest ... in ways we could not have done before.

It’s all good ...💪💪💪💪✌️✌️✌️

[Brassballmonkey in reply to Kaliber]

Thank you sometimes I put too much emphasis on giving up the sex part I had a good run no doubt I came this far and did not contract HIV or aids my younger brother died of it 5 years ago and he lived with it for 27 years. My family knows that when it gets so bad that I cannot take care of myself I will end it peacefully in my own time. I will not go to it no nursing home or Hospice place thanks again for your input I am very curious to know what others affects I'm going to have to go through with this disease I guess everybody's different.

[LearnAll in reply to Brassballmonkey]

BrassBall...I would respectfully request you to introspect about what SEX really means to you and why ?

For some, sex is a way of showing intimacy and love to the wife/girlfriend/SO.

For some, it is a narcissistic victory to re assure themselves that they are " cool dudes" and the proof is that they can have physical sex with so many women and therefore they are special , way above ordinary men.

For some, sex is power and control issue...to make women subservient and to suppress them and in the process feel "powerful"

Losing your brass balls...(may be gold balls) can be very very depressing if sex is the only way to feel worthy...I hope thats not the case.

As for going to nursing home...yes..it is certainly scary..specially in these corona days.

I did not intend to offend you but if you feel bad..forgive me as I am only trying to generate some honest discussion.

[Brassballmonkey in reply to LearnAll]

Sorry I did not want to sound like a hook up suite .. w/ the name BBM... I heard it in a song earlier...BTW... sex was the only way I could have control and enjoy it... I know that might sound crass, and self centered, but role play was a big part of my being... I cant help it I was a hyper-sexual... Been that way since I was very young...

[Kaliber in reply to Brassballmonkey]

Welp you’ve come to the right place. Therze many people here ahead of you and many more will come behind. We’re all “ birds of a feather “ , so to speak...brothers. You can get all the help and support the others have to offer, and kewl as it is ... you too will be able to help the new ones as they come along too ... how good is all that !! This is heavy stuff, lots of skilled weightlifters here. This site can be very beneficial for us PCa guys.

Peace 💪💪💪✌️✌️✌️

[Brassballmonkey in reply to Kaliber]

QOl??

[Kaliber in reply to Brassballmonkey]

Yea QOL ... it means a couple of things ... it’s quality of life . When you are stage 4 , it’s a term used by your oncologist sometimes uses when he gives you the palliative , hospice , stage 4 talk. The talk that says “ settle your affairs, gather your loved ones and focus on your remaining time / your quality of life . That he’ll , along with your Whole medical team , be trying to provide you with the highest quality of life / best pain management etc. ( sometimes difficult considering how awful most of the treatments are , and sickening-painful the disease can be )

Since you ( me ) are stage 4 ...... as is nearly everyone on this group , All of us can exchange ideas , methods that we use to improve our quality of life for ourselves and our families and support Each other .... as all of us march to our end Together. Brothers for sure.

QOL is the basic theme behind palliative care.

💪💪💪💪👍👍👍

[Brassballmonkey in reply to Kaliber]

Hey Man,

I really appreciate your feed back... I just feel alone so much with this... I have no one that I know in this area... I had an appointment for last Month to The Dempsey Center last month ...but on my way there they canceled...So I've been looking to chat I heard the word cancer ... after that I have no idea what he said... I told him I was going from beer to good scotch. What it comes down too they caught it way , way,way, too late.. Who knew?? I can walk and no surgery for me...so until I can't take it any more..I'll continue to move. But what I want to know are things like bags , and kidney failure?? Does that happen?? Bowels movements??/ Urinating?? Come on some one tell me what and when to expect it?? My mother took care of my dying brother for 15 fucking years...THAT ain't happening with me...These are things I want to know. I want to know.. Does it all have to do with what I do for treatment ..? Is the side effects that bad?? , its it worth a fuckin' blood clot to the head?

[Collarpurple]

Woman view So without sex , you have no life?

Gosh that’s sad, because there is sooo much more to a good man or even a very bad man lol

Really had to put the last in for John, cuz I know

He will have a thought or two😃

[j-o-h-n in reply to Collarpurple]

Average dumb male to above average dumb male: Harry, why do women fake orgasms?

Above average dumb male: Who cares?

April 16th. Day my Dad passed away many years ago (can't forget)

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Thursday 04/16/2020 6:37 PM DST

[Collarpurple in reply to j-o-h-n]

No matter the yrs the lost of a parent is always hard❤️🙏

[Brassballmonkey in reply to j-o-h-n]

hahaha good joke... yep been 10 years since I lost mine thanks for ur input

[Collarpurple]

Crap happens life isn’t fair scary times

But no one has a sure thing life

In the beginning as a wife I over thought

Now I am just glad for each day

As we have seen with this virus, if it your time then it is. So we just keep on going because this

P crap is not going run my or husband life👍

[Kaliber in reply to Collarpurple]

So , speaking of virus ..... my wife , whom usually spends a lot of her workweek on the road away from home , has been cooped up with me for 5 weeks and will probably finish her working career at home because she retires soon.

Today we were sitting in the den after lunch and she seemed somewhat agitated ...

I asked her what was wrong .... thought it might the farts, belching ... or scratching something ... some basic usual man stuff ...

She looked at me and said “ I want you to stop that “ !!! .... I was scratching something so I said “ this ? ? “ ...... she waived her hand in a wide arc in the air at me and said “ THAT “ ....!!!

😂😂😂😂👍👍

[Collarpurple in reply to Kaliber]

We love you guys, but we are only human

In marriage vows said better or worse

Not 24/7 😃

[Kaliber in reply to Collarpurple]

Yayahahahaya ...these can be stressful times, but my wife has a good sense of humor. After 44 years we’ve seriously tested the limits of both better AND worse yayahahahaya 😁😁😁😁

[LearnAll in reply to Kaliber]

In new world order...LOVE is defined as capability to tolerate each other's annoying habits.

[Kaliber in reply to LearnAll]

That’s for sure yayahahaha 😂😂😂😂

[keepinon in reply to Kaliber]

Loved the "visual" you gave!

[Kaliber in reply to keepinon]

Yayahahahaya 🦋🌼🌻🌸

Note: this was literary liberty ... my wife is very nice to me ( now ) ... and would never actually probably talk to me like that , considering. This tho she is probably thinking it now and then yayahahahaya.

[Muffin2019]

2 years into this journey, sex was good but with this you have a choice. I can live without sex, there are more important things like living, enjoying food and enjoying the moment. You learn that sex is s thing of the past and you move on, find new outlets. Good luck on this journey.

[Gearhead]

Brass: There is likely to be a new you. Try to enjoy the new you without comparing it to the old you.