My father ended up in so much pain the cancer was pushing on a nerve on his spine and he then lost use of legs and pain in neck/arm, he went to a hospice and they controlled the pain, he finally gave in his fight on 11th Feb, he was in peace and no longer in pain. He had a good quality of life right up until the last few weeks.
Sad news: My father ended up in so much... - Advanced Prostate...
Karmj, Sincere condolences on your loss. Hospice is an invaluable service to the terminally ill and their families, as they skillfully provide compassionate care at the very time we need it most. From your post it sounds like you and your father got exactly that from your hospice staff.
Having been beside at the death of four family members from cancer, I am one who favors a decision for a shorter, but higher quality of life, over one that extends a painful, miserable life - often for no more than several days or weeks at best. As one of the hospice nurse commented during the final days of one of these family members, "While modern medicine may not yet offer cures for many cancers, it does provide powerful drugs that can control the pain terminal patients have at the end of their lives."
May you find peace and solace in the knowledge that your father lives on in the lives of those he knew and loved. I'm sure his memory will be with you every day for the rest of your life. Best Wishes to You and Your Family. Be Well - cujoe
hospice is fine to a point. once they connect to the family they control the meds and the family member totally. also they aren't free medicare gets charged over 5,000 per month we got a bath aide a couple of times and a nurse maybe 1x per wk. if the family isn't medically experienced then hospice is better then nothing. if they have $$$ private duty is cheaper and does the same.
Bless you and your father. He has peace.
There really are no words to describe a loss of anyone close to you. It is hard to see them suffer. I think that it is more difficult than the suffering itself. The relief that comes from letting go of what has been so hard for so long is good, even when you may feel guilty and be incredibly sad at his loss.
There is so much that you and your dad have shared over the course of your lives that will always be there, even if faded and perhaps becoming a whisper over time. The memories and warm hugs, funny situations and sad ones too, that will pop into your head and make you laugh or cry. It means you are alive and well!
May your joy be greater than your grief and may you smile a little bit more each and every day from this day forward.
The best to you and your family and friends.
So very sorry for your loss. May your dad rest in peace!
I am sorry for your loss. Glad that his QoL was good till the last few weeks. God willing my ending will be quick too. Am praying to the God the Father that you and your family were able to share his joy during the time he was fighting this illness. Stay strong and seek peace and comfort from the Lord. He promised that someday you will see your father again.
So sorry for your loss.
May he rest in peace.
To the Karmj family, I'm guessing that the name is an East Indian name and probably Sikh. If it is I will try my best to say "Sat Shri Akal" in my Gringo best. I know that in the Hindu religion the eldest son must place a fire on their deceased parents head at the funeral pyre. That is a tough thing to do, but it must be done. May your Dad be blessed and in peace with his God. May your family cherish is memory and remember him for the rest of your lives. The Greeks have a saying for surviving family members, Η ζωή στους ζωντανούς (life to the living). Peace.
J-o-h-n Thursday 03/21/2019 2:05 PM DST