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[Jane8889]

I’ve felt bad about the idea of posting this but I’ve searched all I can without an answer so here it goes... I know I’m not the only daughter wanting her Dad to feel better, so what can we do? I know Love and Support are number one and giving as much as allowed without driving him crazy. We’re taking turns keeping him company at visits, tablet for appointments, helping Mom around the house and all the company, food, blankets and hats one could need. What could your kids do for you that would really help? Besides a cure and “being happy”. And bonus points if we can wrap it and put in under the tree next week!! <3

[Schwah]

Hard to imagine anything better than the love of a daughter nice enough to write that post. Copy it, put it in a box and wrap it. It will put a smile on Dads face for sure.

Schwah

[Tub111 in reply to Schwah]

I totally agree. We have only seen our daughter and son 3 times since diagnosis and cherished any and all visits and calls and texts. Never worry about “more”...❤️

Sheri ( wife, caregiver, cheerleader)

[Jane8889 in reply to Schwah]

Thank you Schwah 😊

[Jane8889 in reply to Jane8889]

Thanks again for this idea ⭐️

Appreciate that love and support is the best thing. (And that you found a way to wrap it!)

Happy Holidays and good wishes to you!

[Tub111]

Agree with Schwah. Package and cherish the moment he opens...❤️

Sheri (wife, caregiver, cheerleader)

[Jane8889 in reply to Tub111]

Thank you ❤️

[Grumpyswife]

Maybe something practical like hiring a cleaning lady to help your parents around the house.

My Dad at age 90 doesn’t have prostate cancer but leaks at night so I gave him six mos supply of diapers so he doesn’t have to worry about running out or wasting them.

[Jane8889 in reply to Grumpyswife]

Thanks mjbach! Mom will certainly appreciate the cleaning lady too! And he does worry about wasting them so would be good to have more around.

[Cmdrdata]

Good question and really appreciate your love for your dad. I am sure my daughters and sons loved me too. What I missed is their presence and expression of love as I know that I’ve only got a few more years of life. I don’t yet need any physical help. When I share with them my recent “good” lab report, I don’t even get a smiley indicating that they care. I think they do, but they are raising their own family now and life is too busy for them. So, just keep loving your dad and let him know that you care, and spend time as much as you can.

[Tub111 in reply to Cmdrdata]

Your story could be our story. Sadly feels like we have the flu from our kids reaction. I know they love their dad and have their own lives and families. Calls , texts and “smileys” would be greatly cherished.

Sheri (wife, caregiver, cheerleader)

PS: 😀 for you Cmdrdata

[Jane8889 in reply to Cmdrdata]

Thanks CMdrdata, I appreciate it. Time together and showing love is a gift for all of us. 😊👍🏼👍🏼 For your good reports!! I’m sorry to hear that you don’t get more of those. They are missing out!

[pjoshea13]

Hi Jane (my daughter's name too),

Maybe I'm just a grumpy old guy, but I hate to be treated as though I'm not going to make it to my next birthday. I like normal days. Nice to have visits. I don't even mind discussing PCa, but I don't need commiseration or special handling.

Best, -Patrick

[Jane8889 in reply to pjoshea13]

I don’t think that makes you grumpy at all ☺️ Special handling drives my Dad crazy too - and no crying allowed! Something I will remind myself to be mindful of.

[NPfisherman]

I like wrapping up your post and putting it in a box....Does he have a favorite food or restaurant, and if so....Do it....Take him to the ocean to watch the waves....I find that restorative when I can do it.....Take him for a favorite activity....Do all of the above...Your Dad is lucky to have a daughter like you....

Merrry Christmas

[Jane8889 in reply to NPfisherman]

Thank you, and I’m lucky too! Appreciate the ideas, favorites and fun!

Merry Christmas!

[Tub111]

Amen Nalakrats. Especially at this time of year.

My hubby just started asking and learning about faith and the Lord. Couldn’t ask for a better Christmas present.

Sheri (wife, caregiver, cheerleader) 🙏

[JamesAtlanta]

Shalom

[Jane8889]

Will do Bill68!

[Jane8889]

Absolutely! Prayers for him, you and all the other fighters and families 🙏🏼

[BrentW]

For me, patience, please. The drugs (I am on Zytiga at this point) have done and are still doing a number on my energy, concentration and short-term memory. Getting impatient with me because I am tired or forgetful does not help. Recognise that I am not the way I am because I want to be. I too would love to be the man you knew 14 years ago (before this all started), but that is not going to be. So, please, be patient with me. . . .

[Jane8889]

❤️ Thank you Brent. I will remember to be mindful of this.

[j-o-h-n]

Jane, I think you should give your Mom and Dad the best Christmas gift they ever got, give them me.

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Tuesday 12/18/2018 10:58 PM EST

[JamesAtlanta]

Jesus was a Jew 😉