I love my wife with all my heart, and we have grown closer through our journey through this disease. It has been difficult at times however because my Wife's reaction to anything that threatens her "safety" (I'm struggling to describe this issue).
Let me digress to explain, Whenever I try to speak about the possibility of having to go on disability at some point, she gets very angry. This precludes any logical discussion or analysis of the options. If I'm depressed because, well this damn disease is a pretty good reason to be depressed sometimes, again I am met with extreme anger. I'm accused of putting a foot in the grave etc..
So how do I get past this with her? How do I get her to understand these issues, at this time, are eventualities we need to address? How do I get her to understand that yes, I'm depressed right now, and I will pull out of it? I won't stay there the rest of my days. Frankly it's not possible with my personality, and secondly I am conscious of the decision to entertain the feelings. They are feelings after all, and will come and go as they please. Sometimes you have to take them in, thank them for coming and only then can you let them go. Denying they exist just, for me at least, leads to a blow out when the emotions pile up enough energy to break through your facade.
Anyway I'm sure there are a few of us in this club no one wants to join who have, or are facing these types of support issues. Maybe we can help each other through?
Peace, and love be our best journey ,