work mindset ideas?

[Amiwrong]

ok, so my work place is negative and I tend to fall into that trap because it’s a place that keeps ‘winging it’ and that means stress and higher work loads. I’ve tried being positive but it’s so flipping hard SO my question is, how do I change my mindset instead? If I thought of my job or my workplace with a different point of view maybe the negativity won’t be so contagious.

I would love to quit, but for many reasons it’s just not possible, so I thought if I changed my views maybe I’d feel less work stress.

[doodledogmom]

Been there! Is this a smaller organization or a start up?

The lack of structure is hard for ADHDers. I had an employer that did the same thing and looking back, I realize it was just growing pains. Processes were different every other day. The only constant thing was change! I had to do my best until the new process came along. This also taught me to be very process-driven and adaptable.

Remember that you can only do what you can during work hours. Try not to think about the big picture if things keep changing. Maybe focus on one day or one week at a time?

I hope this helps - good luck

[Amiwrong in reply to doodledogmom]

Hmmm the company is small but not new. It’s a family business with about 60 employees. I work closely with the owners. It is definitely a ‘wing it’ kind of place, so many grey areas, last minute decisions and changes, really bad communication, heavy work load and expectations. It’s exhausting and frustrating. My boss is toxic but of course I have to be careful. My boss vents to me and makes poor decisions based on things like “well, I don’t like that staff member because they think they are too important”. Just immature things. Because this person confides and they are my boss it’s tough. If I set boundaries they will be offended.

As well, another staff member who is somewhat important vents to me about the hoses (which I tend to agree with). One day it’s all going to bite me in the a** And as I said I don’t like this. It’s not me but I am so much pulled. This is why I’m thinking a mindset would be helpful even though this happens around me and I agree with a lot of the things that are negative there.

I hope this makes sense, but your comment about adhd and structure could explain some things for me. Thank you

[wtfadhd]

hello, sounds like u already know this job is not your lifes work nor passion but for now, you are stuck there? if that is accurate then setting boundaries is not really an option!

so maybe each day set an “ intension” and move thru your workday with that particular intention.

for example maybe one day you might decide not to shit talk anyone, im not saying you do shit talk im just using it as an example. the cool thing is that for all the times u successfully dont talk crap- you will feel proud n empowered.

the workplace doesnt change, but you do!!! terrible situations can be wonderful teachers. 🍀

[Amiwrong]

lol I like the idea of having a shit talk tally lol

And yes, i do feel stuck, like a lot of people I suppose. I’m raising a daughter with mental health issues, and my job pays decent and I’ve been there for so long that I know my job (learning new things is hard). It’s just the stress from the work load is terrible and it’s a toxic place I suppose I could say. Good people quit often.

I have to try amd step back when the negative talking happens. It’s like I don’t know it’s happening until the conversation is over and then I sit and think “damn it, I got caught in it again!”. Sometimes it feels good to vent to get it off my chest to someone else at work, but that’s not good either. I really wish I could be self employed but that’s not likely at my age and struggles - not being negative, just realistic lol

Thank you wtfadhd for your advice!