Vicious cycle

Hi new here, anyone else feel like their life because of adhd is from a scene from out of the movie groundhog day?

[Zuku42]

Yes, very much so! It can be very hard at times, making changes that I struggle to remember to keep making. I can empathize with the feeling; I hope you know that you are not alone even if I don't specifically know your struggles.

But! And here is my book nerd: The most important step a person can take is the Next Step and the most important words a person can say are I will do better! The journey matters more than the destination. If you accept who you are when you experience a failure, then that is your destination. But if you don't, then it is just part of the journey.

Yet! When the journey keeps passing the same spot over and over again, it can make one be oh so weary. SO tired. But this time is not the same as the last. You know more this time, even if you think you don't. Make those 1% improvements. 1% a day is 365% a year. And 1% is easier to do than 100% change at once. Focus on the next step, it will get you there!

[Hidden in reply to Zuku42]

That is an awesome response and insightful for me thank you. I never heard other people complain about their adhd the way I do. So yes I did feel solo.

[Zuku42 in reply to Hidden]

It can be so lonely at times. People constantly compare how they do things with my results. They have these troubles as well, they say sometimes, but they just try harder, in their opinion. People can be understanding but they also have patience limits. Sometimes, it feels like the best I can work towards is trying not to mess up, enough for their patience to recharge.

Whew, just a little vent there haha 😄 Now, on to that next step: right now it is Blueberry muffins 😋

[Hidden in reply to Zuku42]

This so awesome the opportunity to vent with people that understand. Venting is key and blueberry muffins. Lol

[Hyperasfugggg44]

Interesting way to look at it. I feel like I’ve done better at managing my scattered brain, but when I’m not taking care of taking care of myself, which is the last two years, I’ve been a hot mess.

I lose things, I start things and have piles everywhere, I get excited about something then another thing and then another thing and … forgot about the first thing lol, I speak fast and people think I’m manic.

So I recognize it and now I’m online to work on it. So yes I know that pattern and repeat feeling. I know I need to get my butt in gear and work on practicing control, mindfulness.

What do you experience?

[Hidden in reply to Hyperasfugggg44]

So like I can see it after and Im working on it but I dont notice it in the moments. At least not until now that I am actually looming for it. My sleeping pattern is a mess and that just make for a boat load of other issues. Like I sleep but restlessly and it spills over into ache and fatigue and sugar cravings etc . So now Im trying to find where its starts and then how to fix it would be the next step. Depending on what I find.

[Hidden]

So I have endless open ended projects am super easily distracted. I have constant repetitive thoughts. I dont manage time well. I really have to tunnel focus on time to be close to on time for things. I procrastinate on things that I find more difficult than others. Sometimes I lack motivation. All about the same time of the month I guess. I am organized and messy at the same time which is just weird to me. And a lot more. Im like chasing my tail trying to break a cycle I m not sure where it begins.

[Hyperasfugggg44 in reply to Hidden]

I feel like you wrote how I feel lol! Do you have a FT job or a job that allows you to be a little scattered? I should be in top of life but my sleep is a mess too. I can’t focus and when I do it’s about 9pm and then I get a spurt of energy then I sleep at 2-3am then I have calls at 7am. Then I nap through the day which throws me off and I just eat tons of sugar or drink soda with caffeine. I feel I lost control of me somehow. I need sugar detoxing for sure.

[FindingTheAnswers]

Yes. Mostly the 35-40 years of dealing with family (Dysfunction). Most of this was before adult ADHD was "Real". Others just needed to take their Meds (Adderall, etc). Also, most needed to shut the F up, and get over themselves. Stop being a Leach or a Tick. Go get a job, and start paying taxes, instead of living off the system. It hasn't been easy for any of us. Especially before our diagnosis and our ADHD Rx (Most of my life was Hell before my Rx. I get reminded whenever my Rx has worn off ). Some people (everyone on this website and more who haven't found their way yet) do need some sort of........help, guidance, understanding, acceptance. But at least TRY to do better. And now, since I can tell that its worn off, it's time for me to take my Rx.

[Little-Face in reply to FindingTheAnswers]

Swallow the Rx with your wine.

[Gettingittogether]

The truth is we have to throw out that story-narrative of sudden overnight mastery of a new life or lifestyle or habit.

It took me three years to get to the point where I would use my Waterpik before going to bed and before brushing my teeth. Waterpik has been amazingly helpful for my teeth, cutting down major dental bills. I knew I couldn't just do it overnight.

I'm in the middle of changing my eating habits ... and I figure it will take three years to get to where I want to go. The trick is to set reasonable expectations.

[Hyperasfugggg44]

Anyone want to start a sugar detox addiction challenge with me? I stress eat and I’m petite because my metabolism is like a fruit fly, but I consume sugar to ease my anxiety and because I’m addicted.

I used to put sugar in my hand and eat it as a kid. Also I can make an excuse to get the worst snacks. I drink cokes like water. I act like I’m on a desert plane and about to turn into a cactus if I don’t.

My skin is crap, my energy crashes. I feel horrible and I’m scared I’m going to have health issues from it.

Im not sure how to do it with strangers but I’m up for a zoom call with no cameras and we follow some guide online.

[dealingwithitsucks]

Yes! YES! YEEESSSS! I've all but given up on friendship because of it. And although people will say the same outcome with several people means it's time to reevaluate yourself. For me, personally, it's just not that simple.

Or with tasks, sometimes I can be on top of everything, not without the challenges, but I manage things better. The "better" days can become weeks or even a couple months....Then WOOSH here comes my ADHD flying in and I'm thrown off and get behind. I know things need to be done, but my procasination and impulsivity just kind of take over.