Dealing with emotions in relationship?

[Amcat4]

Does anyone else feel like they get sad too much in their relationship, and your partner getting upset by it just upsets you more?? Or is this just a me thing?😬

[dubstepMaul]

hi Amcat. I read about how lots of ADHD peeps have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. Might be worth looking into.

[jdelmonaco19]

It's the downside of ADHD...not being able to deal with your emotions. Try to think and say positive affirmations. Even write them down or paste them on the wall. Listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer helps too. His philosophy and lectures really help me handle my negative thinking.

[Amcat4 in reply to jdelmonaco19]

Thank you for the reply! Yes, omg I have lists and sticky notes galore... I’m actually an artist so I typically turn to painting/drawing to output and show my emotions, but recently I’ve just been in a funk I just can’t seem to shake easily. So thanks a lot for the reference, watching philosophy lectures is my hobby now a days! 😆

[happy_kitty]

The YouTube channel "How to ADHD" (highly recommended for anything ADHD really) has some great videos about ADHD relationships as well as a video or two that can help explain ADHD to your loved ones. I suggest checking them out if you haven't already.

Also emotional dysregulation (an inability or difficulty controlling emotions and/or responses to emotions) is a very common symptom in ADHD. It's definitely not just you. I have been finding it to be a struggle as well recently.

[Amcat4 in reply to happy_kitty]

Yes, I watch their videos all the time! I will definitely re-check those relationship specific ones though, thanks 😊

And yes exactly, thanks for your response! I have done some research on that recently, and it’s something I found I’m ok with. I’m totally ok with getting upset because I know it’s just a little wave of emotion that will end. However, in the eyes of my partner I’m sure it comes across way differently. Which leaves us where we are, trying to get through that seemingly exhausting emotional barrier for the both of us 😅but while still trying to inform and explain on the facts as well!

[happy_kitty in reply to Amcat4]

Not sure if this will help but I have a little trick for dealing with stronger emotions. I consciously force myself to stop and ask myself these questions; Why do I feel this way? Is this reason really worth this reaction? If no: How can I calm myself down? If yes: What can I do about it?

[ShanonTeahon]

Totally relate!

[Emready]

Yes and if you can talk to your partner about it when you're not sad, it will be easier. If they continue the insensitivity, you've got to ask yourself if thia is something you can live with. It's a very hurtful and isolating feeling. I had to talk to my husband regarding his rude reactions to some of my fearful reactions to certain things, once he saw that having someone comfort me is basic request in a relationship, he changed it around. Of course I didnt talk to him while the emotuons were high because that can be a recipe for disaster. It's very hard to wait though!