I recently started seeing someone who was probably the sort of child people associate with adhd - the highly active boy who is literally bouncing off the walls. I see a lot of potential with us but after only a very short time I have already become overwhelmed several times, I feel like I am being bulldozed.
I only recently learned about the emotional disregulation part of adhd and it explains so much about my life. In this case I am having such intense emotions all over the map, have gotten so angry already, and it's being triggered or exacerbated by his adhd personality symptoms; he is really excited so he is hyperfocusing on me but also cannot control his impulses to send me a million texts, and he is not being a good listener.
I'm torn between thinking it's all too many red flags, and thinking I understand where a lot of it is coming from, and maybe we can figure out a balance as we get to know each other better and become less anxious about this new scary thing. Part of me wants to run and hide, and part of me wants to dig into this and make it awesome.
anyone have experience dating other adhd-ers and dealing with the challenges it presents for both parties?
thanks for reading! <3