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I have never felt more alone raising my child with so many things going on ADHD/ODD

the yelling hitting, screaming, throwing.

Starting to feel like a prisoner because I’m to scared to go out with him

I just lost a 3 year relationship over this too

I can’t keep up, I can’t win

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Onthemove1971

We are so glad you have joined this group. I am sorry things are such a challange for you and your child. Many children with ADHD need 3 tools to help them control the symptoms.

These tools are: an educational plan, medication and some type of therapy.

It may seem overwhelming but if you can start on medication ( ask his doctor to help) this will help him control himself. The goal of thearpy is to learn techniques to help them control themselves. Then either a 504 plan or IEP will help your child manage school.

We are sending you big hugs we have been through your struggles and hope you can get some help soon.

We are here for you at any time.

Take care

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Aspen797

I am sorry you and your little one are struggling. As PP noted, with the right supports in place things will start to shift. You are not alone. Every state has a federally funded parent resource center for parents of children with different needs. They can help you connect with resources in your city or state that can help (doctors, therapists, nonprofits, support groups, etc.). You can find yours here: parentcenterhub.org/find-yo....

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anirush

You did not say how old your child is or whether he's on medication. It is rough and it's lots of hills and valleys. As others have said , sometimes it takes more than one medication, counseling helps both for you and the child, and educational programs for aid in school.

Not everyone understands special needs children so you may have to keep your social life separate from your child at this time.

Come vent here as often as needed

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Rainry in reply to anirush

My son is almost 6, we have been on Guanfacine for almost a month. 1/2 pill in am and pm

Slight changes not much, we do have a 504. We can not get an IEP , currently in speech therapy, wait list for psychiatry is 4 months to a year. I appreciate all the responses. Please bear with me as I’m learning how to navigate this program. I have been doing this through email is that what everyone does or is there an actual health unlocked app?

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eva2022 in reply to Rainry

I access it through email.

I hear you with the struggles. This morning I had coffee with my friend who has grown children. She is wonderful and I love her. She let me know that she thought that I should follow through every single time a non-preferred behavior occurred with any of my four children. I almost laughed out loud. That would be every three minutes or so??? My days are already so exhausting. That would truly be impossible. It’s so hard when you see all that you are doing and the (even very small) progress that you are making and other people don’t see it as ‘enough’. It’s so hard when other judge you and think that you aren’t doing enough. It’s hard on any relationship-my husband and I also have our struggles around parenting our son with ADHD and ASD.

Hang in there. Some days are harder than others. We live for the good days!!!

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NDsmom23

This really resonates with me! I have three ND children, my youngest with ADHD being the most challenging at present... I am primarily a stay at home parent and have no support from family, friends, neighbors etc. I think one of the biggest corners I will turn (for the better) is an upcoming adhd evaluation for myself, at the ripe age of 32. This morning was SO hard! But, learning about ADHD for my child has helped me understand my own inability to regulate myself. Even just understanding that this is an added factor has been SO helpful.

All this to say- I am glad you are reaching out for support and to try and care for yourself. Thank you for having the courage to be vulnerable and honest. You are not alone! Here for you.

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Rainry in reply to NDsmom23

Definitely not easy I myself am supposed to go get a psychiatric eval for adhd too. Although I’ve been so busy with Dr appointment with my little that I haven’t taken care of my self. My primary said adhd was genetic….

Everyone says self care but how when we have or I have zero support

Trying to understand every diagnosis is so hard and everything confuses me

It’s nice to have some place to vent and not be judged. I am luckily enough going on my first vacation w/o kids in 18 years today. I need the reset for my and my kids mental health.

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NDsmom23

"Everyone says self care but how when we have or I have zero support"

I know!!! Self care for me has been deduced to feeding myself, haha. At least we have this space. I hope you enjoy your reset!

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