Hi. I have a 16 year-old boy DX with ADHD & LD.. seeing an increase in lying of late. Punishment does not seem to be working, neither does praise for telling the truth.
I am at my wits end. I’m considering counseling at this point. Any suggestions? Ty 
Get to counseling, both individual and family. Our kiddos lie for a variety of reasons, mostly because of impulse control. It's important that you call them in it, but in a different way. My daughter and I do this in our family counseling. Best thing we ever did. Our counseling also does a bit of CBT with us which is great!
Thanks so much!! Yes in the process of setting up counseling as we speak 
Counseling is a great idea - they can help guide you through this.
We’ve had times if lying as well.Here’s an article on ADHD & lying that I also find very informative:
Is he on medication? My son went through a period of lying and it ended up that his medication was not effective, therefore it was not helping him control the impulse to lie. I have friend whose son had this same issue and medication adjustment helped.
Yes he’s on concerta and intuniv... I was always told Intuniv addresses the impulsivity.. maybe dosage needs to be tweaked. Thanks so much for the advice .. will talk to his doctor
I agree. Work with a counselor. Lying is common in at this age range and may be more common in those with ADHD related to impulsivity. We survived it, with our parent radar telling us when the lying behavior is happening.
My son lies a lot also. I think it has a lot to do with impulse control and not thinking things through logically. It does not excuse the dishonesty though. Punishments and rewards/praise do not really work for me either.
Counseling!!
We never found direct questioning to help us. It just forces him to not be honest, which he is doing becuase he doesnt want to get into trouble.
Good luck
This is one of the best tips I've ever heard. I wish we had realized this during our son's teen years. ADHD kids think they're going to get into trouble most of the time and I think my son was ready to lie if we asked him a direct question. And much of the time we already figured out he was going to lie anyway.......this led to a lot of unnecessary fights.
So glad it helps, YES we know they are lying. I think about myself- it is hard to accept when someone confronts me about something. We talk about things, but around them without the blame. It has changed our lives. Many issues have stopped.
Glad the tip can help.
I am beginning to see that as well.. that he gets ‘trapped’ when asked a direct question which leads to more lies! Ty!
Counseling was good for our family but I will share what an Australian ADHD specialist learned about lying and other behaviors with Dr. Edward Halloway. Check out this explanation on Youtube: youtube.com/watch?v=7P3pOYh...
With our kids, (and adults, too) with ADHD, there can be either a fight, freeze, flight, fatigue or fib response to stress. Your and your son's insight into what contributes to his fibbing through counseling and/or learning more about the brain can help. Good luck. (And I've seen and experienced this with my own daughter. The 5 F's improve over time but she still takes a lot of naps.)
Hi, I have been struggling with this with my 16 year old daughter for awhile now and one of the things that has helped is to say…kids your age often lie, but it becomes a bad habit that is hard to break. It doesn’t make you a bad person but it’s hard to trust you. If you lie to me, it’s ok to give yourself a few minutes to calm down and then come to me and say, oops I lied. It just came out. We will deal with the consequences of whatever it is, but I won’t consider it lying if you tell me. This doesn’t work 100% of the time of course, but more and more frequently she has fessed up and said she didn’t know what else to say. I try to be easier on those times and she’s trusting I won’t automatically get mad. I don’t know what I’m doing either so let me know if you find something else! Good luck 🤷🏻♀️
Wait, I just saw I was responding to a 2 year old text. So….did it get better with age?? Please say yes🤞🏼
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