Educating loved ones about MY ADD

[Cheyannejade93]

My relationship is struggling. My loved one has his own idea of what add is and why i take medicine. And it is far from the truth... the facts. What would you do? Any videos professionally explaining how a brain with add works would be helpful. Thank you.

And prayers for a softened heart of my loved one.

[Jamie4MN1520]

I am learning that so much of the ADD can come yes, from brain neurotransmitters, but also from the environment we grew up in. The Trauma from even being unwanted and the tension that existed between husband and wife while (we were) in utero. Memory experts say that memories are stored from 8 weeks on. I am going through inner healing on the process to recovery, while my husband who doesn't take his medicine, is not. I can't do anything except strive to live in continuous forgiveness for how I am hurt and come to a place of seeing everything of the past be healed so it is not a trigger for me to continue to separate us in the future. As far as he is concerted, I have the bigger problem, anger and always wanting more than his (current) ability to give.

[Specialneedsmom]

Hello just read your post is your loved one open to counseling this may help sending positive vibes your way ❤️

[Cheyannejade93 in reply to Specialneedsmom]

I've mentioned it. He doesnt respond like hes open to it.. 😔

[HeathersWellness]

Hi Cheyanne,

I’m so sorry for your sadness today but I’m very happy that you reached out. ADHD can be quite a challenging disorder to comprehend and receiving a diagnosis of is often a very difficult experience for the person who has it as well as for those who are the closest to them. There are a variety of resources that can help persons immediately after diagnosis and all throughout life.

Edward Hallowell, M.D. Ed. D., a New York-based board-certified child and adult psychiatrist has done extensive research on ADHD and is a well-known international authority in this area. You can find him here: drhallowell.com/. He has written several books and lectures frequently on the subject. He currently has centers in Boston and New York where patients can seek help. You may already know of him due to his popularity. Do you live close to one of the cities? If so, you may want to book an appointment.

Also, if you’re looking for access to newsletters, videos, webinars, clinical advice or community networking opportunities, I would recommend you scroll through ADDitude Magazine (additudemag.com/). There’s a ton of information on the site all related to the puzzling aspects of ADHD.

Living with ADHD is not easy and having a partner who understands the totality of your condition is very important as you have said.

In addition to gathering information for you and your significant other to view at home, I’d also like to encourage you to invite him to attend your appointments with your doctor and other ADD professionals so that he can be free to ask questions and clarify anything that still remains clouded in confusion. The right doctor that you feel comfortable with along with a strong support system and other reliable interventions can really make a difference in your prognosis and in the health and quality of your life and relationships.

I know you can do this. You seem like a brave woman and I truly empathize with what you are going through. Trust that things will work out. I’ll be praying you through this as I ask the Lord to touch the heart and mind of your loved one and intervene in your relationship as well!

[Cheyannejade93 in reply to HeathersWellness]

Thank you so much for info. I'm definitely giving my all. Some days harder then other. Some minutes harder then other. But I did just come across the add magazines at my daughters counseling office. Subscribed the next day! I slowly leave my loved one an article or 2. He never mentions anything about them. I almost feel like he is mad because I take medicine for it. I dont understand why.

Thanks for all info. I've been looking for all of it! It definitely all has potential to help our relationship. God bless you.

Prayers much appreciated.

[Pennywink]

I really love this video by Russell Barkley. Though it's primarily targeted at parents of kids with ADHD, his explanation of the disorder in general is one of the best, in my opinion. All of his stuff is good.

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I also really like the website Understood.org

I'm also gonna agree with HeathersWellness - take your loved one with you to appointments with your treating physician(s). They may be more likely to listen to a professional.

Praying for you!

[Cheyannejade93 in reply to Pennywink]

Thanks so much. Will be watching and reading up on all this. Thank you so much. This really means a lot to me.