Another suspension

[Paxtonsmommy]

Had to pick my 6 year old up early today again for hitting the teachers. Sigh. It’s never ending.

[AmyG3]

I understand completely! My son is 6 as well and has been suspended 3 times now and I cant even count how many times I have been called to pick him up early. I think the school has just given up on working with him. We are on our 2nd IEP this school year. All I can think about is “how does a 6 yr led get suspended?”

[Paxtonsmommy in reply to AmyG3]

Right?! He has been suspended more times in 2 years than I have in my whole school life!

[Grandma01]

I truly believe a weighted vest would cure your blues. It's something that they are missing that the weighted vest or of her weighted products with.

Since we bought the vest in January he wears it everyday and it stays at school so we don't have to transport it back and forth everyday. He has been wearing one since preschool. I would get one for home but he has been in the one he wears for school nearly 8 hours. If you read my earlier posts you see that he had nearly the same issues and no problems since.

They don't cost much and you should probably see if you school would purchase it as part of of IEP or 594 Plan or even OT.

[mdmom]

I have a six year old as well, and he has hit teachers on 3-4 occasions but the teacher would just send a note home and my son would get red for the day. I was surprised she didn't do more like send him to the principal, and I have talked to my son about how hitting teachers is not acceptable behavior.

I don't remember how having an IEP plays into how students are disciplined, but I'm assuming it's a judgement call with each teacher/school. I know if my son was older, they probably would have done more. He is in a special education Kindergarten classroom and saw horrendous behavior from two students who have since been placed elsewhere, so the teacher might be more forgiving because he picked up these behaviors at school.

Anyway, I'm surprised to hear that six year olds are being suspended. I would request an IEP meeting regarding this.

[AngelamarieQ]

Does your son hit you too? This is very troublesome.

Is he on medication, psycho therapy or any other kind of treatment?

Could it be that he wants to go home and is using this strategy to get his way?

It’s hard for me to give you advice since I never had that issue with my daughter. On the contrary, I get letters from teachers Praising her for her kindness and polite behavior. She, actually, is a mediator when conflict arises in classrooms; And this has been consistent for the last 7 years. My daughter’s symptoms are lack of focus, executive functions and anxiety.

Seek medical/ psychiatric help. This behavior is just going to get worse as he gets older if it’s not controlled with the help of a team of experts.

In the meantime, try the weighted vest that grandma01 uses with his grandson. It might do the trick.

[klarashephard]

hey go to brain balance or get him tested or try medication

[Natasha_W]

My daughter is now 11 but we’ve gone trough the same thing. The earlier school years were really rough on her as well as our hearts. I said to my husband many times “how can a teacher feel threatened by a small child ?” We had rough days at home but not to the point of aggression she would have at school. And it wouldn’t be on any particular teacher or person. Things have gotten a lot better the older she’s getting but we still have moments of her being impulsive along with her everyday ADHD.

I really don’t feel like it’s a psyc issue but more of how they are wired. So many years I’ve felt alone and judged as a bad parent. I know I’m not a bad parent and my daughter really wants to do the right thing but constantly battles with her ADHD.

[Mmagusin]

It's important to understand the triggers. Does he hit others or just this teacher? Don't discount a negative relationship or personality conflict with the teacher, as all teachers are not created equally. Our ADHD kids have trouble articulating frustration so their impulse is to lash out, and they do not have the ability to think before acting like most kids. Does the teacher understand that? These kids must be managed differently

[MunchkinMommy537]

My son was transferred to a special class for kids with emotional regulation issues, and while it’s nice to not worry about him being sent home every day, he has picked up some bad behaviors from the other kids in that class. We have been assured that he won’t be sent home unless he gets really bad. Now we’re worried about him being kicked out of his aftercare program, because they don’t have to provide care to him. Thankfully they see that he really is a good kid who just has problems when he gets upset.

[anirush]

So sad that something most of us have dealt with. The Dallas School District has discontinued suspending any children younger than second grade. They say they're going to work with the child to find out what's causing his problems. I don't have one that young anymore so I don't know how this is going so far.

[Cstreet]

Ugh, no suggestions just sending you sympathy. Lucky for us, my son was done hitting those in authority after about age 2. We held his arms to his sides and said "no hitting". After what seemed like 1,000 times, he stopped. We made him try the wrestling team in middle school - wish we had started sooner (judo) - which contained his roughhousing mostly to willing participants. Now at age 18 he does not quite believe us when we tell him he used to hit his playmates, and that they may not yet have forgiven him.

Pushing him towards adhd friendly careers. With adrenaline, he performs well.