A Mom overwhelmed

[mdelgado]

Hello my name is Mariana. I have a 14 Year old daughter and a 17 Year old son, both have ADHD. I am 52 years old and with my hormones on the decline while theirs are on the incline I feel like I'm at my wits end. This stage of parenting feels scary. I'm having a hard time letting go as they push for their independence. I feel like I haven't been able to get all the lessons in, like my approach has as annoyed them and they they've mostly experienced me as frustrated. Any tips for a new approach to get them to do simple chores. Also does anyone have an effective way to manage technology?

[Hidden]

Hi,

If it's any consolation, you are not alone! What you are experiencing is common for parents of any age!!

In terms of parenting ideas, I really like the Parenting with Love and Logic program. They have a lot of resources and tools for things like dealing with chores and technology. There's a website and a book.

But regardless of what tools you use, the most important thing is for you to find a way to take care of yourself and to manage your thoughts and reactions so that you can stay calm(er) no matter what your kids do or not do. Although you can't control their actions, you can control your reactions (which then has a ripple effect and helps you get different results).

Also, it's important that you try to keep your relationship with them strong even if they drive you nuts! Rules without relationship= rebellion. So to the extent you can find ways to like them and have fun with them and build mutual respect, the better off you will be when you try to put new rules and limits in place. Feel free to check out my website where I have lots of articles and free resources that you might find helpful.

Hope this helps!

Joyce Mabe, Parenting Coach, website parentcoachjoyce.com

[mdelgado in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Joyce. I will check out your website.

[nawilliamsjr23]

Take things away. Like the technology!! Do not let them disrespect you at all! If u say ur going to do something do it!!