Living with a spouse diagnosed with Anxiety and Depression

[lilymenna]

I was in a relationship with a man diagnosed with Anxiety and Depression 2 years ago. We're married 3 months ago. We had roller coaster of emotions to since we first met until now. I first knowing his mental health issue when he was having issues due to his last relationship. That's the main reason that triggers his Anxiety. He battled with Depression since he was in highschool. So he's a fighter of his mental health issues for years.

I had never been close to someone with mental health issue this close. So I never thought I could be dealing with one. It was and it is very tough. Everyday is a battle. He is having his own battle, and indirectly I have to face a battle in order to deal with him.

Waking up everyday feeling anxious not knowing how his mood gonna be. We're currently working together at home. We're love partners and also work partners. It's hard to be professional, especially when you're working at home. We have our own roles in our job, but whenever things go wrong it is all my fault. He always remind me that communication is the key. But every time we tried to communicate, it turned into argument. I lowered my tone, tried to talk in most calm tone to avoid him getting a angry. I feel very anxious to get him communicate with me. I'm afraid that I might say wrong thing.

These few days he talked about divorce. He wanted to divorce me because he cannot stand living with me. I couldn't reach his expectations. "We're not on the same level" he said. God knows how many times I felt so exhausted and feeling like running away. He said he couldn't feel my sincerity and love. He said I faked my love this whole time. It stabs right here deep in my heart. God knows how much I love him and I tolerate with him.

He needs help. I also need one. We both need help. But mental health is killing both of us. How long till we gonna survive :/

[pam4him]

So sorry for the difficult situation. If he's not in counseling, it could do him and you both a lot of good. Even if it's online, it's worth it. It sounds as if he should be on medication. If he's not, a dr visit could get that going to help balance him out. Having a partner with mental health problems is trying and tiring. You have to keep telling yourself his comments are coming from a dark place that is hard to get out of alone. And it's probably what he thinks about himself, but projecting it onto you with the comments. Even if your in the same space, perhaps emailing questions could help. Even working in separate rooms if necessary. It may take being creative, but some "alone time" might help. Prayers for wisdom and guidance through this difficult time.

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Have u thought about individual n couples therapy?