I am so upset.

[Pinkpeony]

I'm so upset, I have been trying to converse with somebody for quite a while.My wife (pink peony.)Mary Hogg.

Passed away last year after a long illness. I just wanted to say she found solace in your website, which helped her through trouble times.

I feel I must say, we had major problems with doctors and the N H S.

I will remain thankful for the understanding and comfort you gave with your website.

Mr R. Hogg.

[Star13]

I’m so sorry for your loss 💜

[Pinkpeony in reply to Star13]

THANK YOU.

[SlowDragon Administrator]

So very sorry to hear of the loss of your wife, Mary

Pink Peony was a long standing and valued member of this community.

Very sorry to hear she had difficult problems with doctors, sadly not uncommon with thyroid disease.

Thank you for letting us know, and that Mary found solace and support here on the forum.

[Pinkpeony in reply to SlowDragon]

THANK YOU.

[SeasideSusie Remembering]

I'm so very sorry for your loss Mr Hogg. It's good to hear that the forum was helpful to Mary. It's difficult when one loses one's life partner and it takes time to adapt to this new chapter in life. I hope you have the continued support of family and friends.

There are many of us here who find the NHS and doctors are not all they might be, it's a sad situation.

I'm so upset, I have been trying to converse with somebody for quite a while.

Do you mean there is someone here that you particularly want to communicate with? If so and you know their user name we can try and help.

[Pinkpeony in reply to SeasideSusie]

THANK YOU.

[Rowing2 in reply to Pinkpeony]

so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family at such a sad time. Xx❤️❤️❤️🌈

[Pinkpeony in reply to Rowing2]

Thank you.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Pinkpeony]

Sorry ,no ,the matter was resolved.I cannot thank this site enough for it's help and understanding.I just hope anyone in similar circumstances can be aware of site's like this ,were the help and friendship will see them through the most difficult times.

[Buddy195 Administrator]

I am truly sorry for the loss of your wife, Mary. Thank-you for reaching out to us and letting us know of her passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers 🦋🙏

[Pinkpeony in reply to Buddy195]

THANK YOU.

[Hidden]

Mr Hogg,

I’m so sorry for your loss. May your wife rest in peace.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Hidden]

THANK YOU.

[Arkenstone in reply to Pinkpeony]

My deepest condolences. I know she is now in a much better place. She is watching over you and will be in your heart always. Prayers assured for her soul from us.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Arkenstone]

THANK YOU.

[helvella Administrator Thyroid UK]

Thank you for letting us know, Mr Hogg.

Within the sadness, I am glad that we managed to give her some help.

I have sent you what we call a Private Message or Chat. Can you see a yellow/orange mark at the top of the page near Chat icon?

If so click on it and follow through to my message.

It isn't urgent. Just something that I feel better said privately rather than on the forum.

If you can't see it, reply here to let me know.

The Chat icon

[Rapunzel]

R

I hope that you find solace in the fact that although Mary found little succour with NHS medics., she was not alone but part of a huge community which would have been the source of alternative views to those held by the NHS and GPs. and at the very least, many people who have suffered as she did.

Regrettably, she wasn't alone in finding so little assistance from mainstream medicine; it must have come as much of a shock to you as to her, when she found that the prescribed medicine she was offered was less than useless - even when she doubtless told them that she remained unwell.

Sincere condolences.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Rapunzel]

So true in many ways.THANK YOU.

[Yellup1]

I’m so sorry for your loss . It’s so tragic when one can’t feel they can communicate with their doctors on the NHS so they give up and try to find other sources . I lost my husband last year too albeit to cardiac arrest not thyroid disease but loss is loss so I have an idea of what you’re going through . I think the NHS is undertrained when it comes to the thyroid alas which is hugely frustrating and isolating for sufferers . I’m glad your wife found some solace here and obviously I send you condolences and much empathy and love ❤️

[Pinkpeony in reply to Yellup1]

THANK YOU.

[Lassithi]

So sorry for your loss, sadly the medical profession are a long way from catching up and your wife’s experience is all too common. Grateful that she did find comfort and support here and hoping that she now may rest in peace with no more illness and/or pain.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Lassithi]

THANK YOU.

[Delilahmy]

so sorry for your loss ….. I’m happy that you felt Mary was supported here on the group. It’s very lonely being ill without support and the NHS has a few big gaps where they don’t get it right or let us down. Again so sad to hear your news

[Pinkpeony in reply to Delilahmy]

THANK YOU.

[NiamhP]

so sorry for your loss. May the happy memories be a comfort to you and help you . The NHS is indeed struggling but there are many wonderful staff doing their best.

[Pinkpeony in reply to NiamhP]

THANK YOU.

[Canu]

I'm so very sorry for your loss Mr. Hogg. It's very kind of you to let us know. Thank you. What a shame it is that so many patients still suffer in the hands of doctors. How painful it must be to lose a loved one under such circumstances. May she rest in peace.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Canu]

THANK YOU.

[Suzannah17]

I am so very sorry to hear that your wife has passed away, thoughts and prayers with you at this very sad time, may she rest in peace.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Suzannah17]

THANK YOU.

[Candyben]

So terribly sorry for you're loss. Deepest sympathies to all concerned 💙

[Pinkpeony in reply to Candyben]

THANK YOU.

[Bunnyhopps]

I am so so sorry for the loss of your lovely wife Mary. You must be devastated. As everyone has said on here....if you need help there are lovely people here that can listen and help if they can. Take care of you.❤️

[Pinkpeony in reply to Bunnyhopps]

THANK YOU.

[Digger0]

So sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you have accessed some of the bereavement support websites etc, to find similar people to talk to.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Digger0]

THANK YOU.

[Doris11]

so sorry for your loss Mr Hogg sending love your way xx

[Pinkpeony in reply to Doris11]

THANK YOU.

[BlueMoon65]

Am so very sorry…amidst your grief, I hope you can take comfort from the knowledge that your wife felt reassured by the excellent support on this site. It makes all the difference when we know that there is an alternative route to advice and widespread experience. Your deep concern just demonstrates that she was also very fortunate in having a life-partner who gave her such care and love.

[Pinkpeony in reply to BlueMoon65]

THANK YOU.

[SilverSavvy]

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Mary, Mr Hogg. RIP Pink Peony

[Pinkpeony in reply to SilverSavvy]

THANK YOU.

[Starmen]

I am so sorry for your loss I hope you find comfort in the messages you receive from members on here. Take care

[Pinkpeony in reply to Starmen]

THANK YOU.

[SarahJane1471]

I’m so sorry to hear this news. This must be heartbreaking for.

I can’t find any other words 😒

[Pinkpeony in reply to SarahJane1471]

THANK YOU.

[Pinkpeony in reply to SarahJane1471]

THANK YOU.

[Hidden]

So sorry for your loss. I personally look into everything myself now as I believe most doctors go off a script and it's more to do with financial gain over health. That is just my opinion before I get attacked everyone is intitled to that at least x.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Hidden]

THANK YOU.

[Geegee777]

I'm so very sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you 🌸🌸💜💜💜

[Pinkpeony in reply to Geegee777]

THANK YOU.

[Rosiegough]

I’m so sorry to read this. May Mary rest in peace ❤️May you find comfort that she is at peace and forever lives on in your heart ❤️

[Pinkpeony in reply to Rosiegough]

THANK YOU.

[Alanna012]

So very sorry for your loss. I'm glad your wife received comfort here. She'll always be thought of fondly by people on this site, for whom I'm sure her contributions would have been a source of sympathy and fellow feeling. She must of been a person of great perseverance, wisdom and strength, as it takes these qualities to get this far in trying to help yourself, against a backdrop as you say of little formal medical help. She must of been lovely🌹

I shall keep you in my prayers.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Alanna012]

THANK YOU.

[Mothebear]

What a lovely thing to do. It is so hard sometimes to think beyond loss, but to actually express a gratitude when sadness and hurt so often turn us inwards, is a wonderful gesture. I’m sure your words and wife’s experience are very heartening to this community. I do hope you find someone extends the same caring towards you as you face a new future.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Mothebear]

THANK YOU.

[Auders]

Rest in peace Pinkpeony. Condolences to Mr Hogg and family and friends. Fly high Pink ❤️‍🩹

[Pinkpeony in reply to Auders]

THANK YOU.

[ostiad]

I am so very sorry for your loss, my Condolences to you. May you rest in peace Mary 🙏❤ xx

[Pinkpeony in reply to ostiad]

Thank You.

[HowNowWhatNow]

Hello Mr Hogg

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

This is a vital community to so many.

I am glad to hear it brought help and kinship to your wife’s experience of trying to get thyroid support.

When your wife’s funeral is in the past and when the huge list of administrative jobs I am sure must be on your desk, following her death, is shorter, do you think you could possibly please write more here about her symptoms, which weren’t eased through NHS care, or what the struggle to get help she faced consisted of? And indeed, what did bring her health some improvement, following advice here or from doctors she found through here?

If this is a job you’d rather not do, I’d completely understand.

I’m always aware when I look at websites for charities that are expert in different health conditions / raising awareness of them that there are statements on them from people who have lived with these illnesses or whose family members have lived with them. I don’t think we see enough of them for people who have / had thyroid conditions.

Please tell me where to go or just ignore this request if you’d rather.

My condolences to you and your wider family at this extremely sad time.

[Manycrafts]

So sorry to hear your news. It must be very hard for you right now and I hope it helps to know people are thinking of you at this difficult time. It is frustrating dealing with doctors and the NHS at times and getting them to understand. Best wishes in this difficult time and take your time to grieve and be kind to yourself and others too and they will respond in kind.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Manycrafts]

THANK YOU.

[BonnieG123]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your wife, Mary. May she rest in peace. God bless you for reaching out to thank this wonderful group for their many contributions.

[Pinkpeony in reply to BonnieG123]

THANK YOU.

[BonnieG123]

You’re welcome. Stay strong.

[Fruitandnutcase]

I’m so sorry to hear your sad news Mr Hogg. I remember Pinkpeony. I’m glad that she found TUK and Healthunlocked a comfort - I think a lot of people feel that way too. It’s very sad too that you felt let down by your doctors and the NHS.I’m sending my kindest wishes to you and I hope in time you will smile when you remember the happy times you have had together rather than the agony of it all that you are feeling at the moment.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Fruitandnutcase]

Thank you.

[Kowbie]

I’m so sorry for your loss

[Pinkpeony in reply to Kowbie]

Thank you.

[Kowbie in reply to Pinkpeony]

your welcome look after yourself

[Polly91]

I’m so saddened to hear this Mr Hogg.

I remember your wife was v kind in her replies to others going through difficulty (including me a few years ago). It’s upsetting to hear she had such little support from the medical community when she needed it most.

She will forever remain in your heart and mind.

All the best to you

[Pinkpeony in reply to Polly91]

Thank you.

[Hashiboy]

really sorry to hear of your loss.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Hashiboy]

Thank you

[Fluffyone]

❤️

[Pinkpeony in reply to Fluffyone]

Thank you.

[thyr01d]

Like all the others, I too am so very sorry for your loss. Though it doesn't take away the pain, I hope you can find some kind of solace in knowing that your wife had you to turn to for loving care and support in her illness.

[Pinkpeony in reply to thyr01d]

Thank you.

[Verde1]

I am so sorry for your loss. RIP

[Pinkpeony in reply to Verde1]

Thank you.

[buddy99]

Dear Mr. Hogg, my heart hurts for you. It must have been so hard to see your wife suffer and not be able to find help where it should come from, the medical system. You must be devastated that she lost her life after her desperate fight to get better. I am amazed that amidst all that grief tearing you apart, you still think of coming back to this community, that gave your wife support and comfort, to express your gratitude. My thoughts and sympathy are with you. I hope and wish, that in time your sorrow will be mostly replaced by all the fond memories accumulated over the time you were given with Mary. Her struggles are now over. Maybe this will bring you some solace, even though a big gap has been left in your life. Wishing you peace.

[Pinkpeony in reply to buddy99]

This community,was and still is invaluable,it got us through the darkest day's.Thank you.

[Milkyway88]

So sorry for your loss. Glad your wife found comfort from this forum, it is helping many people.

Take care x

[Pinkpeony in reply to Milkyway88]

THANK YOU.

[Indigourchin]

Dear Mr. Hogg

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved Mary. It's so very hard to see the one we love suffer, and so hard to be without them. This is a very supportive group and I hope you will equally find some support and comfort when all the administrative trials of bereavement are complete, with best wishes

[Pinkpeony in reply to Indigourchin]

THANK YOU.

[Pinkhedgehog]

So sorry for your loss, Mr Hogg.Take care of yourself.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Pinkhedgehog]

THANK YOU.

[Litatamon]

Mr. Hogg,Thank you for sharing with all of us. I am saddened to hear about the.loss of your beloved. I can't imagine your pain, love sent to you.

[Pinkpeony in reply to Litatamon]

THANK YOU.

[Happysmile]

so sorry for your loss 💐

[Pinkpeony in reply to Happysmile]

Thank you.