I've had the same things happen in the past, and they still do from time to time, only these days I catch it once I become aware. And sometimes that's only after doing it again and there's something at that moment that pops me back into the awareness, sometging painful, usually
Here's what I've found it to be. A mixture of lowered self-esteem, because to do for others is a good thing, after a certain point though it's unhealthy. The second is people pleasing; which I've been told is nothing more than manipulation and a few other choice words I did not want to hear. This is from my experiences and these end up being extreme circumstances that usually start off with the best of intentions.
When I was married and had good insurance, my ex was a teacher. But I did not take advantage of that to have a lumbar fusion performed, she had the same diagnosis and I felt it was "the right thing to do" by letting her go through the procedures first. She had a upper back/neck and lumbar fusions. And these are extreme chronic pain issues and take its toll on every part of ones life and then some.
Today I am divorced. No surgery done, in massive pain, in a anon program, have been for just over a decade, single, near 50, and life has become 3 times as difficult just from one decision?? I wish it were that simple. She's off doing her thing, which may sound like a good thing, not from where I sit, I'll take my issues and problems any day of the week.
My point is, if I don't rearrange my life, and it's nothing short of doing just that, I could be looking at some serious, long-term effects/consequences from my actions. It is paramount that I make time for me because I have needs as well. And without our needs being met, we either away and die. Slowly. And that's not how we were intended to live. We are each special beyond belief, deserve peace and love in our lives, and the ability to be able to look at ourselves with respect and admiration the way He intended.
Make some time for you, live life to its fullest and tell me in 6 months your entire life hasn't changed...for the better. I don't think you'll have to :))