Hi all,
My dad had his assessment yesterday (via Teams) and I wanted to share my personal feedback of the experience in case helpful to anyone else.
the experience to say the least was challenging but I was mentally prepared for that. I had to find myself explaining the dangers and risks but it all boiled down to a) medication and b) consultants/professionals guidance.
Communication - I was told if my dad can say yes or no or one word responses he is able to communicate. (Despite them trying to talk to my dad and could not make out anything he was saying live on Teams). They said my mum (carer) can understand him so he has a channel of communication.
Cognition - was told if my dad feels low, angry, upset, crying - he should be on anti depressants and the fact that he was not means he is fine (yes they said this…). Same with broken sleeping - he should be on sleeping tablets if this is the case and if he is not then he doesn’t have broken sleep.
Mobility - was told if my dad is allowed to make his own decision to get up and go to the toilet without permission then he is mobile. He is mobile if he can use a handrail to pull himself up from bed.
Nutrition - was told why we were feeding my dad puréed food if a dietician has not said to do this (waiting since October 22 for a referral).
There was so much more but I wanted to give you an idea of how far removed these professionals are. Whilst I understand the need for medical evidence in the terms of medication to support an unpredictable and serious disease, after the assessment I felt like a failure, failure that I haven’t done right by dad and he should be on sleeping mediation and anti depressants and subject to choking, hospitalised etc. But I strongly disagreed with them saying we should have medical advise on things like his feeding, mobility etc as if I take on board what they say my dad wouldn’t even be here today let alone 6 months ago! Was told if the dietician, OT, SLT whom we have been waiting for since October 2022 have not come to seen dad then it is not as serious- they said if anything was a worry they would have seen him as an urgency.
It seemed like any decisions we made without medical input was questionable- despite going on and on about it is important they are in place for protection and stop any serious dangers happening even up to resulting to death! Social worker backed me up as much as she could but agreed if no medication or professional input he can’t be rated ‘high’ or ‘severe’.
Sad that you have to allow the absolute worse to happen and compromise your loved one here for them to understand this awful disease.
Anyway I hope my experience helps someone so that was my aim to share and also whinge!