We cared for my father for a year and finally couldn’t give him the 24/7 care he needed, oh sorry he is 70 and we believe he is in the stage 2/3 with constant falls, wheelchair bound, just started having accidents in his bed, very down and has started smashing things up in the care home and says he wants to end his life.. I feel terrible for putting him in there and every time I visit he says it is horrible and just wants to come home. He has only been in there for 6 weeks now and 4 during lockdown which has been tough on all of us. My brother was the designate visitor during that time, I managed to see him on Sunday and it was very upsetting he seemed like he had aged 10 years, kind of stared pass me and didn’t really have any concentration. He was slumped in his wheel chair and kept bumping around into things and even though I tried to have a conversation and tell him what has been going on he had no interest. I left there very unhappy and thought terrible of myself for putting him in there. I really don’t feel confident that even though they said they were happy with him and can deal with him they can’t. Any way today we had an email wanting us to go in for a urgent family meeting about the damage he is causing and his Heath. Not sure what the outcome will be but just wanted to know if anyone else has been through similar and tried the care home path?
Thanks is in advance for any help.