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A special birthday

Hi, it's S's son birthday in a couple of days. So invited him, his wife and S's grandson for dinner tonight. I don't know if I did right, but decided S should buy him something special. Certainly, if S is still alive this time next year, he won't be at home or in any fit state to recognise anything.

I made certain S knew exactly what was happening and why, including, this may be the last time. Good as gold, he grap his son's hand and kissed it. Wrote on his board that he loved him. All told it went to plan. We bought him a Apple Watch, which he had asked for vouchers toward, so was completely overawed.

The poor lad is suffering, can't cope at all with his father's illness, which OK, drives me insane, but I hope, oh God, I hope, tonight MAY have woken him up a bit.

Lots of love

Heady

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Hey Heady, yes you've done the right thing, young people have to see the truth and, unfortunately, sometimes learn the hard way. It will be a day/evening for you all to remember, no matter what, which is great, we all need good memories. What s did was really special and will make a lovely memory, hope you took some photos. Love jinglesx

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Nope!!! Forgot entirely. Never was the photographer in our house.

Lots of love

Heady

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Aww heady it's so hard, not everyone can cope and they just find it easier to deny hide and keep away! Trust me, we all know at least one person like this!! I don't get it either and it infuriates me but I suppose we can't all be the same....

Re today it "may" have sunk it, it may not, who knows

Try not too worry too much, you've got plenty else to worry about!!

Big hugs x

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only one person mate satt2015 mate

peter jones q.l.d. australia

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Thanks.

Lots of love

Heady

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Living in denial...that" my parent is going to die" is so difficult. My daughter cannot handle it my two sons are doing famously. I am so glad that dad got to be with his son in a conscious effort to show him his love. Good job Heady! They are both so lucky to have you!

AVB

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Heady polish your halo twice tonight!! I hope for both you and S, his son has had a wake up call, and I hope everyone appreciated your efforts today

Love

Debbie xxxxx

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🛫🐷🐷🐷🐷🐷🛬

Lots of love

Heady

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Oh Heady I love you, you are always ready to give advice, you did the right thing, so happy it went well, and S got to tell his son he loves him, hope S son realises that his dad is still there, just this hateful PSP takes everything away. Lovely present for his birthday, he is a lucky boy, to have you there taking care of his dad, fighting S corner all the time, as Debbie says, polish your halo, you are an inspiration to us all. 🎉🎉🎉🎉

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Thanks Yvonne. How's George this morning? AND have you made some phone calls about how you are coping?

Lots of love

Heady

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I hope that his son realised just what is going on with his Dad's and your lives, you just need them to understand don't you! Do you think it will make much difference to his contact and support, let's hope so. My two sons are very different in how they cope, one is more realistic and able to face things and the other almost pretends that nothing is happening but both love their Dad. So hard for them and us for different reasons.

Fingers crossed that his son can face up to things and give the support you both need and you to him.

Take care Heady

Love Kate xxx

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Well done, Heady! You are brilliant. Truly. I hope your efforts pay off, for everyone's sake, but whatever happens, you will have done the right thing.

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Well done heady. It was the right decision for all of you. Hard work but a memory made for keeping. Marie

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Good Plan Heady and happy Birthday S

It gives S's son a chance to say and do before it is too late.

Love Px

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Hi P, it's S's son birthday, not his.

Sorry, I am being meaning to write to you, it was lovely meeting you the other week. Thank you for your very kind offer to come and look after S, for a couple of hours. What would be really nice, is to meet up for coffee sometime. As soon as you are up to it, give me a shout.

Lots of love

Heady

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I will do that Hope to have last chemo beginning Dec

So pleased to have seen you at Long Ashton

Speak soon Love to you both Phuzz STILL BALD BUT LAST TIME CAME BACK EBEN WORSE FUZZ no justice in this world xx

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My uncles hair grew back straight after his chemo!

Lots of love

Heady

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Heady, you are amazing! X

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Well done, Heady. I hope it pays off but you've done what you can.

They are so lucky to have you.

Big hug from Jean x

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Everyone has said it Heady! You did the right thing and deserve a huge hug! ((((((HUG)))))

Marie x

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I completely understand, I too see my MIL's family not know how to deal with her illness. You did the right thing, my husband is finding it very hard to see his mom like this but what hurts hiim the most is his inability to help her.

I hope this day left you all with incredible memories for all.

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Hi Heady, like others said, you definitely did the right thing - a lovely memory to look back on for all. I do so hope S's son takes on board what you and S have been going through and he can find the strength to support you both.

I think all families must have 1 who cannot deal with the situation. W's sister said she wouldn't be down to see him when he was staying with our daughter while I was in Australia because she doesn't like driving, but she can still drive to the same town to see her other brother. This did not go down well with me at all.

Love to you and S

Nanny857 xx

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