Hi all, had an early scan today and unfortunately have lost the baby......

I have to go back on Wednesday for a second blood test to double check my hormone levels. I asked today if I could keep the scan pictures but was told they were needed for notes. Will I be able to have them on Wednesday and does anyone know what happens next with a miscarriage!?

[Blue321]

Hi EmBee, Firstly, I am sorry for your loss. As for what happens next, well, you go back into the care of your GP and you start again. It is terribly sad and shocking to experience miscarriage and knowing that it is common for women to have one in the first trimester often provides no comfort at all. Making a baby is a complicated thing for the body to do and sometimes it needs more than one go. The NHS will not normally investigate early miscarriage, unless it is recurrent, i.e. you have had more than two in a row. But you know you can get pregnant, which is more than half of the solution! GPs are often very understanding, reassuring and informative. If you feel you need more support, then there are some charities that help. The two I know are the Miscarriage Association and Hope's Place. Hope you feel better soon xx.

[Skyblueboston]

So sorry to hear this, I hope you get lots of support. Take care xx

[bethimagic]

I am sorry for your loss. As regards for what happens next I had a blood test to confirm, was offered counselling and then went to my g.p who reassured me that 1st trimester miscarriage is very common, something like 1/4 women experience them, but I guess the most important thing is to deal with it in your own way, try again when you feel ok, and everything will work out

[4242]

hi, I'm very sorry for your loss, its a terrible thing to go through. Have you already passed your baby/pregnancy? If not hopefully your hospital will give you options on how to manage it.

I had a mmc at 12 weeks last year. I had concerns early on but was told by my midwife it was probably all ok. I went for a private scan where they confirmed what we suspected. I went home not really knowing what to do and having no idea what would happen next. About 5 days later i started to miscarry and unfortunately it was quite bad for me- i ended up going to hospital in an ambulance after losing a lot of blood and being in a lot of pain. In hindsight i should of gone to my gp or epu as soon as i found out but i thought it was something i could deal with at home.

I think a lot of people can miscarry at home safely with perphaps only minor pain relief needed, but if your worried don't hesitate at all to go to the GP or hospital A & E. I was worried and scared i would get turned away or treated unkindly - this was not the case at all, and they were very kind and sympathetic.

the other reader(blue321) is right, being told its very common doesn't really comfort you much at the time but please know you are not alone and i hope you gets lots of support during this difficult time. take care, best wishes x

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4242 yes I passed baby last night and seemed to have still been passing this morning, I was in excruciating pain. It seems to have dies down now. Thank you for all of your kind words and support its been a great help. Just want to get hold of the scan picture tomorrow so we can hold on to it. Thanks again everyone x

[minime61]

Oh EmBee I am so so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage can end up such a 'floaty' loss because you haven't got much to 'show for it', I wish I had asked for my scan pictures too. I prob still could if I did a record request...but you know how you put these things off. They should still be attached to your notes when you go for your next appointment. Be very firm and say that if you can't have the actual scan then you would like a photocopy. It makes me so cross that they said no to you - I hoped things had improved since it happened to me in 2008. I also suggest to anyone who's had a miscarriage to make a little box or envelope of things to remind you of your baby ...a list of names you might have chosen, pictures or actual clothes you would have liked to have bought them, a toy or picture of a toy. Good luck - perhaps ring the miscarriage association for advice on how to get your scan photos x

[Kaleidoscope]

Oh EmBee... I am so very very sorry for your loss. x

[Louise87]

Ow so sorry 2 here that x