10 month old still not sleeping at nights

[Walker1992]

can anyone help or have any tips on how to get my 10month old to sleep at nights shes been like this for the last 5months up and down 6 or 7 times a night sometimes to the point she is wide awake for hour and with being back at work finding it a little hard to do my job she wont go back over unless we cuddle her in.

[Cinderella5]

Hey, sorry you're having such a nightmare. I've had some sleep issues recently myself which left me exhausted.🤯 Its hard going and I started taking him in beside me which want really doing me any favours as I was waking with backache cricked neck etc. I'm still working on getting things sorted out but I've been doing the magic presence method which does seem to be improving things. It does require a bit of hard work and perseverance at first but I'm seeing things get better. Does your little one go down ok? Are they napping during the day? Are you still feeding during the night?xxx

[Walker1992 in reply to Cinderella5]

she has a 2hr nap in the morning and then half an hr in the afternoon. she normally goes down fine but the past few nights have been awful. no she has no through the night feeds anymore.

i've tried putting her in with me it helps a little but not alot.

i'm at a loss and dont know what else to do and my health visitor is zero help. xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Walker1992]

Lots of ladies on here suggested to me that it was just a phase and to try to ride it out. My best friend who has 3 kids also tried to reassure me that it's a phase and phases generally last two weeks. My little one was learning to stand so it's a big developmental phase. However I felt things were escalating badly and I was suffering with lack of sleep. I managed to get a couple of hours on the nights I brought him in with me but at the same time i felt i was going to create a bad habit and my little one isnt daft! So I tried sitting by his cot everytime he woke up. Naps weren't an issue, only at night. It is working and I haven't had to take him out of their room since then. Its tiring and a bit depressing but maybe it's worth a shot. Oh and it might be worth not letting her sleep so long in the morning....I know all babies are different so you'll know best. This is the page for what I've been talking about although I dont use a chair, I just sit on the floor. Hugs, I sympathise.

sleepingchildsaneparent.com...

[Seb9]

The only thing I found with my first was to co sleep with them, so I got enough rest to function, she didn't go in her own bed till about 16 months when she used to only wake up once or twice. Now I'm co sleeping with the 7 months old and normally woken up by the 2.5 year old any time between 5 and 7 !! Then she's up and ready to play 🥱🥱

[Llizzie]

Hi - passing on some tips from a maternity nurse we used recently, (sorry if they’re something you’ve tried, my LO is only two months, so they may be very obvious to you): - wear their cot sheets or sleep on them so they pick up your smell. The nurse suggested using them as pillowcases, I tend to shove them up my top during the day but they need a fair amount of time against you.

- she recommended the no cry sleeping solution - a book/audio book, I’ve not gotten to it yet

- reduce stimulation in the evenings - quiet voices, low lights, no playing.

- don’t pick them up straight away. I’m not talking cry it out but rather to see if they can settle themselves.

- if they need soothing, try to do that in the cot rather than immediately picking up. A head stroke, a hand on the tummy, a shush or a bit of singing.

-have you tried changing their sleep bag to see if she’s cold?

- sleep associations - don’t create more cruxes that will be tricky to remove but create a routine that will start sending signals - mine are either a bath or a walk, head strokes and singing.

We had a lot of overtired behaviour with wake windows of up to 3-4 hours which were far too long for his age and then meant he took ages to go to sleep and just snacked on sleep. I think the culprit was my husband finishing work and wanting to play! Keeping things calmer in the evening seems to have helped a bit.

Hope you get some sleep soon - it’s a special kind of torture xx

[Twiglet2]

Things that worked for us (ours sleeps through but sometimes of teething or working in a new skill can wake a few times)

-no milk to fall asleep (naps or bedtime) bottle downstairs and then up to bed awake

-white noise on ALL night (has to be on when they fall asleep and when they stir to work apparently)

-don’t go in to their room when they wake for at least the first 3 mins to see if they can self soothe. The longer you can leave them the better I’ve found as it’s like I reset him when I go in sometimes in his trying to get to sleep routine but obviously if he’s proper crying it’s hard not to go in

- when we go in to the room don’t lift them or talk to them just sing a song or shhhh them then leave when not crying or just winging (you will know the difference between the I need you cry and I’m tired and don’t really want to be awake cry)

-black out blinds (we found recently on holiday not having these meant a 5am stir as it started to get light)

-sometimes we give a toy to help him self soothe (a rattle or teether type sometimes one with lights cos they are in the dark) then remove when they are asleep, we usually only do this if we are still up when they wake

It’s really few and far between he wakes now if ever (about to be 1) but we keep the same routine every time and dont lift him out of his cot when he cries. It was hard for the first week not to just lift him but absolutely amazing in the longer run that he can just soothe himself back to sleep now chatting away 🤗 (and rolling everywhere 🙈)

Hopefully passes for you soon xx