Anxiety through 1st pregnancy

[Tthomas96]

So I have had my 1st scan this week and at the time I was so happy that I completely forgot about all my worries about this baby. I’m now 13 weeks pregnant and all the worries have come back to haunt me, I just want to know constantly that they baby is okay. Everyone around me is so happy and excited, they are all looking at buying things for the baby and I want to be able to enjoy this just as much as them but I can’t help to think that if i start buying things for the baby then something bad will happen. Has anybody else gone through this or am I the only one?

[destiny121]

I totally understand and the worry is contstantly there. I’m a bit superstitious o I only brought things once I had my 20 week scan and I told my mum and family to hold off until I reached the 20 week.... your baby your decision so if you want family to lay off a little bit then explain how you feel and I’m sure they’re understand xx

[kt_11]

I know exactly how you feel. I found that the reassurance of a scan would last a week or two and then I’d be back to feeling anxious again.

I didn’t really tell that many people until later on and I didn’t buy anything until well after 20 weeks.

Hope you are able to relax a bit soon but do speak to your midwife if you feel he anxiety is getting too much for you xx

[Cjaythom]

Firstly congratulations! Speak to midwife, even for just piece of mind. Do you have any yoga classes or something near you? They will help. I’m on on baby no two and week 29 and I still get a little anxious. Even with the now 7 year old! Your growing to be a mum as mums we worry. Enjoy the 2nd trimester make the most of the little extra energy you might have.

[Kitcat12]

Yep! All the way through at every stage I have worried. Somebody told me that worrying isn't going to change the outcome and this has helped me to accept that what will be will be, however I still phone the assessment unit if I have concerns and they've been brilliant at reassuring me and have monitored me really closely. I hope all continues to go well with your pregnancy x

[BethJ7]

I felt the same (still do). I wish there was a button you could press to stop all the worrying. I’ve had to make a real effort to be positive because I felt that it was tarnishing my pregnancy experience but it’s still difficult. My Dad turned very superstitious (very unlike him!!) and asked that I didn’t buy anything until I was past 20 weeks so totally get it. I got a couple of outfits before hand just because I couldn’t help myself but glad I waited to after 20 weeks to buy anything significant I.e cot, pram, changing table.

[KCLou]

Yep, I’m exactly the same, I’m almost 12 weeks now.

I’ve had several private and hospital scans already to put my mind at rest but I worry the same after a few days. It’s awful but I just keep reminding myself that what will be will be, and my worrying isn’t going to help anything x