Struggling to conceive 2years

[Jenruk]

Hi

Looking for some advice and guidance.

I have a little boy I conceived naturally. But I have been trying for 2years now to get pregnant again. Had a miscarriage at 6weeks in March 2018 and nothing since. I’ve been to my doctors for help, and basically been told, due to having a child that there isn’t much help for me as I have shown I can conceive and carry a baby. My confusion is so why aren’t I getting pregnant again. We use the ovulation tests every month, we’re both taking the vitamin tablets and even using conceive plus lubrication. But nothing. Im becoming depressed of simply no help or knowing why. I’m 34yrs old so know time is against me.

Can there be something wrong or changed since I had my last child? And should I keep at my doctor to refer me?

Any help would be a grate help please.

Xx

[Kempton]

Not sure if you will find my comment helpful but my partner and I had to have ivf to conceive our first, after years of trying naturally, tracking my cycle and using ovulation tests.

I got pregnant the first month of really trying for my second (naturally) and the biggest difference we noted was that we didn't focus on the fertile window but just tried consistently throughout the month. Maybe forget about the ovulation tests for a bit and just try all month?

Best of luck. Hope it happens soon.

[Lou9]

I would definitely insist that your GP refers you for further investigation. My sister had difficulty conceiving her second child and it took her over 2 years. She went to her GP who initially requested some ovulation blood tests and then referred her to the infertility clinic for further testing. She was entitled to 3 rounds of IUI on the NHS but, long story short, she conceived naturally and now has another child. Secondary infertility is so upsetting and stressful (I saw what my sister went through), don’t let your GP fob you off. Good luck with everything. X

[Jenruk in reply to Lou9]

Thank you, that’s so reassuring to me, and yep will push the doctors xx

[Arya10]

Definitely push your doctor to refer you to the fertility clinic as secondary infertility should be looked into.

If you want something to try whilst you wait (as it can be months/years of waiting), I’d recommend seeing an acupuncturist (make sure they are traditional Chinese medicine trained, not western). They will look at your cycle, your hormones and how your body is functioning and will make tweaks to help any imbalances. Could just be something gone out of wack after your first baby.

We TTC our first for nearly 3 years, fertility clinic couldn’t find anything wrong with us, we were due for IVF later this year but fell naturally for the first time ever in April after a few months of acupuncture. She improved my cycle and hormonal balance amongst other things and I’m convinced that’s what worked in the end. Good luck xx

[Lou9 in reply to Arya10]

I second this. I had acupuncture before and during my IVF treatment, I’ll never know for sure if it was this which helped make my treatment a success but I really believe it did - it certainly kept me calm. My sister also had acupuncture and she believes it is what helped her too as it was the only change she made! X

[Arya10 in reply to Lou9]

I’m sure we both made other changes that helped but defo think there’s a lot in the acupuncture. It’s amazing - so great to hear it helped you through IVF and helped your sister. I’m still getting it now, at 15 weeks pregnant to support the baby. It’s one of the only things you can still get treatment wise in first trimester, helps to feel like you’re doing something positive 🙂

[Mumof3xx]

I would try and keep pushing your GP to get more test done. I was told when my second son was 6 i may not be able to have more children due to scar tissue on my ovaries and now nearly 4 year later our third baby is 6months old.

Ive seen comments about IVF but i think all areas must be different for requierments as im in the North east of England and my friend has tried for 6 year to have a child she has PCOS and due to her partner having 2 from a previous relationship she has been told if she wants IVF they have to pay for it as although she didnt give birth to his kids they said they technically have kids and the IVF on the NHS is to help people who don't have any which i disagree with but thats a different topic.

I would say dont put too much pressure on yourself to conceive we did that and i think it made things harder as your tense, i cried every month when it didnt happen. We actually gave up trying as i was slipping back in to depression and with that stress gone i feel pregnant that month.

Good luck and i really hope you get your little bundle of joy soon x

[Rachwex]

Hi Jenruk,

I’m sorry to hear about your difficulties.. the only thing I can think of is , the more you think and stress over it , the harder it gets to conceive. I know that’s rubbish advice “stop thinking about it and it will happen” but it’s what I’ve seen work with my friends and family. Take on a little project of something to try distract yourself , forget about ovulation tests and dates...again, I know it’s far more easier said than done xxx