Anyone else in early stages after BFP?

[Arya10]

Hi folks, looking for people in a similar position who might want to chat privately (using the DM function on here) for support?

People who understand the long journey of TTC - we’d be trying for almost 3 years with no positives and were waiting for IVF. I’m 5 weeks +2 and haven’t told anyone other than DH and my acupuncturist, so would be good to make some friends to talk to.

Feel like I’ve done a lonely hearts column 😳 lol.

[Purpledazzle27]

Hi, I’m not in the same situation as you but I had successful IVF and know how terrifying pregnancy after such a long emotional journey can be and the fear of it all going wrong. You are more than welcome to message me anytime. I found the wait between BFP and the 7 week scan to be the very worst bit. X

[Arya10 in reply to Purpledazzle27]

Thank you, that is so kind and congrats on your successful IVF, that’s fantastic!

We don’t get 7 week scans here, I’ve to wait until 12 weeks 😐

I might just take you up on that xx

[Purpledazzle27 in reply to Arya10]

With IVF they do a scan at 7 weeks to make sure the pregnancy is viable and in the right place etc. If I hadn’t of had it I would definitely have paid for a private one as I was a complete neurotic mess with it all. Wishing you all the best. You will find a lot of support in this group. I didn’t post much but found just reading through other posts really helpful xxx

[Arya10 in reply to Purpledazzle27]

Oh of course, sorry I did know that about the scan with IVF! I was thinking of looking into a private scan actually, maybe I’ll do some investigation. Thanks

[Zoe2619]

Hi Arya,

I am in a similar situation, been trying for 2yrs and waiting for ivf referral. Found out we are pregnant 3 weeks ago. I am driving myself mad with worrying that something is going to go wrong, feels too good to be true. Happy to chat if you fancy! I have told parents but not the Dr yet, feel like I'm jinxing it! X

[Arya10 in reply to Zoe2619]

Hey Zoe, congrats on your BFP! It’s such a strange feeling after so long isn’t it! I feel the same about worry and too good to be true. We haven’t told parents but I’ve booked in with midwife and scan (only because where I live you have to book early). I’ll message you xx

[Mitt45]

Hi. Not in the same situation but I am currently 23+6 with our fourth and final attempt at ivf, total of 8 year journey. I was terrified in the beginning, didn't help that I was so sick with HG until 16 weeks and still on sickness pills now. What your feeling is normal. I had to give myself a talking to on many many occasions as I was driving myself round the bend with worry.

We never told anyone apart from our mums and bosses as I was off sick for almost 3 months and hubby had to come home from work often as I literally couldnt function. I didn't tell some of my closest friends until I was 17 weeks. Essentially u dont have to announce anything to anyone if you dont want to.

I dont know if hearing some of my journey helps or not, but know that u are not alone, I'm still worried and I have accepted that I will worry all the way throughout the pregnancy and then when shes born I'll worry about other stuff!

Feel free to DM if u like, its defo good to get the worries oit ur head.

Take care x