12 week scan

[GM99]

Hi All, Sorry this is going to be a bit of a long post! Just wanted to say a massive thank you to everyone posting on here!

I’ve been so unbelievably anxious since I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of September so I haven’t actually posted anything (apart from the odd reply to things that had happened to me!) and reading all the posts and replies on here has been part of what has kept me going and kept me sane! I’ve felt really lonely because I didn’t want to tell my friends or family about my pregnancy until the scan- other than my boss as I’ve been very poorly with sickness. Luckily that seems to be on the way out now as I’ve stopped losing weight, I’m keeping food and drink down now and I am only sick on a morning. I have been irrationally anxious and nervous about going for my 12 week scan and I also got an appointment to see the consultant at the same time and this was never explained to me. I was convinced that they were going to find something wrong, that there was no heartbeat or there was a reason why I’d been asked to see the consultant. My scan was yesterday, after a long wait (my appointment was 40mins delayed and I arrived early!) I automatically burst into tears when they played me the heartbeat. I instantly felt my spirits rise. The scan was a bit of a nightmare as little one wouldn’t play ball and get into the right position to be measured, so I had to move around a lot and even had to jog on the spot! It was hilarious watching him/ her move around in my tummy and eventually they got in the right position and everything looked normal so that was a huge relief! The appointment with the consultant was more of a general chat about how things were going and there seemed to be no concerns at this moment in time about anything. Hopefully I can feel a bit more relaxed now, but I was wondering does anyone have any tips about how to stay calm and relaxed? I’m generally a worrier but it has been a million times worse since finding out I was pregnant! xxxxx

[ALLY81]

Congratulations on your scsn it is such a relief isnt it when you hear and see everything is ok !! sorry don really really have any tips on keeping calm im a worrier too!! I just take each day as it comes and try and kerp busy and trust everything is going well in there with the baby just taking time out to breathe is always good ( sounds mental i know !! ) just 5 mins in quiet usually in my case in the bathroom !!! Or having small things to look forward to helps

Glad you're feeling better and hopefully turned a corner and can keep food and drink down this alone should hopefully make things better for you xxx

[GM99 in reply to ALLY81]

Ah it was such a relief!! Already feel more positive but just worried I’ll feel anxious again soon! Good advice about having things to look forward to and taking some time out- I have a busy time at work at the minute so that’s keeping me distracted but looking forward to planning stuff over Christmas xxx

[Hidden]

Congratulations! It’s such a relief when you get to the 12 week scan. I’ve got no tips unfortunately as I’m a nightmare for worrying and it didn’t stop for me. I found the wait to the 20 week scan agonising so we booked one privately at 16 weeks as we wanted to know the gender as well.

I really hope you can relax soon as I wished I had more during the pregnancy xx

[GM99 in reply to Hidden]

Bless you! Would you recommend having a private scan? I looked into it to try and ease some worries in the lead up to the 12 week scan but never got around to booking one. But definitely want to know the gender as soon as I can so thinking that could be a good thing to do! xxx

[Hidden in reply to GM99]

I would definitely recommend just because they were so lovely and the one we went to you can take up to five people (I think). So my dad and sister came. We also had one at 30 weeks and took other family members. We also bought key rings and a heart beat bear which was nice. There is no way I could of waited until 20 weeks even if I didn’t want to know the gender xx

[GM99 in reply to Hidden]

That sounds amazing! Will definitely look into it- thanks so much! xx

[Masha111]

Huge congratulations GM99. Glad to hear your sickness levels have gone down. Hopefully you will feel your best as your approaching the second trimester. You may be able to enjoy your pregnancy now....or at least try to. Try and make some time for yourself to relax and enjoy being with close friends and family. Perhaps confide in them now if you havent already done so. You are slightly ahead of me i have my scan 12 week scan next week and im looking to seeing baby again. I get so emotional. Take the positivity from this scan and the happy moments forwards. Think the worst is behind you now and tell yourself your baby wants you to be happy and everything will be ok. If you dont console yourself who will. I know its easier said than done but being happy can only be a good thing for your little one hey? Good luck with the pregnancy and birth x

[GM99 in reply to Masha111]

Ah thank you so much for the lovely comment! Definitely feeling more relaxed and excited to tell friends and family over the next few weeks- trying to tell as many in person as possible to increase the excitement! Massive good luck with your scan, it is a hugely emotional timewill be sending you positive vibes!! Let us know how you get on! Xxx

[Masha111 in reply to GM99]

Thank you. Will do. X

[MrsH007]

I could have written this post too! I had my scan last week at 13+4 and it was magical. Anxiety returned this week for 20 week scan. Think mine comes from the fact I did IVF. Enjoy the relief! 🙏🏻❤️

[GM99]

You’re right- it really is such a relief! Sorry to hear your anxiety has returned though, that’s what I worry about for me! Will keep everything crossed that your 20 week scan goes well too- keep us updated! xxx

[Emma_79]

Hi, I think anxiety is normal. I was terrible in lead up to 12wk scan convinced something was wrong, and when they heard the heartbeat said ‘is it normal?!’ Ha! I then had the gender scan at 16wks, amazing for £59 highly recommend. And since then I’ve become anxious again waiting for 20wk scan! But last night I felt her kick ❤️❤️❤️❤️ so this has made me feel so much better. I think movement will be great reassurance for you. There’s nothing after 20wks so I’ve booked a 4D at 28 weeks so I can see her again!

[GM99 in reply to Emma_79]

Ah think I definitely need to get booked in for a gender scan- I’m 13 weeks now so would mean less time to wait for a scan before the 20 scan and hopefully would continue to keep me calm! Bet it was magical feeling her kick- can’t wait to feel that! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!! xx

[Emma_79 in reply to GM99]

I highly recommend it, much better pics than the 12wk scan, all in digital format too, also got a free peek at 4D and I ended up buying that photo as it was really good. The 2 kicks were amazing! Good luck too, try to relax, I know it’s hard x

[nct18]

Hi I was a worries at first as I am 39 , I did find pregnancy yoga was really good it helped with breathing techniques etc. Also a relaxing CD in your car when going to appointments. Stay calm xxx

[GM99 in reply to nct18]

That sounds fab- where did you find the pregnancy yoga? Might give it a google and see if there’s any near me as fancy giving that a go! xx

[lou121087]

Oh wow congratulations! It's amazing to see them moving on the screen. Hopefully now you can relax and enjoy the pregnancy xx

[GM99 in reply to lou121087]

It really is so special! Thanks lovely xx

[nct18]

I found one at a church hall in Hinckley it was amazing really helped me, good luck with the relaxing xxx