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[Betty4893]

Hi all,

I had a missed miscarriage 18 months ago, and last week found out I was pregnant again. I have an appointment on Friday with the midwife, so will be speaking to her about my concerns, but I don’t know how to feel.

I want to be excited, but I know how it made me feel last time, after I got my hopes up. My partner feels exactly the same as me. I’m obviously hoping all goes well. My last period was 14th June 2018, which would make me around 9 weeks, but knowing I’ve got to wait for another 3 weeks for my scan is making me so worried.

Any advice would be much appreciated 😀

[Hidden]

You could pay for a private scan if you think you cannot wait for the nhs one - we paid for a private one (around £100) and it gave great reassurance as we were going on holiday and I wanted to make sure all was ok before then.

Then the time felt shorter to the Nuchal scan at 12 weeks....

xxx

[Betty4893 in reply to Hidden]

This is a really good idea. I think I’ll speak to the midwife when I go on Friday, and maybe book one in. 3 weeks seems like a lifetime away.

Thanks xxx

[Hidden in reply to Betty4893]

I think if you weigh up the cost and the amount of stress relief it can potentially give it might be worth it.

We were delighted and were able to enjoy our holiday once we knew everything was on track.

Of course we still had to wait for our NHS Nuchal / Dating scan but we were not as stressed as we would have been going in without the knowledge that the original scan showed everything was normal with a heartbeat etc.

Especially after what you went through before - just to put your mind at ease.

xxx

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I’ve mc twice now the 1st was a blighted ovum found at 12w and I’ve just had another on 28th July It was found at my 12w scan I passed it at nearly 13w it was measuring 9w. So for me an early scan for my 2nd would have gave me false hope. So if I get preg I really don’t kno what would be best to do and the midwife was not really helpful at my last booking in just that they don’t do tests til after 3 mc was her reply. So I understand your situation and how hard it is to be excited.

[Betty4893 in reply to Hidden]

Ahh no! It’s so upsetting isn’t it. And the fact they can’t do anything until after your 3rd is heartbreaking. I’m in the same position. I measured at 9wk last time, so an early scan would show a heartbeat, which may be worse, as id get my hopes up even more then.

It’s 3 weeks to wait, which is normal terms isn’t long at all, but when it’s something like this, it seems like a lifetime.

My heart goes out to you xxx

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Well Betty I wish you all the luck With your pregnancy and hope you don’t feel too anxious at the scan xx sending love & hugs

[Sisi14]

Hi Hun well congratulations first of all on becoming pregnant, I too suffered a missed miscarriage of twins 12 months ago and found out when I was 13 weeks it was awful and a rollercoaster of emotions.

I knew I wanted another baby but thought can I do it and what if this happens etc ! I am now 5 months pregnant on Friday I started trying again a month after my surgery ! Every day is a worrying day , I still check the tissue every time I go to the toilet, I keep asking myself why do I feel ok like I’m not pregnant too it’s been a nervous 5 months and I don’t think it will disappear if I’m honest ! When I had my 12 week scan I told my midwife I was going to close my eyes and if all seemed well to tap me and my partner. I have my other scan next week and will probably do the same. I am a nervous wreck but also so very grateful for being pregnant and been able to carry my angel twins for so long too. I do feel very blessed and hopefully I’ll be able to relax more, I’ve not bought anything yet either for baby til I have my scan.

My moto to myself is just take each day as it comes enjoy each day as much as possible and look after yourself rest when needed.

I know my private scan place by me only charges £55 for an early scan and £39 for additional ones. Just research some in your area. Good luck Hun and all the best xxx

[Betty4893 in reply to Sisi14]

Thank you for your words. It really does mean so much. I can loterallh relate to everything you have said.

I’m praying all goes well at the 12 week scan xxx

[Sisi14]

I will say a prayer for you both but I’m sure your be ok my lovely and get your rainbow 🌈 baby xx