Any advice ?

[Isabella1999]

Hi Everyone,

I need some advice. Back in august I found out that I was pregnant(Yay😍) and my partners cousin also found out she was pregnant! I was a few more weeks ahead of her. Anyway, yesterday I found out that she lost her baby in an accident. My heart broke into a millions pieces. Now I feel so alone and lost, I feel like I've lost my best friend, someone who understood me and how I was feeling and what was going through my head. My heart breaks for her and I didn't realise how much it has affected me as well. I feel guilty that I get to have my baby and she doesn't. I don't know what to do, I can't help but cry all the time or feel a pang in my chest. My parter said I could always talk to him or his mother or sister but I just don't feel like it is the same. I need some advice on how to help her but also how to cope with losing someone who I was close with😔

Thank you. X

[Major2116]

First of all, congratulations!

I can't help much from your perspective but I have been in your partner's cousins position. We had our first miscarriage in December. We found out we were pregnant again in April, my partners cousin was also pregnant at the time and was due in September, I would of been due in the December. Our baby in the sky wanted a brother or sister and we lost our second baby.

I was absolutely heartbroken and in a mess. Not once did I ever resent my partner's cousin the fact she has a healthy pregnancy but i did end up distancing myself from her because I found it hard. After a short while she messaged asking how I was n we got talking. She had also miscarried previously and I explained exactly how I felt that obviously I was so happy for her but I was struggling. She had her baby reveal which was very hard but she was so understanding and we became close again. She had just had a gorgeous baby girl and I'm due in April next year with our rainbow 😁!

My point Is, let her know you're there for her. Maybe give her a bit of time to grieve if she doesn't turn to you straight away and try again. Once she starts opening up a little, embrace it and explain how you feel too.

Hope everything goes okay x

[Isabella1999 in reply to Major2116]

Thank you, I'm so sorry for you loss. That's when I'm due too! And congratulations on your rainbow baby ❤️❤️

[Major2116 in reply to Isabella1999]

Hope it helps! Thanks hun 😁! When in April are you due? X

[Isabella1999 in reply to Major2116]

Around April 22nd xxx

[Major2116 in reply to Isabella1999]

Awww 😁! We're due 5th. It'll fly by!

All the best to you and your partner's cousin xx

[Isabella1999 in reply to Major2116]

And you too! Wishing you a smooth pregnancy xx

[emmab178]

My friend also distanced herself from me when I announced as she had a horrible missed miscarriage where the d&c didn’t work ended up with infections and it damaging her uterus etc.

I just stayed away till she was ready. I don’t think would have ever been ready however they get pregnant again and she’s 3 months behind me and now we are in full communication like nothing happened. Very strange but I just respected her wishes whilst feeling awful.