I don't know if I can cope alone and am so sick already

[Mumatforty]

Hi Everyone. I'm 40 and have just found out that I'm 7 weeks pregnant. I'm a single mum to a 12 year old and have no family at all. The father doesn't want to know and I just don't know if I could cope with it all again. I'm so sick already and can't fasten my trousers.

[michellejeffers]

Aww bless you. Have you been to see your midwife yet for your booking in appointment? They are so helpful and will be able to talk through all of your options with you and point you in the right direction of organisations/people that you can talk too so that you do not feel alone x

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U are the only one that can make that decision. .. things have a way of working out what ever u decide. .. not easy esp as u haven't got family. . What about friends? And I'm sure ur 12 year old will be a help to u.... plenty pizzas in the oven dinners to make it easy for u it's very hard at the best of times but it's do able what ever u decide I wish u all the best x

[BubbaG]

Hi there,

I am just 40 and my LO is 11 Weeks old, I am a single mum. I broke up with the baby's dad when I was 7 months pregnant (very long story) It is a personal choice as to weather or not you feel strong enough or able to go ahead with your pregnancy especially when you feel so alone.

But if your looking for some positive stories then I think I am one. Although I am currently on Maternity leave (aint got a clue how I even go back to work at the minute) Having my baby girl was the best thing I did. Yes it is hard for me, like you I don't have family support and even though babies dad provides for her, he only sees her for a couple of hours every week or so.

I think that because I know I am on my own I just get on with it. I have to right?

I would not change it for the world and I am glad I had her. I hope you will be ok, You are on the right site to get advice and support.

Good Luck xx

[lyracat]

Dear Mumatforty, so sorry to hear about your situation. If your sickness is bad, you can get help from your GP, although a lot of GPs are pretty useless. You can contact the charity Pregnancy Sickness Support pregnancysicknesssupport.or... for advice about what antiemetic treatments you can have and how to get help if your GP is rubbish. They also offer one to one support from a volunteer who has suffered severe pregnancy sickness herself and knows how you feel, and there is an online forum of women in a similar predicament. It can be difficult to separate out your feelings about the baby and other relationships when you feel so ill, so treatment for the sickness might help to deal with the other issues, just apart from the fact that it'll help you to cope day to day. I've been in a similar situation with a partner who wasn't interested and very very sick with no other friends or family to help. I really feel for you.