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[Blue_Hawaii]

Hi everyone, just want to ask

Over the last year,I have lost the person I used to be, happy go lucky, most of the time I will have a smile for everyone,even though I was not feeling my best

Just had a hip replace all went well,I upset they I woke up from the hop.

I've lost my spirit,I'm always angery

Taking out on my lovely husband

Does anyone else feel that way

X blue Hawaii

[SpaghettiBetty]

Sending you hugs Blue_Hawaii ❤️

I know what you mean, there have been times when I’ve felt so broken spirited about my health, especially when facing what seems like an endless amount of setbacks. I’m sure your husband will understand, we often take things out on those who are closest to us I know I’ve been guilty of this too. I’m sure if the shoe was on the other foot you’d be understanding so please go easy on yourself.

When things get tough I’ve found that taking things each day at a time really does help.

Always know you can chat to us on here and that we understand. Getting things off your chest and talking about them will hopefully help xx

[Blue_Hawaii in reply to SpaghettiBetty]

Thank you X

[Happyretired]

I’m so sorry to hear that you are feeling so low. It’s probably early days since surgery so give yourself time to recover and don’t be hard on yourself. Life has been difficult for everyone over the last few months and it’s doubly hard when you have health issues to cope with. I’m sure your family understand as you would if the boot on other foot. Please believe things will get better and be kind to yourself. Xx

[Blue_Hawaii in reply to Happyretired]

Thank you

[endo3]

Dear Blue_Hawaii, it sounds like you have been thro so much health wise and it is early days in your recovery relatively speaking. I’m sure lockdown and all the restrictions have not helped. I have at times felt very isolated due to shielding and now it feels life is returning to a bit more normality for some but this almost can make me notice life is not returning in quite the same way for me. I have tried to tell my family how I feel so they don’t have to guess. I have asked for help. It has helped me and helped them know what I need. I am sure your husband understands. He knows this is not who you normally are. Be kind to yourself and know it will get better.

[Blue_Hawaii in reply to endo3]

Thank you X

[jude-the-obscure Community Pioneer in reply to Blue_Hawaii]

Hello , Jude here. A hip replacement is major surgery. No wonder you feel so down. Please try to be kind to yourself and treat yourself with kid gloves! It will be some time before you feel strong again. Just do as Betty says and take one day at a time. Can you sit out in a shady spot sometimes when its warm and just let the world go by? Tell your GP how you are feeling too and go on asking for help. You deserve all the encouragement and care that is available.

You have been through such a lot. No wonder you feel angry!

So glad you have this outlet for your feelings. I have been thee too! Endless patience with other people but not with myself!!!

Love and best wishes 💕

[Blue_Hawaii in reply to jude-the-obscure]

Thank you X

[jude-the-obscure Community Pioneer]

I have been there too! Sorry for missed r in the word!

[Greeny85]

Sorry to hear your feeling this way, I felt really angry after my urostomy surgery, I think I felt life was unfair so I withdrew from my family and friends and also took things out on my husband. But over time things improved and my husband pushed me to socialize and get out when I could and it did help. I know it may not seem like it now but things will get easier, use this platform to talk and share how your feeling as that helps, sending hugs x

[Blue_Hawaii in reply to Greeny85]

Thank you X