what a freaking awesome saying!!!
all credit to ... GD MF - i can't friggin do a f'g mention!!??!? omg this ticks me off!!!!!
all credit to luna_child
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Fear does not stop death, it stops life!
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talk about stupid - i gotta reply to my own post - just to insert a mention!!!!
absolutely amazing saying!!
all credit to: Hidden
Fear is actually the strongest emotion we have I'm just on marnies post if you fancy cheering up xx
agree w/ soo much you have to say... but your reply seems to imply you intend to take the post down at some point...
why not leave it up indefinitely? i think some people might read, but not participate by replying... tho still may benefit just by seeing how others reply...
is that what happened? was there an update that messed things up?
I have always been terrified of death since I was taken to see my mother in her coffin aged three, I still have that memory.Now when I once stopped breathing, thanks asthma, and it was so peaceful it stopped the terror
wow - amazing story.... that's what i call facing your fear!!
BrentWArtist
I was diagnosed with stage IV metastatic, incurable prostate cancer in 2004. For the first few years I was petrified. How long did I have to live? How painful would it get?
Once it became clear that I was not going to die immediately, I threw myself into life. I have had an amazing time. I cannot say there have not been days of self-pity and tears, but on the whole I have managed to squeeze out a positive experience.
Would life have been so positive without the cancer, without the fear? I will never know, that being an uncontrolled experiment. Am I grateful for the cancer -- hell no, that would be a ridiculous thing to say. But I am glad for the life I've had so far. Long may it continue in this positive way.
brent - ty so much for sharing!
everything you said makes PERFECT sense - and frankly - i don't think there's anything wrong with saying 'grateful for the cancer'.
i know MANY survivors - and almost all of them use similar language.
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cancer is some nasty 'sh*t' - and some varieties are cruel . but those that are survivable (ie: remission OR able to live with) - often provide a value add to the perception and value to life.
I dont fear death itself but at 78 years old, I do feel something ... apprehension maybe .. my muscle pain which was just an ache, now gets severe at times but I am surprised how 'tolerable'it is. Getting old [past 70] does give rise to thoughts of how I will die and whenever my husband falls asleep I dread that some day he wont wake. He feels the same about me but I would rather choose to die than live life without meaning. We have both signed 'do not resucitate' documents and given to our sons. We also have cannisters in fridge with ICE details and sign on front door. I doubt that all emergency workers know about this.
Hello PatsyIpswich
I think most people have some worry about dying. I am 73 and know full well that no one lives forever. I have also been a care taker for older relatives and many were in great pain and loneness to the point I felt there passing was a blessing for them. I have had 3 relatives who did not survive longer than 3 months in a nursing home. Blessings.
hi patsy -
i think it's beyond wonderful that your husband and you have thought about; talked about; and even documented a plan so everyone knows what your desires are!!! this is SO important for your loved ones....
NOTHING could be harder for your loved ones - than to have to make life and death decisions when they don't know your wishes!!!!!
this is why it's so import to talk about these things!!!!
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as far as i know - EMT's are all supposed to look for DNR orders - on bracelet, necklace, AND on fridge !! at least i think so here in the states.... i'm not 100% sure tho....
I am torn between being glad I am in my 60's and time is starting to run out, and being terrified of dying. I have realised it's not death itself that worries me but rather dying slowly and painfully over many years without having access to an out.
Old age ain't for sissies that's for sure!
hypercat -
omg - another button of mine!!!
we're able to euthanize our pets - humanely, with dignity, without pain... we get to say our goodbyes. it's a beautiful thing!!!
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but humans - that so many people elevate above animals (not me) - humans are forced to die in the most horrifying and undignified ways - without any options - except for a few states now.... i hope this changes, and more states "see the light" and allow for legal exit plans...
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not sure how things are on your side of the pond... i know there are countries near you that allow for human euthanasia... but dunno how the UK deals w/ that....
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so for most people - if you want a dignified way to go, to avoid a long and painful end - you have to plan and execute on your own. and for most people... that's probably not such a good idea....
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it just sucks to be human!!!
Sure does but life is all we have so no choice.
that's what I thought in my 60's when my sister died of ovarian cancer at 67 qne me 18 months younger but.. here I am 78 and have spent those years viewing National Trust properties, a short cruise and holiday in Cornwall. I have really enjoyed it. As long as I can get around and take care of myself, I dont mind. x
That's fine when you are fit enough. But what happens when we no longer are?
yep - i've been noticing that many things are messed up; lots for formatting problems; display problems....
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typical - push out an update, no beta-testing; and let the users suffer thru all the problems and be their free beta testers....
hate this kind of sloppiness!!!
I tell myself it will be so gradual a deterioration, I wont notice too much. It has been very gradual so far and I have made adjustment, finding ways to do things safely .. also of course giving up some things but I concentrate on what I can do.
So why would you take down a chance for people to express their sadness or fear or any combination of feelings as long as it is respectful but honest. Where else can we go to speak our grief over all this?
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