How low can you go?/Who was that person last week?

[Singr]

Just a note to say thank you for all of those who gave me support when my mind and spirit were taking a dive last week detailed in my (too lengthy for some) outpour.

It just shows you what a demon this condition is or is it the medication. Yes my heartbreak circumstances are no different but I feel a lot stronger this week. I also had an appointment with psychological services (pilot project looking at the psychological effects of long term conditions/illnesses). I managed to settle my thoughts and I realise that I was justified in raising my concerns but did not deserve what I got in return. Even the psychologist was raising an eyebrow at some of the behaviours of the "friend". It was the last session but she very kindly put in another one just to see me through this. In short. If we cant discuss it and he can't deal with helping with the boundaries because he is frightened of her reaction either way there is only a frought future for me and I have to look after my health. Incidentally he is taking the cowards way out. No contact. Will be waiting for me to do the dirty work and calling up to find out what is happening as he can't face dealing with things.

Thanks to all. I feel much better this week.

If like me you are having very dark thoughts do reach out. I found it hard to reach out to my family as they don't understand the impact of this condition. I am so glad I was put on the pilot project. It was right on time. Most of all I thank all of you who responded. each positive message was like a wee rung on the ladder to help me climb out of a very dark, deep hole.

Upwards and onwards. Will we place a bet on how long it takes to get in touch with me to discuss or get closure? He still needs his key back. But I'm not hanging about. I'm trying to get cheap flights to visit friends in Spain. I find this a really good way to put things in perspective. Not to mention the benefits of sunshine, heat and the ocean.

I wish you all the best xx

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Well Done & a positive step forward Singr, l personally didn’t get chance to support you last week, three days of Nana Duty but l did read your post & noted you had lots of support.

Hope you get that flight & get away. The warm weather will do you good.

Kind Regards

MrsN

[PMRpro Ambassador]

That's what we're here for - to help get things in perspective. Whatever it is. Because it all relates in some way to our life with PMR/GCA.

[YuliK in reply to PMRpro]

PMRpro, Great reply. 👍👍👍👍

[GOOD_GRIEF]

Stop wondering what he's doing. Stop wondering how he's reacting. Put the key in an envelope without a note. Block his phone and email and FB and any other contact ability. If something comes in the mail, write " return to Sender" on the envelope.

It's all done and dusted. You know everything you need to know.

You're moving on to your next great adventure!

[Singr in reply to GOOD_GRIEF]

It’s not quite as simple as that. I have property I need to get back too. But it can wait for just now.

[GOOD_GRIEF in reply to Singr]

It's only stuff. You can always get more stuff.

And even if not, what's more important, the stuff or your health?

If you really must have the stuff, make a list and have a lawyer write a demand letter setting a date and time at which a representative will pick it up. That could be a friend or relative, or could just be the FedEx guy. If you have things of his, they could be delivered as well.

Really, you've got to break those ties that bind. This is about you, not about him.

[Mozziebuzz]

I didn’t see your post Singr but I am very happy that you reached out to this group when you felt you had hit rock bottom last week. This group helped me through some very rough times too and I am forever grateful for the kind words of encouragement and positive ideas sent from many people.

[Singr in reply to Mozziebuzz]

Thanks it really helped.

[Thelmarina]

What a great positive post! You hung in there and got a reward. Going away is such a good idea for relaxation, fun and a chance to view things from a lovely distant perspective 😀. Your chap sounds upset and muddled and is probably not wanting to face up to the implications of what’s going on. You’re much better off with the help and understanding you’re receiving. Hope all goes well and that you continue to find strengths you didn’t even know you had- good on you! 👍😘