I only joined this community a couple of days ago and have to say am overwhelmed with the support already received. 😄 Thank you.
Reading many more posts over the last few days it is easy to see how depression can take a hold.
I am a strong believer of mind over matter, that emotional well being can influence greatly physical well being. Equally I can completely understand the need for us to indulge in 'woe is me' on the particularly bad days. However the danger could be to overindulge and allow our condition to take control over us. So in my mind 'balance' needs to be achieved to avoid depression getting a hold. Plus my Mum always advocated laughter as being the best of tonics! Certainly when I read positive and / or witty comments in posts it causes me to smile, chuckle and to feel inspired even when I am feeling a bit low.
I can see the value in having a 'to do' wish list of longer term goals so that we aim high and look forwards to the light at the end of the tunnel; but a long term wish list can also have the adverse effect of making one feel defeated and deflated if there are knock backs on the way such as when trying to decrease meds, doing well and finding yourself at square one again. This must be so demoralising and hard to pick yourself up again.
So I wondered whether there would be any value in having a post that purely focuses on celebrating the very small positives steps based on day to day living, with no negatives allowed, or long explanations.The criteria for reply posts being simply 'What I did today that I couldn't do yesterday.' There would be no compulsion for members to post written replies, instead members could opt to 'like' instead. A simple 'like' popping up on notifications would tell us that someone in our community, who is 'qualified through membership' and has some understanding of just how much this small accomplishment means to each individual, is celebrating with us.
By focusing on what I can do today that I couldn't do yesterday and,only posting a reply when today is better than yesterday in some small way, the starting point will fluctuate along with our condition but the starting point will always be lower than our celebratory point of today.
I will list a few of my today statements from the past couple of days to test the ground and perhaps get the ball rolling.
Today.....I was kind to myself. Following sound advice from DorsetLady re accepting help, taking it easy and being realistic - I arranged a cleaner to come once a month to do the bits I cannot do at the moment. Here's looking forward to having a clean house again!
Today I.......Put my t shirt on all by myself, in record time (for me) without tying myself in knots! And I put my own shoes on! How cool is that!!!!
Today I....... had the incentive and energy to take a well over due shower, gaining much approval from family members who share my space!!!!!
Today I ..... Walked up three steps pretty normally front ways, rather than side stepping conserving energy levels!
Today I ....... had another shower!! For the first time in ages, quite involuntarily and without thought, I washed my feet by bending my knee and raising my foot! I was grinning like a Cheshire Cat when I realised what was happening - so perhaps I can even count this as being able to multi- task again????????
Today I.......fully resumed my full exercise regime, a gentle walk with the dogs!!! ( Not so gentle really as I am laughing fodder for neighbours since my dogs are renowned for taking me for a walk, rather than the other way round. ) This 'exercise', whatever way round, was only possible because I can, today, bend down to pick up their poo!!!
Today I.... Drove my car down the pretty country lanes locally enjoying the sun, flowers, views and wind in my hair for a full twenty minutes! What a sense of both freedom, gratitude and enjoyment. Oh the simple pleasures of life!!!!
So my friends....let's celebrate..........Over to you......What can you do today that you couldn't do yesterday???