cancer has returned 6 months after chemo any advice on how to cope

[mrshill]

[Whippit]

I was really sorry to read this post. It's hugely disappointing when the tumours reappear earlier than you would hope for. What I would say is that there are still other options available for you which you may find work better for you.

I noticed you are in Surrey. Are you lucky enough to be in the referral area for the Royal Marsden? I am in a similar situation as you in that the tumours are growing back and I'm looking to have more chemotherapy at some point. My oncologist said you don't have to go straight back on a chemotherapy regime so she's keeping an eye on things. You can ask for a second opinion and your oncologist should be happy to refer you so at least you have two views to compare.

Hopefully the community here will also help you to cope. The friendship circle is a very strong one and certainly gives me a lot of hope and courage that I would not have if I were alone on this journey.

sending love xxxx Annie

[mrshill in reply to Whippit]

Thanks for your reply I was nervous about contacting this site but I am glad I have I need all the support I can get. I don't go to Marsden but the hospital I go to is very good. Still in shock but always positive.

[Hidden]

Hi Mrshill, that must have been a shock. Everyone hopes for a long remission. I never had remission as my disease was still there after chemo/surgery/chemo. It lay dormant for 4 1/2mths and now needs treated again. I think we just have to be grateful that there are more options out there for us to try. I felt so well at the end of my treatment last Oct that I could almost believe it would stay dormant for a long, long time.

I hope that you will be offered new treatment and that it will have a longer effect than before. We can only do one day at a time, live for today and let tomorrow look after itself.

Best wishes, Think positive, stay positive xx

Chris

[mrshill in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your reply, they are going to wait and see what happens over the next few months and then decide what to do. I have been told they never give up and neither will I.

[Hidden]

Mrs hill, It never dawned on me that it would be back, but after 12 months I had a nasty shock... That was in jan 2009, and I'm still here after having several lots more chemo. Stay positive, and make the most of every day. We have had several nice holidays, and done special things to enjoy ourselves. At the moment we are away in our motorhome in Spain, as I finished my last lot of chemo in January this year.

There are lots of different things to be done, and medical progress is rapid, so they might yet find a cure for us all.

Keep smiling.

Love n hugs

Viv

[Whippit in reply to Hidden]

Good to hear from you Viv. Hope you're enjoying some lovely warm sunny weather. It's absolutely freezing here with parts of the country so badly affected they've lost their power. When are you planning on pottering home?

love Annie xxx

[mrshill in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your reply, please God they find a cure for us and we can have a massive party. Staying positive and healthy is the key I know ,but after a year of treatment you start to get a bit tired but still I hope I've got many years ahead. Enjoy Spain it is freezing here the heatings on full blast.

[harley in reply to Hidden]

Hi viv,

Good to hear about your motorhome trip to Spain, we recently invested in one but the weather too awful to comtemplate a few days away locally to try it all out. Hopefully over Easter hols. Nice weather puts everything into perspective.

Take care

Joanna

xx

[Hidden]

Hi Mrs Hill

I am sorry that you have this worry and hope that you can feel encouraged by the positivity of the women on this site. I notice that you live near me. I go to an Ovarian Cancer support group at the Cancer Centre in Purley and find this very helpful. We meet on the second Wednesday of every month at 6.30. You would be very welcome to join us. Please message me if you would like further details.

Best wishes

Ann

[thundering]

Hi mrshill,

I am very sorry to read your post. I am in exactly the same position - my cancer has also returned 6 months after chemo - and have no answers except that I am trying to stay cheerful, calm, continue life as normal and have hope.

God bless you,

Kathleen xxx

[nandi]

I also recurred 6 months after 1st chemo. Retreated several times since with happy breaks between each when I can live normally for a while. Stay positive and who knows what they will come up with and we may all join in that great party!!

xx

[thehusband]

Like others my wifes never actually went away after her op and 1st line chemo....she just kinda had a break from symptoms for a few months, and this kept on repeating after her 2nd, 3rd & 4th line treatments. Now we are on 5th line treatment and we already have our eyes on the 6th line ........

We are trying to treat her OC similar to say diabetes i.e you need regular treatment to keep going....i think you will find on this site many variances of treatments and outcomes, but the main thing that comes through is that there is treatments available, yes sometimes you have to stamp your feet a bit to get them, but they are out there and of course their is hope, and not just blind hope.....

So keep fighting and good luck ........whos to say that in 5 years time you might be answering a question and recalling when yours came back after 6 months etc etc...

[Zannah]

I'm just waiting for a CT scan to find out if mine is back again. I too find this site so useful and it's wonderful to see how supportive everyone is. I would echo what has already been said about taking things one day at a time. I have a plaque in my kitchen which says " Life is not waiting for the storm to pass but learning to dance in the rain". I've made it my mantra and it really works for me.

Keep smiling. Big hug

Zannah

[poleglass in reply to Zannah]

brilliant mantra Zannah! another saying is, we are not dying of cancer but living with cancer! I had my last chemo early oct. and my tumour marker up 15 so am waiting on cat scan on 19th. april . ......................Will just have to wait on results to see whats happening. I only had 4mths. remission the last time and its nearly 7mths. now. its all swings and roundabouts!

[Tricia12]

6 months! I wish!

My cancer has been zapped, I've had the big 'debulking' operation and still it hasn't given me any remission.So I was given another course of chemotherapy - still no reprieve, so now I'm on my third chemo treatment - fingers crossed. However I live in hope and have trust in my oncologist. What will be will be.

Stay positive - best wishes Pat