I'm really sorry you've had a rotten day. Hopefully I can explain why some of us welcome the new PM facility where we can reach out to a small known and trusted group of friends.
I've been an active member of this site for about 18 months. It's given me a huge amount of pleasure and I've made some really fantastic friends. I've met quite a few women and we've always had a brilliant rapport straight away. Through this site a few of us got together and we have started a support group for our local area.
Break-out groups are no more than this. Friends getting together and having a chat. I agree with you about having an entirely open group but we can't be aware of who is reading our posts, our chats, our worries? We can not possibly know who's out there. Anyone can register as a member and read our posts. This to me makes the support side of the site less effective. When I have a bad day I can't post on here, if I'm worried about something intimate I can't ask a question here. I do, however post when I'm feeling happy and confident. When I really need support I don't get it on an open group.
You're most welcome to join us. Sending you a PM too. xxx love Annie