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Can ocd give a fake sense of fear?

I’ve been feeling really weird like something is going to happen as soon as I’ve left to go to my mums, I already hate being at my mums and I just feel really unsafe and then my mind is thinking of different scenarios that could happen. I feel so alone 😐

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Yeah that’s actually pretty common with ocd.

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What sort of scenarios ? Xx you are not alone you will be amazed at what people worries are and how they vary and how so alike people's thoughts can be xxx that' what ocd is best at "fake fear" and uneccasary fear when there is no danger at all in any way shape or form xx

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Scenarios like what if a murderer comes in cuz my mum leaves the door unlocked or what if the house sets on fire cuz she smokes ive just opened up to my nan and she doesn’t believe me so I’m at a loss with it now😭

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Awww bless you this happened to me when i opened up to people, get a therapist and u can tell them anything they understand etc. Don't avoid any of your feared situations otherwise it will fuel your ocd jump into them and learn that these things arnt happening. Also don't argue with your thoughts, just say ok it's ok to have these worries, I don't like them but worrying doesn't make them more likely to happen, take a few deep breaths and try and engage in a conversation, please don't argue disagree or force them out as much as u would want to as I made this mistake and am now in a very vicious circle because I've strengthened the ocd by doing this xxxx

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Yeah I just wish I could be normal like everyone else that’s why they turn there nose up at it because they don’t know what it’s really like I think people make fun of it to much because they don’t know what it’s like xxxx

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It is very good at making you feel uneasy. The feeling comes from inside your head, though not liking being at your mum's possibly fuels it. That's OCD for you! Try not to overthink. It's hard, I know. But OCD likes to rehearse all kinds of silly scenarios in your head. Go against it as much as you can, but don't push yourself harder than you can bear, distract yourself as much as possible. Part of the problem is that you now associate going to your mum's with fear, and that triggers the fear whenever you set off. It's like a sort of vicious loop in your brain. It means trying to teach your brain that nothing happens when you go against the OCD, which is painful but actually works. I know how it is to feel alone. Hope this helps.

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Yeah I’ll try but I’ve just opened up to my nan about my ocd and she doesn’t believe me she said that if I had ocd I wouldn’t be talking about it . I give up now it puts me off telling anyone else cuz they won’t believe me I’m so done with everything now what’s the point

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That is so cruel of her. If nobody talks about OCD then ignorance like hers will just continue. Do let people know whenever you feel you can, as not everybody reacts like that. I've had panic attacks and total strangers have come up to me and helped me, and some have said they have them too. Is there anyone else in your family you can open up to, who could explain it to your nan and anyone else who doesn't understand? I really feel for you. It's a lonely place to be. Please make an appointment with your doctor. No need to tell anyone else. Then perhaps your doctor could talk to your family and explain it.

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She said it not old enough I want to tell my step mum and dad and I think my dad would understand because he was like it and still is a bit with germs I’m just afraid of the same reaction

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Of course you are going to be nervous about telling your dad and step mum, but if your dad has a bit of it he is much more likely to understand. It really makes a difference to have your family backing you up. People can get OCD at any age. I can only wish I could do more for you. It is horrible suffering like that, alone. Do let us know how you get on. x x x

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Yeah I will and thank you for everything I think I would be a lot worse if I didn’t have somebody to open up to whenever I’m down xxx

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Post here whenever you feel like it. I'm always happy to listen and other people are too. x x x

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You are always so encouraging Sallyskins! I love reading your posts. Thank you.

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That is really kind of you to say that! I have had OCD for many years so I know how difficult it can be. I don't like for anyone else to have to put up with it, so am always happy to do anything I can to help.

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Oh Maisie bless you, could you show your Nan this forum as it will give her a better understanding of how OCD can affect anyone of any age religion etc etc.

Good luck xx

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Thank you i might give it a weak just so she can think about what I’ve told her xx

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It's not fake fear, it's real. It's just not rational, but no less real for it!

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