What I have got, not what I haven’t got!

[jane1976]

Hi all, I got the dreaded letter today! Even though I was expecting it, it was still upsetting to read it! I haven’t been on this site for awhile as my husband Lionel passed away. I got shingles, still have the neuralgia pain! I then fell, dislocated my shoulder & broke a bone down from my shoulder. But, I’m lucky as I have family nearby, already missing hugs! I have a garden. I also have Dylan the villain a rescue dog, a chihuahua, at first perhaps he was my insanity, but we’ve been together nearly a year & we’re good, he’s now my sanity, very much so! It amuses me that my husband of 42 years would have said about Dylan “Call that a dog, it’s more like a rat on a lead!” He would have still spoilt him though! Basically, I’m trying to be grateful for all that I have & not be ungrateful for what I haven’t got! Stay safe everyone. Love Jane xx

[allanah]

What a time, you should write a book, a horror story

[Kerensa21]

That’s such a positive post Jane after the hard times you’ve been through. Glad you’ve got family near & were kind enough to rescue Dylan! We do love our dogs on here it seems: mine’s a naughty JRT & I miss walking him, out with family member for a trot at mo. Take care, stay safe 😊

[springcross]

My heart goes out to you Jane. What a nightmare of a time you've had. The one blessing that you have got though is Dylan the Villain - I love that name (you have good humour) and also that you have family nearby. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband - were the shingles because of the stress of your loss? How are you coping with the Covid-19 fallout. Take care. xx

[jane1976 in reply to springcross]

Hi, yes I think the shingles was due to stress! Even though I got antiviral within the 3 days of rash appearing, the doctor said it was bad luck that I ended up with the neuralgia pain!

It’s such a scary time for all of us this corona virus, unprecedented times!!

Thank you for your reply! Xx

[Stowe]

Oh Jane, I really do feel for you, stay safe, it's good that you have your dog, dogs are such therapies. Xxx

[Mmrr]

Stay strong

[Pippy25]

I had a little wobble (cry) last week when my GP in a telephone consultation told me and I think on your receiving the letter no doubt the reality hit home. Again you are missing your husband and it is so hard, I finished some bereavement counselling a few weeks ago as I was a carer to both my parents and lost both of them over a few years (dad six months ago) and now after decades of putting others first, I was starting to get out and starting to do things in the community and was planning new ventures as I love the outdoors which now has been brought to a halt and now I am isolated again, so I do hear what you say. I'm glad to hear you have family near by and hope it wont be too long before you and they can share lots of hugs. It sounds like Dylan the villain is quite a character and is keeping you entertained no doubt with his antics. Thank you for posting again, I think it's a strange time for us all and you are right about being grateful and right now take each day as it comes and make the most of it. Keep strong and stay safe. x

[KellyInTexas in reply to Pippy25]

I’m off to google Dylan!

I’m in a little village in Texas! ( google Hunt!)

[KellyInTexas in reply to Pippy25]

Nope, I got that wrong- I thought Dylan was her village!

[jane1976 in reply to Pippy25]

Hi, so sorry to hear of your loss! Yes, like me you were finding your feet in the world before this virus. Here’s hoping we can resume what we’ve started soon! Take care xx

[Pippy25 in reply to jane1976]

Thank you and you look after yourself and Mr. Dylan the Villain too! x

[Ruth12345]

Think you are amazing. My sister s husband died in Jan and she is like you amazing in a time when family just want to hug you but cant.

Take care. 🌈

[jane1976 in reply to Ruth12345]

I think there’s something in us all that makes us want to survive at different levels perhaps? I can empathise with your sister & her loss. We must try & stay strong. Some days we will feel stronger than other days, that’s ok . Xx

[Ruth12345 in reply to jane1976]

Take care.

[Pippy25 in reply to Ruth12345]

It's so sad but we know that those hugs to come will be so precious and cherished x

[medway-lady]

Glad the dog is such a character and so sorry for your loss. It sounds like Dillan is very good company and at this time it must be lovely to have him to hug.

[KellyInTexas]

Well Jane. It does take a village! An e- village!

Funnily enough, I misread- thought you lived in a village called Dylan. ( Wales... possibly? )

I thought- right! I’ll google Dylan - you can google Hunt Texas- my small town- an English or Welch person would definitely call it a small village.

Then I realized my mistake- Dylan the villain ... a chihuahua?

But really- he’s your village right now after all!

Perhaps now is the time to learn ... Spanish!!!! Great apps! (😄Olé! )

[Lyndy]

I also have a Dylan the villain! He is a cockerpoo and enjoys stealing... sox mostly! xx

[jane1976]

Hi, that’s so strange, my Dylan takes my socks too!! Lol xx